(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 5

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Post # 541
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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laceygrace:  Good luck to you too! Always glad to see a friendly face on the POAS boards. Hopefully this is our month.

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alove31:  I had a d&c in July, but this is only, my 2nd cycle trying after it, so I dont think I’m much help either.

Post # 542
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just an update since my last post was pretty sad and I’ve gotten some lovely private messages on here to encourage me and offer support! I am so grateful for this forum. I am a little over 3 weeks out from my D&C and went to my new doctor today. I felt my old doctor was cold and not concerned about some issues/questions I had and some results DH and I got during genetic testing, as we found out we are both MTHFR carriers. We wanted a plan in place for the next pregnancy. My new doctor is FANTASTIC. She is sending us to a genetic counselor for a consultation and bloodwork. She believes I may need a higher dose of B6 as well as baby aspirin next time. She also said- get this!- she doesn’t think I have PCOS, as my doctor had previously diagnosed me years ago. So I will be doing some more testing. In the meantime, she did give us the ok to try again after my period but I think, emotionally and physically, I may decide its best to have one more rest cycle. I want a baby more than anything but I don’t want to try too soon if I’m not ready. I just hope the next month or so gives me a lot of information to proceed with another pregnancy. Thank you ladies for being so wonderful.

Post # 543
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Kay1126:  I’m so glad your new doctor is what you deserve! Your previous dr sounds incapable of properly treating patients, especially during sensitive times. And I dont blame you for not being ready. It is so difficult to start again. Hopefully you get some good info from your genetic counselor. At least now you know more than you did.

 

AFM, I’m smack dab in the middle of my FW, according to my caalculator since I dont temp. We’ll keep BDing until next week since I dont know when for sure I O. I’ve seen 2 random movies this week where the main character was pregnant or pregnancy was a theme. Someone at work randomly mentioned pregnancy today. And a FB friend announced her pregnancy today. Maybe that’s a sign of good things to come this much. I’m not one for “signs” but who knows!

Post # 544
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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MrsNebraska:  Totally agree! I don’t know what happened to her- I’ve been going to this doctor since I was 18 (28 now) and she was always great. Now she’s grumpy and not at all helpful or comforting. My husband wants to start trying ASAP but is very respectful of waiting until I’m ready. Who knows, maybe the next few weeks will change my mind. But this new doctor was so optimistic that I’m not nearly as scared as I was. Fingers crossed you get your BFP soon! I hope all of those pregnancy references are really signs of what’s to come!

Post # 545
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Kay1126:  Thank you 🙂 Hopefully your new drs can put you more at ease. I have a great doctor, and I am so happy we chose her. We only had one appt before the one we found out about the mmc at. She also did my d&c, and I feel completly comfortable with her. She is very honest, but in a kind way. I was so worried she would be mean or uncaring, but not the case. It makes the world of difference having proper care. 

 

I ordered some cheapie pregnancy tests today along with some OPKs. I am just preparing for 1. POAS and 2. If it doesn’t work this cycle I can better prepare next cycle to see when I’m actually Oing. I think we are doing a pretty damn good job this cycle with BDing, so if it doesn’t work this time I definitely want those OPKs. I am feeling more confident this cycle because I felt crampy and just off today. I am suppose to O today and I think I did! I just get that feeling, but it could be hindsight since I am tracking my cycle. Either way I am feeling happy today, so I will take that!

Post # 546
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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Kay1126:  So happy that you found a great doctor who will listen to your concerns.  Crazy how one doctor says one thing and the other says another.  It’s great that she believes you do not have PCOS and have given you some answers.  I’m glad that you are feeling better as well.

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MrsNebraska:  Hoping you get your BFP this cycle.  I hope all the announcments is a great sign for you!  I’m glad you are feeling happy.  

Post # 547
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m starting to feel better again.  I have stopped bleeding this week finally!  I thought it would never end since I decided to go natural.  I did take the pills a little over a week ago so I think that helped clear me out.  I have my first follow up next week.  Now I’m just trying to be healthy.  I’m taking a prenatal, D3, CQ10, spiralina and DHA to help with egg quality.  I think I need to add calcium too. What does B6 do?  I’m also on a diet. I’m hoping we will be able to try again around Nov 4th but I’m still a little aprehensive.   I would be awesome to be pregnant before my first EDD of Nov 20th but then again I want to make sure I’m ready.  I guess I will have to see what my doctor says.  So much to think about. 

Post # 548
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I know I’m so late to this thread, but I’ve been really emotional lately and I don’t know if it’s better to get it out or shut it up. I’ve tried both and the outcome seems to be the same. So, here goes…

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): I’m not sure how to answer this. Extended RC?

MC History: Issues (if any): I had complications during my first pregnancy. At 28 weeks baby J was born stillborn. I’ve also had a chemical pregnancy. Infertility and miscarriage runs in my family. 

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): We don’t really have an action plan just yet. I guess just trying to make it to the finish line. Finding the right OB doctor would probably be a top priority. Making sure we are mentally prepared for any obstacles.

Link to chart: It’s not that interesting at the moment.

What are your biggest challenges right now? 

Current coping strategies/favourite inspirational quotes: Being open about how I’m feeling. Reading and watching other couples stories. Trying to keep a positive attitude during our current waiting period. Also, just keeping busy in general helps. Lots of travel and DIY projects.

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Post # 549
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PetuniaPie:  Welcome 🙂 I’m sorry you’re feeling down, but you’ve come to the right place! I cannot imagine the grief that you’ve had to deal with, I’m so sorry. I hope that everything works out for you, and you can always vent here…it’s a lovely group of ladies.

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Kay1126:  Glad you have a new doctor you’re comfortable with! It’s amazing what a difference that makes. Hopefully she gets everything under control for you.

AFM, I think I may have ovulated last week for the first time since my ectopic surgery. I took a pregnancy test yesterday and it came back negative, so hopefully the HCG is out of my system and AF starts soon. I think because I was prepared for the worst from the get go, I am feeling comfortable with trying again as soon as my next cycle starts. Just so nervous it’s never going to happen or will take a really long time. So many people on this board and that have been around the POAS boards for a while are pregnant now which is so exciting and encouraging to see! Congratulations to all!

Post # 550
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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whitums:  Thank you! I had a very long post about the whole situation and my feelings a while ago, but I deleted the thread. This was the first place that I opened up and was really able to talk to other women who have been in the same position. There are only two people in my life that I can talk openly about my experience (aside from my FI) because they have been through it, too, and won’t judge. My friends have all had normal pregnancies and beautiful healthy babies. Of course I am happy for them, but if I heard, “things happen for a reason” or “at least you know you can get pregnant again” one more time… 

I wish everyone lots of love, postive energy, and sticky baby vibes!!

Post # 551
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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desertgirl:  Thank you so much for the encouragement. I hope you find peace in whatever decisions you make. I totally understand feeling apprehensive about trying again. I’m still trying to figure out what to do. DH and I have decided to take at least one more rest cycle (I think!), as I am clearly not emotionally ready and would like to find out more with my new doctor at my follow-up at the end of the month. I wish you all the best!

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whitums:  Thank you! I’m glad things seem to be progessing for you! I am finally getting negative pregnancy tests too (never thought I’d be happy about that). Good luck TTC again and you’re right- it is encouraging to see all of the graduates of this thread on here.

Post # 552
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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PetuniaPie:  I wish you the best of luck. This thread has been a lifesaver for me. I only have one friend who has been through this, and she now has 2 healthy children, which gives me hope. Aside from her, I definitely find it difficult to talk to anyone else because the cliche phrases are starting to get on my nerves, even if there are good intentions behind them. I am so sorry for all you’ve been through and I hope the sense of community and support on here helps you. I am fairly new to this thread and I’m so glad I found it. Wishing you all the best!

Post # 553
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Kay1126:  Thank you, and same to you! I just read a bit of your history and I am so sorry for your loss. I agree, this thread and the women here are such a great support system. Sending a hug your way.

Post # 554
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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PetuniaPie:  Thank you so much. I am so sorry for your losses as well. Let’s hope the near future has good things in store for us! Big hugs to you too!

 

A little update on me: AF showed up today, exactly 4 weeks to the day of my D&C. I never thought I’d be happy to see her! It gives me hope that my body is moving on and will soon be ready for another baby. I still think I will be taking this cycle off, as I don’t feel ready to TTC yet. I want to see some things through with my new doctor, and she is sending us to a genetic counselor. She thinks I may need some different vitamins to sustain a pregnancy next time so we’ll see. Sending well wishes to all of you!

Post # 555
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Kay1126:  Thank you! Definitely praying for all good things! Glad to hear your update 🙂

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