(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 5

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Post # 586
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Wow that article started great, but did it stress anyone else out?  I’ve been feeling hopeful the past couple days and reading that sort of reminded me that now that I’ve had 2, I could be in for an incredibly crap ride still… 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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phoebephoebo:  Thank you for the information.  I had a bacterial culture and I got orders for chromesomal testing for my husband and I and the blood clotting order as well.  We will get it done next week.  Hoping we get some answers or at least some things we can say are not the problem. 

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MrsNebraska:  I’m sorry that that happened.  People just don’t think about the bad.  After I had my first MC and come back to work after my D&C a lady at work yelled across the parking lot and asked if I was pregnant.  If only she knew how bad she made me feel.  I know she did not mean it and I know people are just waiting for me to be pregnant again after I had my son but it really made me upset.  

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GrannyPantiesRock:  Thanks for sharing the article. 

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Bumble bee
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Andthepupmakes3:  Yeah, that is how I felt too when I read that after having two your chances go up and after 35 your chances go up as well.  I knew that but didn’t know the numbers.  The good thing about the article is that sometimes there is an easy cure or remedy.  

AFM:  I had my follow up yesterday after my natural MC and everything looks good so far.  My HCG is at 0 so that is good.  I had a bacterial test and orders for a chomasomal and blood clot test. He also referred my to a perinatologist so I can get more answers if I want.  I’m sure my insurance will not cover that but maybe I could pay for a couple consultations.  My OB says he would have be on a varity of cocktails.  If he could put my on the right suppliments at the right dosage that would be nice too.  I already started taking CQ10, D3, spiralina in addition to my prenatal and DHA.  I’m also eating much more healthy and hopefully will start exercising soon. It’s getting nice out so there is no excuse. 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): D&C is scheduled for Tuesday

MC History: 4 chemical pregnancies, M/C at 8 weeks: baby no longer had a heartbeat, at previous ultrasound (6 weeks, 3 days) baby measured on track but had a low heartbeat but my RE said it was normal for how early I was on my pregnancy. TTC since July 2013

Issues (if any): Recurrent pregnancy loss, diminished ovarian reserve (I have the same amount of eggs left as someone in her early 40s, I’m only 31!)

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): I’ll again take a bunch of supplements to improve my egg quality, for this pregnancy I was already taking baby aspirin and progesterone, so I assume my RE will want me to do it again.

Link to chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/Turtle83

What are your biggest challenges right now? I’m nervous about the D&C; I’ve never had a surgery, so I’m a bit scared about going under anesthesia. How was your experience with a D&C? What should I expect? How long will I bleed after the procedure? Will I experience painful cramping?

Current coping strategies/favourite inspirational quotes: I follow a couple of blogs of women who struggled with infertility/recurrent pregnancy loss and they give me hope that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and somehow/someway DH and I will have kids, it may not be the original plan (biological kids) but we will have a family.

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Bumble bee
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Turtle83:  Oh turtle I’m so sorry to see you here and I’m so sorry for your loss.  I was really pulling for you. I had a D&C for my first mc.  The procedure was really easy and I did not have any issues. A couple of days later I did go to the ER because  I was bleeding quite a bit.  I was over doing it so I would just say to take it easy for a few days after. I took pills for pain the first day but didn’t need  them after.  You seem to have as good outlook which is great. Praying that you will have your rainbow baby soon.

 

 

 

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Bumble bee
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Turtle83:  I am soooo sorry you are here right now 🙁  I hope that your procedure goes smoothly and for a fast physical recovery.  

What supplements do you take for egg quality? I’m concerned about this for myself as well.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

PetuniaPie:  Thank you. We had talked about announcing the loss, but it is just something I couldn’t bring myself to do. I told some close friends and asked them to spread the news, which they did so gently for me. It made it easier. But as far as people who weren’t close to me, I figured they would either hear it or see me without a bump. I’m so sorry you have also had to go through this. I know it isn’t peoples’ fault for asking, but now that I have been through it, I would never ask anyone how their pregnancy is going if it wasn’t clear they were pregnant. I’ve made two people cry and probably a dozen feel awful when they asked me about my pregnancy. It all around sucks… Thank you for sharing though, it makes me feel less alone to know that this happens.

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desertgirl:  Thank you, and I’m sorry you’ve been through this awkwardness too. Last week I was at a Taco John’s, and a girl that knew I had been pregnant asked me, loudly in the lobby of the restaurant, when baby was due. UGH. My DH looked at her and I felt his anger at that moment. He knows how difficult it has been to be asked about it. I kinda stumbled and said it’s not. I have been publicly asked before, but it was always around a group of people who all knew me. Not complete strangers. I was embarrassed and hurt at the same time. My DH tried to comfort me, but it’s just hard. I dread January when my DD comes. I hope people don’t start asking questions. And I also feel like people are just waiting for me to get pregnant and annouce. Sigh.

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Turtle83:  Oh dear. I am so sorry you are here and for your losses. I know you have probably heard that a lot, but those words never failed me when I heard them. I had a D&C in July, baby stopped growing at 9w and I was suppose to be 13w. I had never had a surgery like that before, only dental surgeries. Being put under was not scary at all. The thing that hurt the worst, physically, was when they put the IV into my hand/arm. I was given information about the procedure, and asked medical questions by the anesthesiologist before they did anthing. I changed into a gown and waited. The nurses came in and put the IV in my hand (unsuccessfully and painfully) and then moved the IV to my arm. I waited some more. Then they wheeled me down to the OR. They helped me get onto the OR table, and laid me down. They put my arm with the IV out to the side. I had monitors hooked up to me and suck on my sides and over my heart. They belted me down onto the table so I wouldn’t move during surgery. Then a nurse held my hand and the anesthesiologist put the meds into my IV and told me to breathe into the oxygen and relax. Last thing I remembered about the procedure. I woke up in recovery room, with DH next to me. The doctor said I had lost a lot of blood during the procedure because everything was still fully intact and I hadn’t started any sort of natural mc. So the procedure was suppose to take no longer than 40 minutes but ended up being an hour and a half (not trying to scare you, but that was really scary for my DH and mom). Recovery was honestly the easiest thing. I was still hooked up to the IV with new meds to help my uterus start contracting. I also had some sort of mild pain killer. I was in the hospital for 6 hours after my procedure due to my blood loss. But I had no pain at all after the procedure. I was given a pain killer prescription and used it for two days at nights, and was no longer needing it. I bled through the cotton pad underwear thing they gave me, and used a couple pads at home. Not a whole lot of blood honestly. No painful cramps or contractions either. I never felt pain in the hospital either. I bled for exactly 1 week after the d&c, which I was told was normal. Then 4 weeks later exactly I got AF. No infections or anything else. I didn’t even have a follow up because everything went so normal. I hope this gives you some informaton about it. I was very nervous, but I was thankful for it to be over and I could start to emotionally heal. It really helped my hormones, and it was the best decision I could make. Again, I am so terribly sorry you have to be here. I wish you well on your procedure. 

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Buzzing bee
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PetuniaPie:  This is just an update on seeing the person I was avoiding b/c she’s pregnant. We went to dinner last night for DH’s birthday and she was there. My emotions warred with each other between sadness and hurt b/c she is expecting and being happy for her and excited. Somehow I forced those hurt feelings from my own experience into a closet and shut the door so I could be excited for her and talk to her about due dates and stuff. Every now and then those other emotions would peek out of the closet but for the most part I was able to put them behind me. I even felt her belly and felt the awe of growing life there. I am proud of myself that I was able to differentiate my emotions and put my selfishness aside the for night. It almost felt like a test of my willpower and I feel like I passed. So it is possible ladies to overcome those emotions…no it isn’t easy but it is possible! 🙂

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Buzzing bee
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Turtle83:  Oh Turtle, I’m so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. {{hugs}}

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Honey bee

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Turtle83:  Crap. I did not want to see this. I’m so so sorry to see you back here. Since you asked, I had a D&C at the same time as my ectopic surgery. Like any surgery when you’re out, it was just a nice nap. Me and anesthesia don’t get along so waking up groggy and feeling nauseous from all the meds wasn’t all that fun, but that is honestly the worst part. I felt fine at home and the first week experienced some tough cramping while passing stuff, but was back to normal shortly after. Some people don’t even experience those cramps or anything aftewards so don’t assume you’ll have those…just have some good pain meds (RX advil or percocets worked for me) just in case. Again I’m so so sorry *hugs*

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Turtle83:  Wow. I am just heartbroken to see you back here and to hear this news. Your miracle story gave me so much hope, and I still believe there is a happy ending to this journey for you. I’m just so, so sorry. 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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Turtle83:  I’m so sorry to read this development. I’ve MCed naturally 3 times and had a D&C for the 4th MC and I can honestly say I found the D&C to be the way easier recovery both physically and emotionally. I bled less with the D&C and there was far less cramping. Emotionally, there’s a finality to it. If you can, push for testing on the fetal tissue, it will be important for upcoming testing – and above all, treat yourself gently and don’t feel pressure to be ‘fine’. It’s ok to feel damaged, at this stage I feel like the emotional scars from this process have become a part of me, and strangely enough it’s made me a stronger person, rather than an embittered one (though I won’t lie, the bitters come out every now and then). I’m 10 months out from my D&C and my cycles evolved to a 25 – 27 day average about 3 months after surgery with ovulation happening at cd10 – 11 (used to be 14), so you may have to find your new ‘normal’. Take care of yourself xx

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Bumble bee
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MrsFairyBee:  Yay… I’m so glad you got through it and it wasn’t too bad!  Sounds exactly like my visit with my friend two weeks ago— the emotions leading up to it were WAY WORSE than the act of actually seeing my friend.  It made me really glad not to have cancelled on her like I was SO ready to do.

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