(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 5

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Post # 346
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Argh, WB just ate my HUGE post and now I’m running late for a stagette weekend ๐Ÿ™

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phoebephoebo:  Words can’t even express how sorry I am that your going through this again. You’ve been through so much and life just really is unfair. I’m thinking of you and hoping that your healing comes quickly.

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4littlekitties:  I hate that you ladies are still here. You both deserve to graduate and I hope you do soon. 

AFM, got my bloods drawn and I’m down to 130, 2  weeks post MC. Pretty happy about that as I was at 41,000 when I started dropping. Oh ya, and we DTD last night for the first time since. It was nice and i had no bleeding so that’s a relief. Happy to have crossed that bridge. 

Have a great weekend lovelies, I’ll catch up on Tuesday! 

Post # 347
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

The saddest roll call I was hoping not to do again ๐Ÿ™

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): MC cycle

MC History: Early MC @ 5 weeks- May 2014,  Early MC @ 5 weeks- Aug 2014

Issues (if any): I’m not sure, but clearly something in my body stops functioning at 5 weeks.  The good news is that we got pregnant 2 out of 3 cycles trying. The bad news is that it seems that either we’re not making viable zygotes or my body can’t handle it.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Honestly, I’m still waiting to get a real conversation with my Doc about it.  So far all I’ve had is phone calls with nurses who are telling me about bad blood tests.

What are your biggest challenges right now? Still waiting to actually miscarry this one, just dropping HCG at the moment. Also trying not to obsessively worry it’s ectopic due to some dull pains I’ve had consistenly since 3.5 weeks on the left side.  Once all this cycle stuff is through, my challenge is going to be staying positive and having faith that someday I’ll get a take-home baby.

Current coping strategies/favourite inspirational quotes: Not sure if I’ve coped yet.  I left a sandwhich shop crying today because there was a woman whose friends brought her a “you’re pregnant” gift basket.  I plan to start working out hard core once I’m over the crippling sadness.

 

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Post # 348
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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phoebephoebo:  There are no words to express how sorry I am to hear that you’re here after that rollercoaster you were on.  I can’t imagine how much harder this is after you’ve heard the heartbeat.  We are all here for you, so don’t hold back.

Post # 349
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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phoebephoebo:  So sorry to see you back here.  Wishing you a very short stay.

Post # 350
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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MrsNebraska:  I’m glad I’m not alone in being frustrated that I can’t get back in to the swing of things quickly.  After TTC for half a year I never thought about MC and how it would change things.  I guess I thought that for most it was one or the other and unfortunately I was wrong.  Its great to have support and understanding here.  

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MrsBananas:  Thank you, I am glad there is a supportive community here to join.  

Post # 351
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

4littlekitties:  Lol true, I did assume you’re productive. And we know what assuming does (in the words of my mother). I hope you have a good Monday, seeing as it is your date. I’m not sure how I’ll feel when January rolls around and my date arrives. So I don’t know what kind of advice to give. I’m just hoping you have at least something to look forward too!

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MrsBananas:  Yay for DTD! I’m glad it went well. I’m hoping after next weekend we will be good to go to do the same. Was there any pain for you?

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Andthepupmakes3:  Oh no! I’m sorry you are finding yourself back in this group.

 

Post # 352
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Blushing bee

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Andthepupmakes3
I’m so, so sorry for you both. I can’t imagine what your hearts are feeling right now and I don’t have any words to say to make it better, I just want you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you both.

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GrannyPantiesRock:  I’m so sorry. That’s my biggest fear, because I got pregnant on our first try as well, so I feel like I should get pregnant quickly again too and I desperately want that to happen.

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Spinwife:  I’m sorry you’re here, and I understand what you mean about missing TTC time. I miscarried at 10 weeks but the baby stopped growing long before that, so I just wish the MC had happened earlier so I wouldn’t have lost so much time. I’m still so sad about my baby that I lost and I still cry a lot, but I want to move on too and try again as soon as possible.

Post # 353
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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phoebephoebo:  just wanted to check in on you and see how you’re doing.  Were you able to find any moments of solace this weekend?

Post # 354
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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laceygrace:  Thanks ladies.

 

So I haven’t started bleeding yet, but HCG is almost completely out of my system.  Anyone have recommendations on how long to wait for bleeding before resorting to medical intervention?

Post # 355
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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Andthepupmakes3:  I’m so sorry that you are going through this again. 

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MrsNebraska:  Thanks, I’m happy we did it and know that we can now move on.  I didn’t have any pain that I’m associating to the MC…we just hadn’t been intimate for a while so there was some discomfort that way.  Good luck to you when you are ready to go again. 

Spinwife: I completely know what you mean about losing time TTC.  We got pregnant at the end of May (after trying for a year) and I’m only now hoping to ovulate sometime in the next few weeks again.  Waiting for things to go back to normal sucks.  Hang in there.

Post # 356
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Sorry I haven’t responded to anyone. I’m just so exhausted and frustrated. I’ve known about this since Saturday and still haven’t seen a doctor!!! I phoned A&E and they said not to come in unless I’m bleeding badly and that their scanners arent good enough to confirm A mmc.  They told me theyd need to refer me to the early pregnancy unit which is booked up until the middle of nxt week!! Ive tried to contact my own doctor (who I am private with so have to pay my own consultant fees as it’s not covered under insurance) to no avail. I’ve an appointment with her on Friday anyway and was told that I was lucky I had that!!! With my last mmc I phoned them on a Friday, they asked me to come in that morn and they did the D&C on the Saturday. That was a private hospital but it shut down in January so didn’t have it as an option. I’m really angry right now. 

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GrannyPantiesRock:  Thanks so much for all that information. It’s great that you’ve gotten the ball rolling on your testing. It’s the same here. I’m going to call my chemical an early mis so I can claim 3 MCs! I’ve done a couple of the tests already. Never thought of allergies. Is that what napro do (think they’re in the US)? It’s definitely worth looking into. Hopefully, now that you know that it’ll make all the difference. 

On a side note, I remember all the difficulties you had after your mc the last time and your reluctance to to a D&C at the time. Based on your experience and knowledge what would you choose now? I really want baby tested to see what may have caused this.

Post # 357
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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jny1179:  Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

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4littlekitties:  Thanks, it is a horrible rollercoaster. I can’t believe how horribly the insurance company is treating your mom?? What is the point in having insurance if they won’t even bloody pay? I’m really angry on your behalf. 

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MrsNebraska:  Thanks, I recognise you too. You know there really are worse things than bleeding In early pregnancy. In my last pregnancy I would have found out at the same time as you but went for an elective scan on a hunch. I know my body way too well at this point so dont know how I’ll go through another pregnancy either tbh.  Im so sorry that you had to go through that too. I found it so frustrating because people IRL don’t get it unless they’ve been there. 

Post # 358
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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MrsBananas:  Right back at you!!! It really is bloody unfair!! I hope you’re doing ok at the moment. How was your stagette?

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Spinwife:  Thank you. How are you getting on?

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Andthepupmakes3:  How are you getting on? What a horrible thing to happen twice in a few months. Would you consider testing after recurrent MCs to rule out any issues? Another girl who had recurrent early loss (4 I think) sent me a list of tests she had done if you’d like me to send it? Also, I was due to go away with friends on Sunday night and decided to go anyway and had a great time in spite of myself!!

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laceygrace:  Thank you!!

Ill have to look back to see how everyone’s doing. There are a few more here recently ๐Ÿ™

Post # 359
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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4littlekitties:  I’m sorry we’re all still here. Passing your due date is really tough.  I hope the day wasn’t too tough on you? I actually found it a relief when it was over. Less pressure! 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Andthepupmakes3:  Sorry to see you back here.  It was early so i’d wait a few weeks, if you don’t start bleeding you can talk to your doctor.  My guess is it will likely start soon.  You should talk to your doctor about progesterone testing or even just getting a supplement.  My said it can’t hurt to try it. 

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phoebephoebo:  Sorry you’re back here again.  So frustrating.  I hope you can get some answers or at least some hopeful treatments. 

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