(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 5

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Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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KatieBklyn:  Thanks, it’s good to hear another perspective. I guess I find things hit me harder now. Getting AF month after month is just bloody hard and finding out my sister was pregnant has hit me so hard. It’s like I can’t handle things as well now. And I also get really stressed worrying she will MC too!! Agh, it’s like I’m trying to find things to stress about!! 

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4littlekitties:  I can’t even imagine. When I had a chemical (even though I knew very quickly) I couldn’t believe how much it affected me. By the way, I went to a wonderful counsellor and she really helped me to put things into perspective and gave me ways of dealing with things. It helps most of the time. Only problem again is it’s really expensive! 

Don’t know if I could do that beef broth!! Mine told me to avoid sugar supplements. Seems obvious but I love diet coke! I don’t blame you for lapsing the past month!

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Alright! Up and at em this glorious CD F’ing 2. Time to go celebrate at my SIL’s baby shower!! The one we would have had together if my baby hadn’t died. I can’t wait!!! My mom actually bought a cutsie “auntie Loves Me” onesie for me to give (in addition to the $500 montrosity I already bought) I’m guessing because she thinks I’m jealous and wouldn’t have thought to do something thoughtful myself. Other than buy the most expensive thing on the registry, help set up, and pay for the shower. Jealous. <br />Is that even accurate? There really is no term with the correct meaning of these feelings is there? Probably because it is unique to women. So in Jeopary speak it would be, Answer: To feel happy for someone and simultaneously reminded of a desperate, aching, emptiness in your own heart to the extent that avoidance presents itself as the best escape. I don’t think there is a word for that, but I hate that the default is jealous.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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GrannyPantiesRock:  Wow you are incredibly strong to do this. No matter how it turns out, you have already handled it better than I would. I will be thinking about you. 

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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GrannyPantiesRock:  You’re a better woman than I am! Fair play to you. And I agree with 4littlekitties about leaving early… Like 5 minutes after you arrive!!!

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4littlekitties:  That made me lol!! He told me to choose coke over diet coke alright!! That pregnancy weight is set to stay!!!

Post # 21
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Newbee

Adding myself to the group:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): MC last week

MC History: This was my first MC and first pregnancy

Issues (if any): I’m 35 year old… not that old, but not that young either

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Try to minimize stress… other than that don’t know what else to do

Link to chart: don’t have one

What are your biggest challenges right now? Trying to stay positive

Current coping strategies/favourite inspirational quotes: Weddingbee!

 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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hellodahlia:  I’m so sorry about your recent MC. I’m delighted you’re here though, as this and other threads here are a great support. Whatever I can do, I’m here. I’m 35 too. It’s an age where you have a bit of time but not that much. I just wanna get going and have my baby already!

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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bouncybee: I rememBer when you got pregnant.  I can’t even imagine what you are going through right now. I’m so sorry.

I can imagine that those groups are a great support. I’d love to join one if I could x

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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hellodahlia:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this. How are you feeling today?

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Have any of you guys been having some unexplained pain after your miscarriage? I’ve been feeling some sharp pains in my bladder/uterus area recently. I know it’s not ovulation pain, because it’s right in the center of my body and I always feel ovulation pains off to one side, and the timing makes no sense for it to be regular menstrual cramps. (I’m still pre-ovulation this cycle, so couldn’t even be implantation cramps.) I’ve been feeling it on and off for a few months now, but it’s getting worse today. Is this normal post-pregnancy stuff or should I give the doctor a call?

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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KatieBklyn:  I haven’t experienced pains like that yet. Every time I call the drs office, they tell me things are whacky for a few months after MC.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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4littlekitties:  I managed. There was absolutely no way of making a cameo appearance since I was pretty much co-hosting with my mom. I just put one foot in front of the other and did all the stuff that you have to do at a shower like hand out the gifts and whatnot. Only had one person inquire when I would start trying myself. Held someone else’s baby and was told it would be good practice for when I was an aunt.  I don’t think anyone suspected anything was wrong. I held it together pretty well…. at least until my drive home.

AF has been a real bugger the past 2 days. It’s my second period since the MC and it’s nothing like the last one, which was extremely light. There’s lots of clots and other “debris.” I don’t even know what to think about it. I’ve actually googled “retained pregnancy after MC” and found plenty of stories of women completing a MC months later despite ovulating and having AF…. most of whom also had their Hcg drop at a glacial pace. But seriously… it’s been 4 months! I’m so disgusted with everything right now… my body and my doctor being at the top of that list.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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GrannyPantiesRock:  You are super amazing and tough for getting through that. Holding someone’s baby as practice for being an aunt… I honestly wouldn’t have been able to do that. Sucks about AF… Hopefully it’s just getting everything out and leaving a good surface for the next baby to snuggle up in. My first period after the MC was pretty regular… Crampy but a regular flow… But the second one was a deluge. Like, bleeding on the bathroom floor at work, tsunami-level flow. I think it’s pretty normal, albeit unnerving. 

So I’m about to head into – or possibly already am in – my fertile window, and trying to have sex has been disastrous. In my brother’s last “attempt to cheer me up” inadvertently-hurtful advice soliloquy, he was like “at least you guys get to have fun trying!” And I was like, “oy, fun is literally the last word I would use to describe this.” And it’s so frustrating not knowing when I’m even going to ovulate… It used to be CD 14 or 15 like clockwork, and now I have no idea. Argh. 

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