Journey of Pregnancy after Infertility and/or Miscarriage – Part 7

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 841
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

soontobemrs1011 :  Sounds like you had a lovely shower!! I’m so jealous you are still sleeping on your stomach!!! That is SO not happening around here. LOL. I did maternity pics with my son and am doing them again this time. I just wore solid colours and jeans. I’ve seen a lot of beautiful dresses though! I may wear one maternity dress I have but I’m undecided yet.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

bellarose606 :   Dreaming13 :   catmom17 :   YogaMama :  Thanks so much, ladies, It’s nice to know it’s not just me. I know many women go through so much more/worse than I did, but it’s so hard to trust my body to do this.

I do feel like it’s getting better. We visited a lot of family out of town over the weekend and their excitement kind of helped. That and the fact that it was the last trip Darling Husband and I will take together without a baby. It’s definitely feeling more “real”–I just wish all the fear would go away. Oh well, taking it day by day.

Relatedly, I reached 23 weeks yesterday! Wahoo for viability! Somehow, that fact helps. (Though I certainly want this little babe to keep cooking a LOT longer.)

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Okay bees, I need some advice from any of you who might have been in a similar situation. I’ve been to the hospital twice in the last two days for contractions and decreased movement, and they discovered I’m 1cm dilated already. Also increased thick/shiny CM, lower back pain, and menstrual like cramping. The contractions are irregular so they sent me home and told me not to worry about the dilation, but I just feel so off. I’m trying to trust that doctors know what they’re talking about, but I could use some good stories from others who have had early dilation. 

DrunkInLove :  Yay 23 weeks! I’ve been counting down the days until 24 (Saturday!) because that’s when I can have fetal monotoring and the fFN if I keep having these symptoms. 

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Sugar bee

DrunkInLove :  Yeah, it’s amazing how hitting 23 weeks is another huge sigh of relief. I wasn’t expecting that, but I definitely relaxed after. Now every day is much easier, but keep cooking babies!

catmom17 :  I don’t have any advice but wanted to say you’re in my thoughts and prayers. I was in the ER last week for crazy intense abdominal pain. They couldn’t figure out why, they did a full ultrasound of my organs and of baby, and it appeared to be okay. Kind of freaky they couldn’t figure it out with all the modern medicine… Hoping Saturday comes very quickly for you and very uneventfully! What is fFN?

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

MsPlucky :  Thank you! It is so freaky when there is no explanation for something. I hope you don’t experience that pain again! I’m trying to tell myself that most of my worry right now is probably just stemming from my anxiety that my body is going to mess this up somehow, and not from the fact that something is actually wrong. The fFN is a swab to test for protein to see if labor might have started…I’d never heard of it until yesterday. But apparently 24 weeks is the earliest it can be accurate.

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Sugar bee

catmom17 :  Can you take time off work and have a very relaxing, quiet, stress free week? The anxiety must be at an all time high, if I could help relieve it, I would! Have they giving you signs to watch for? 

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

catmom17 :  I’m sorry! That’s scary. If you’re dilating, would they do a cerclage? I’ve heard you can get one as late as 24 weeks. I know some women with early dilation who didn’t do cerclage but started progesterone shot or suppositories to calm the uterus. I’m on the shots to prevent preterm labor right now. 

Sorry ive been so Mia! 26+4 for me. Doing okay here. Glucose test in a week 🙂

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

@MsPlucky: It really is! Thank you 🙂 I’m a PhD student, so while I can’t really stop going to class I can spend most of my time on the couch reading, which is super helpful. I’m trying to take it easy and relax as possible. I had to go to a different doctor today and had more contractions while I was standing/walking, so it’s modified bed rest for me this week.

@FreckledFox: Thank you! Right now they don’t seem concerned with the dilation, said 1cm was “basically closed.” But they didn’t check for cervical length, and there’s no reason I should be any less than completely closed, so I’m still worried about it. I think I might ask about progesterone support especially if I’m still having these symptoms in a week. I’m glad you’re doing okay, and I hope you GTT is uneventful.

Post # 849
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hi Ladies, I just got my bfp this morning on our first month ttc for baby #2. Baby #1 took us a year and a half of trying and an early miscarriage (they called it a chemical pregnancy but I was devestated and that description never felt right. Anyway goes this line seem too faint for 13 dpo? Part of me is trying to chant I am pregnant today and leave it at that and the other part is like OMG it’s faint I’m going to miscarry again. What do you ladies think am I right to brace myself because the line is too light or is it my anxiety from what happened before? 

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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Sugar bee

happybunny :  Seems like a good line for 13 DPO. Can take another test in a day or two and see how the progression goes. 

Congratulations!

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

happybunny :  loss makes us more scared of everything! That’s a good line! It looks like mine at 12dpo. I would take another test in a day or two for comparison and maybe get some bloodwork if they’ll allow? HCG numbers mean more than lines!

Post # 854
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Busy bee

happybunny :  I agree that it’s a good line for 13dpo. Mine was about the same at that time for this pregnancy. With my mc pregnancy the line was much lighter.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Alright girls….  I’m back!  Trying to embrace this pregnancy. 

Roll Call!

Weeks pregnant/due date: 5 weeks today, edd July 13th

Pregnancy journey: Oh, god.  Here it goes.  It took us 12 or 12 cycles to conceive my son, including an early MC and 2 confirmed chemicals.  We started TTC for #2 around Christmas last year  after 4 cycles and another chemical, I was pregnant again.  At 11 weeks, I found out there was no longer a baby, and promptly miscarried the day after.  I took the summer off from TTC to try and enjoy myself a little and allow myself to heal a bit. This was my second TTC cycle since my MMC in June.  

Next appt/test/ultrasound: none- I found out my GP isn’t doing OB anymore and now I have to find a new doctor.  It’s probably best I see an actual OB, but I hate having to take my chance with a new doctor.  

Anything you’re struggling with?  What helps you?: I’m struggling with connecting to this pregnancy and with it feeling right.  There are differences with this pregnancy, and with my successful one with my son.  So, to me, that is a bad thing.  Snuggling and hugs from my son help me.  He is such a sweetie.  

Share a pic of anything (BFP, ultrasound, pet, funny gif):  

Bonus Question – What are you most looking forward to about Christmas this year?:  I think this group was created like a year ago, so it’s funny we are back to Christmas again. I’m looking forward to putting up Christmas decorations and to lights. I think it will be fun since this Christmas my son will have toddler eyes instead of being an infant. I can’t wait for him to see and experience everything. I am NOT looking forward to fake drinking. We don’t plan to tell family and friends till we are in the clear. My second trimester starts right after the new year. 

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