(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 5

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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MrsBananas:  Thank you for your support! I hope you are feeling well. I also don’t think you killed the thread. I appreciated reading your post because I thought I would mc naturally. Anyone who does I’ll appreciate your story.

AFM- my surgery yesterday went ok. One of my nurses tried to start the IV on my hand and my veins wouldn’t have it so she had to take it out and start it in my forearm. That hurt like a bitch! My wrist and arm were throbbing until I went back for surgery. The surgery part went ok. I had to have the tube in my throat during it to make sure I would keep breathing under anethsia. So I have the side effect of a bad sore throat yesterday and today. The anethsia went well. I had some anti-nausea meds put in as well as the actual pain killer and meds to knock me out. The bad part was that I bled more than anyone expected. So the actual surgery lasted an hour and a half, instead of the 10-15 minutes it “typically” takes. My husband and mom were super worried that I was back there so long. So after I was coming out of anesthesia, I was constantly asking for my DH, according to what I was told. So the doctors brought DH back even though I was suppose to be alone in recovery. Guess I’m bossy even when pumped full of drugs lol! I had the side effects of extreme shivering and weeping from the anethsia. Because of the blood loss, I was placed on an IV for 5 1/2 hours after surgery. So it wasn’t a quick process for me. I could only have water, juice,  and vegetable broth while in the hospital. So I was in pain, starving, and grumpy. After I finished my IV I was allowed to go home. I had a prescription for an antibiotic because of the blood loss and for safety reasons, and I have my hydrocodone from last week. I’m doing ok so far though.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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MrsNebraska:  I’m glad to hear your surgery was okay! The blood loss sounds scary, but it seems like you’re recovering from it well. I hope you have a really speedy recovery!

So I met my baby nephew today, and it was really wonderful. I had been so afraid that I would freak out once he was here because my original due date is in six more days and I thought he’d just remind me so much of the baby that I lost…. And turns out, that’s not the case. Holding him, I didn’t see the “what could have been” of our little guy in heaven… Just the awesomeness of my little nephew. 

On the way home tonight, I picked up a pack of pregnancy tests and decided I was finally ready to face the answer. I’m 11 dpo today and I just wanted to hold out hope as long as I could before meeting the little guy so I wouldn’t have to be mid-pity party on a day that should be all about him. I just took the test an hour ago, and it was clearly positive.

I’m a little scared, but really hopeful. And I could not, could not have survived the last six months without the support on this thread. I don’t want to get too Oscars acceptance speech on here, but I really want to say how much everyone’s support has meant to me. I’m going to say goodbye to this thread – hopefully for the next nine months – to respect the safe space for everyone here, but I am quietly rooting on all of you. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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KatieBklyn:  Thank you! I think recovery is going well. Just extreme headahes. And congratulations! How exciting for you. You ‘ve been supportive of me in my short time here, so I appreciate that. A happy and healthy 9 months to you!

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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KatieBklyn:  Yay I just saw your update! Massive congratulations to you I’m so so pleased for you and have everything crossed for you that this one stays sticky and arrived safely and healthy. ๐Ÿ™‚ So pleased that it arrived just before your due date to give you a ray of hope on that day. I’m dreading mine next week. Thanks so much for all your support on this board and I really hope that the rest of us can graduate from this board to join you and the rest of the recent rainbow mums really soon. Huge hugs and congrats again xx 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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MrsNebraska:  Aww, thank you! I hope I’ve been able to pay forward some of the amazing support I’ve received on this thread. There have been days where just knowing that I wasn’t alone made all the difference. I will be thinking of you and hoping that all of you guys get your rainbow babies soon, soon, soon. 

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peachcake:  Thank you so much! I’m so sorry that your due date is going to be rough. I have had so much more time to come to terms with it… I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you, since your loss was much more recent. Wishing you lots of strength and healing on that day. (And every day!) I am sending you big internet hugs and hoping that you – and everyone else on this thread – get your rainbow baby so soon! 

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Buzzing bee
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4littlekitties:  Lol! Yes, true that… ๐Ÿ˜‰ And thank you! I’m going to be stalking the hell out of you and Granny Panties, hoping for your sticky rainbow babies very very soon. 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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KatieBklyn:  I’m so happy for you! I know I’ve only been here for a short time but I’ve always been rooting for you.  Wishing you a very happy and healthy 9 months ๐Ÿ™‚

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Buzzing bee
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MrsNebraska:  Wow, I’m really sorry to hear your procedure was not as smooth as it should have been.  That must have been really scary for you.  I hope you heal quickly, take it easy on yourself. 

peachcake:  I can’t imagine what your going through with your due date coming up and I’m sure it’s going to be tough.  Sending you lots of positive thoughts as you make it through. 

So I had a follow up appointment today and it looks like I’m healing normally.  I’m still spotting but it’s only been 11 days since the bleeding began.  Doc said its completely fine and said because I am not passing any clots anymore, no need for an ultrasound.  He also said we can resume ‘marital relations’ (haha) anytime now and also no need to wait to try again.  So happy to get the A-OK for that but I’m thinking I may take this month as a breather anyways and start to really try after my next period, whenever that may be. 

Yesterday I met my 2 bestfriends for a walk.  One of them just had her 1st baby a week ago and the other is 20weeks pregnant with her second.  I’m happy for the both obviously, but it seems like all they talked about was baby stuff.  I don’t want to alienate myself but find it hard to relate right now.  Ugh, this sucks.

 

 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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MrsBananas:  Thank you! My husband was at the hospital the entire time with me, and my mom was relying on his updates via text. So they were both freaking out that no one had come out after 30 minutes to update on my condition. I asked my DH when I was in recovery how long it had taken because I couldn’t read the clock without my glasses. When he told me an hour and a half because I lost a lot of blood I was very concerned. But my doctor told us twice that I did not have to keep my appointment on Saturday if I am feeling fine. So it sounds like she is confident everything will go well. I don’t think I’ll go to the appointment, why spend the money if I feel fine and she gives permission to cancel it. I’m glad your appointment went well! I am also going to wait until after my first period. My doctor said we’d likely have no issues getting pregnant right away, but it would be better if we waited a cycle or two. Sorry about your friends. I can imagine that would be very hard. Were they aware you had a mc?

 

So is anyone else or was anyone else scared of the “first time” after mc? I am so scared it is going to hurt in a couple weeks when we do it. I didn’t really want to have sex during the early pregnancy for fear something would happen. So it has been a while in general… Anyone have any positive experiences?

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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MrsNebraska:  Glad to hear that everything healing wise seems to be going well for you.  And yes, I am still scared of our ‘first time’ post mc too.  We only dtd once when during early pregnany and that was only after finding out the pregnancy wasn’t viable.  So needless to say, we are rusty and I’m a mix of emotions just thinking about it.  But that being said, I want to work on our relationship and not only baby making (after ttc for a year, I admit it became work) so I think it’s important for us to start soon.  I think I will make an attempt this weekend ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

 

 

Post # 327
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Buzzing bee
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I’m wondering if anyone has or did temp right after thier MC?  I know that my cycle & temps will be wonky for quite some time, so I’m not putting much faith in my temps. But I’m still curious and hoping to see some normalcy soon.  It’s been 2 weeks since my first bleeding and I’ve been temping for about a week.  My temps are still higher, much like my post-O temps.  I’m just wondering when and if you saw them drop to normal pre-O temps?  Does my HCG need to get below 5 for my temp to drop?

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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MrsBananas:  For me, my HCG had to be under 5 and bleeding had to stop before my temps returned to normal pre-O temps. But be prepared for this entire first cycle after your MC to not make any sense temp-wise or fertility sign-wise. Technically, it’s not a normal cycle. Your cycle should return to “normal” after your first period following your MC cycle. (I read that on a website a bee posted a few pages back here). Many women don’t even O after a MC until after their first period. You might get fertile O-like symptoms, like me, with EWCM and higher temps but also have a low, firm, closed CP and negative OPKs. Good luck to you in this cycle of weirdness.

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Buzzing bee
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MrsNebraska:  I’m sorry to hear your surgery went that way. What should have been short and easy turned into something long and scary. I’m glad they let your DH in to be with you…I can’t imagine being alone after that.

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MrsNebraska:  I’m glad you’re ok!! How is your recovery going so far?

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MrsBananas:  I started temping 9 days after my bleeding began, and they’ve all been pre-O temps but mostly on the high-end of pre-O. It’s been 18 days now since the bleeding started and my HCG was at 22 yesterday. I know that’s pretty good but it dropped from 6,900 to 144 last week so I was hoping it would have dropped below 5. Hopefully by next week!

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