(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 5

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Post # 646
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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4littlekitties:  thank you so much for your kind response. AF didn’t show up today so we shall see tomorrow… But my stomach is still in knots (hence why I’m still awake and Fiance is snoozing). I definitely had a rude awakening from my FSIL- I confided in her as to what’s been going on (keep in mind she has 3 kids and baby #4 due in 3 weeks) and she told me “Well having a miscarriage at 6 months is way worse than like just a few weeks… Your test sounds faulty not a chemical preg.” 

Nothing like rubbing salt in a wound right? I should have expected that from her though- maybe I was hoping for more empathy (or at least a pulse?!)

Thank you ladies- sending good vibes your ways for whatever you are looking for!

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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Turtle83:   it is now your clinic’s responsibility to do more testing and come up with a treatment plan for your next pregnancy which may or may not include a non-pregnant tracking cycle for base hormones, aspirin, clexane/heparin, steroids and estrogen/progesterone support. If it’s not chromosomal, there is another reason for the MCs and they need to find it. They can’t just leave you with ‘no chromosomal abnormalities, good news!’. 

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Helper bee

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Kay1126:  hey I totally understand where you’re at, I had the same thing last week. I wasn’t sure if we should have sex or not but we ended up doing it, it was weird at first since we didn’t have sex for like 3 weeks due to my bleeding but it was great.  I’d suggest taking some time away from thinking about when to ttc, you’ll know when it’s time, that’s what I’m currently going through and it has helped me to be able to DTD without breaking down.  

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Helper bee

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Turtle83:  how far along were you?  I swear doctors find this to be the most common thing and take it without a worry.  We need to know what happened!!  My doc didn’t even try to take any samples or anything since it’s my first MC I’m assuming but I still would have liked to know if it was chromosomal or my body just couldn’t take it or what :/ 

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Helper bee

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Gabrielle713:  I’m so sorry you’re here but you are not out until full blown out AF gets here, sometimes tests have different sensitivities or can read wrong. It can also depend on the time of day you took the test, first morning urine would usually give you the most accurate result.  there is still hope everything is fine!

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

4littlekitties:  Thank you, you’re so kind! You’re totally right, there are no results that can bring me peace with recurrent loss

almajele:  I have my follow-up appointment next week and I will bring up a lot of questions. I’m planning on asking about possible immunological issues again, last time my RE was dismissive of the subject, but I think there maybe something else they’re missing. I felt it was a bit odd choice of words for the nurse to say, “it’s good news you don’t need IVF”.

cherriesandcream:  I was supposed to be 8 weeks, but it measured only 7 weeks. I think most doctors don’t do genetic testing for first MC since it was most likely a chromosomal abnormality (about 80% of MCs are) and they are very unlikely to happen again. I think they should always follow up with testing if the couple requests it, they have the right to know what happened.

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Turtle83:  I’m glad you’re feeling better! I hope your RE can shed a little more light on what the heck this all could mean and the next best steps. It seems kind of common that RE’s and their nurses find so many things to either be positive or not troublesome when it seems like it should be the opposite. I don’t know why that is, but hopefully they are right and can get to the bottom of whatever is going on.

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cherriesandcream:  Glad you’re feeling physically better. It is so much easier to heal emotionally when the physical stuff isn’t there as a constant reminder.

AFM, I just had a mid cycle ultrasound, hysteroscopy, and endometrial biopsy. The left ovary is still winning the race with the biggest follicle, so hopefully I’ll ovulate from that side (the tube side). The doctor said I had no scarring and my uterus looked perfect which was a huge relief. The endometrial biopsy was incredibly painful, and he had to do it twice since he didn’t get enough tissue the first time. I had a biopsy from my laparoscopy in July come back as “chronic endometritis” so they did another one to confirm that and to get pathology on it so they can treat it properly if I really do have CE. Hopefully that is the last of the poking and prodding for now. I should ovulate late next week too. Woohoo! lol

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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cherriesandcream:  Full blown AF is here and with a fury. These cramps/back pains are some of the worst I’ve ever had. I wonder if anyone will notice if I curl up fetal position under my desk today? Totally normal….

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Gabrielle713:  I’m so sorry πŸ™ 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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cherriesandcream:  Thank you so much. We’ve agreed to try to take the TTC thoughts out of sex so that we can focus on being us again and get our intimacy back. So far, so good. We’re going to try to be a little more “in the moment” instead of planning everything to death, and pick up the TTC conversation after we move in December. As difficult as it is, its definitely best. And it will no longer be something we set strict guidelines for. We’re just going to see how we feel and go for it when we decide its time. So glad to have you ladies to talk to!

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Gabrielle713:  I’m so sorry for what you are going through. Know that we are all here for you if you have any questions, concerns or just need to get something off your chest. As much as it sucks, at least your body is moving forward and you will eventually be able to look beyond the pain and see the future.

 

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Buzzing bee
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whitums: I’m glad that there is no scarring in your uterus and I’m sorry about the pain πŸ™ I hope this is the last test and you can move forward. Yay for upcoming ovulation! πŸ™‚

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Gabrielle713:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this, please feel free to vent, we understand how you feel. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am going to re-roll call. I have no idea how often I will be around here, as I have lost a lot of hope in my body now.

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): Just found out today of my chemical pregnancy. I’m no longer pregnant πŸ™

MC History: Issues (if any): Previous mmc at 9 weeks, found at 13 weeks. This was my second cycle post mc TTC. Got my bfp at 11dpo. Was watching my lines progress. Tried  a digital weeks estimator and it was off. Tested with a FRER this morning and my line all but disappeared. Dr. confirmed chemical this afternoon. I’m 23, DH 24, so I have no idea why I just can’t have a baby.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): DH said we could try again. But I am SO angry. I feel betrayed. It was terrible to mc last time. But I had not expected a chemical pregnanc this time. We were optimistic about this working. It should have stuck this time. I am so confused why I can’t get a rainbow or baby. I want a baby so badly, but I am struggling to accept that this happened again. I am so scared to try again when I thought this was it. I don’t know when we will TTC again. I am hoping to talk to DH tonight actually. I can barely keep myself together…

Link to chart: I’m not a charter. I am way too neurotic for that.

What are your biggest challenges right now? Everything. I am just not accepting this is my life right now. My heart hurts πŸ™

Current coping strategies/favourite inspirational quotes: I don’t really have any. I never thought I’d be suffering multiple losses. I don’t know anyone in real life who has had multiple losses. Only my DH knew about this pregnancy, so I can’t talk to anyone about it to cope.

 

Post # 659
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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MrsNebraska:  I don’t know what to say except that I am so, so sorry. I was so excited to see that you were leaving these boards and I can’t imagine how you must feel to have to return. I hope you and your husband are able to stay optimistic about the future, as hard as that may be. Time is definitely on your side and I pray that a rainbow baby isn’t too far away for you. 

Post # 660
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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MrsNebraska:  Dang It!!! I saw you posted in here and I got a bad feeling so I had to check it out. I’m so sorry that happened to you. I was so happy you were moving past this group. Hopefully next time you will be for good. There will be a next time. Repeat that to yourself. And you will have a baby someday. Repeat that too.

Take the time you need to be angry and sad and cry all you want. Then when your heart is ready again, move on to ttc. I know you didn’t tell anyone this time but if you need to talk to a friend or family member I’m sure they’d be there for you again with this new heartbreak. Again, I’m so sorry you’re going through this hard time fellow Nebraskan. I’ll be thinking of you! {hugs}

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