(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 5

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Honey bee

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MrsNebraska:  Oh no, I’m so sorry. My heart hurts for you πŸ™ Please don’t give up hope. We all know how hard this is and how unfair things can be. I’m sure your rainbow baby will come! *hugs*

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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MrsNebraska:  No no no no no no no no……  DO NOT LIKE πŸ™

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I know that when you have your second loss, it begins to feel like the future is crumbling around you.  It opens a box of the unknown & full of doubts.  It’s very hard because the first time you chalk it up to bad luck.  The second time you become extremely mistrusting of your body.  But you should know that it can very much still be bad luck. You can very much still have a baby.

You are so young- don’t give up hope. I don’t see your story ending up childless. Maybe you will be 25 when you have your first baby- that is still a great time to start a family even if you want 4 or a dozen kids LOL.

If you’re feeling sad, just think of me with my 32 year old ovaries, and my recurrent losses that leave me without hope and not a ton of time for 3 or 5 more losses either.  Compared to me, the world is your oyster! πŸ™‚ 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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Turtle83:  thank you ladies- it means a lot to me. 

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MrsNebraska:  I’m so sorry to hear your chemical preg. I’m getting over one currently too. You would think us being so young (I’m 24) our bodies would let any baby stick!! I still find myself not wanting to tell people or talk about it because when I think of “miscarriage” I think of someone further along than a few weeks, not the case though and it certainly doesn’t numb the pain. AF this round is almost intolerable and going to work is a battle with myself. I hope you get a baby that sticks and all your worries subside! Hugs To You!!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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4littlekitties:  hahah let’s pour one out for the “old lady” ovaries over here!!!!! Mine decided to kick me in the ass this week by ovulating 3 days earlier than “normal” and not giving me any warning. I went from low fertility on monitor/ negative OPK yesterday to Peak Fertility and positive OPK this morning.  They decided to skip the warm up period of “high fertility” that tells me to BD ED.  So FX that tonight the magic happens because I basically nearly missed ovulation altogether this month! That’s what I get for coming to think my cycle was reliable AND for praying to the Internet lords for shorter cycles LOL

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

MrsNebraska: I’m so sorry! My heart breaks for you. I understand how you feel, recurrent loss is awful to go through and it makes you start doubting yourself and your body’s ability to have a baby, but you’re young, you will have your rainbow baby. You will find strength you didn’t even know you had and you will eventually move forward. We all know how unfair it is, and we’re all here to support you. Sending you tons of positive thoughts ((hugs))

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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Andthepupmakes3:  What fertility monitor do you use? I have been considering getting one to help out with my TTC efforts. I have an extremely short surge and I usually ovulate the same day I get a positive OPK :/

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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Andthepupmakes3:  Thank you!! I just ordered it πŸ˜€

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Honey bee

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Turtle83:  I’ve been using that same OPK for 8 cycles and it works! It definitely has its quirks, but it has always detected my surge. I have had a couple of false positives (they happened earlier than I normally ovulate so I was skeptical enough to keep testing and both times I received a true positive about 4 days later). It seems the false positives happen if I pee too long on the thing OR if I store it on its side. It seems to help storing it vertically where the test stick opening is facing down. When I’ve stored it different ways I got false positives from the dye smearing across the tester. I could be out of my mind, but everytime I’ve had a bad read its been that way. They say not to look at the lines on the test window, but my true positives have always had a dark second line with no dye smears. They also are full of shit when they say you’ll have two high readings and then a peak reading. I’ve had high readings for 9 days in the same cycle before it turned positive. It could be my fault for starting to use the tests too early, but they come with a lot of sticks and I have long cycles so I get nervous and probably start earlier than I should. I’m rambling, but the point is, don’t let the stupid things confuse you, they really do work. 

I’m actually freaking out a bit today. My sister just had her second baby (yay!), and I booked a flight to Chicago to go see them this weekend. I am not supposed to get back until late next Wednesday. At the doctor yesterday, they told me I had three follicles that were just over 8mm. I am now extremely worried I’m going to ovulate while I’m out of town (DH is not coming with me). I want to see the baby, and visit my family, but I will be PISSED if I miss ovulation. I’m waiting for a call back from the doctor, because I’d like his best guess on when I may ovulate. When my follicles were measured another month at around 4-6mm I ovulated 9 days later. If that still holds true, I imagine I’m going to ovulate next Tuesday or Wednesday and blow my chances this cycle. Wtf do I do!? The tickets are easily cancelled as I booked using miles, but I would feel really bad ditching my family to BD.

 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

whitums:  You order the one that comes with 20 sticks right? Thanks for the tips! πŸ˜‰ I may be projecting since I’m so ready to TTC again but if your doctor says that you will miss ovulation, and you have already started monitoring this cycle, and the tickets are easily cancellable, I would postpone the trip until after the fertile window. Let us know what you decide.

Post # 673
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I shared this with 1 year + thread. I called the nurse yesterday since I wanted to know the gender of the baby, normal female. DH was so sad yesterday, he really wanted a girl and I guess knowing we lost a perfect female baby made him feel sad again πŸ™

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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whitums:  wow I’ve never played around with mine that much!  I had one weird month where I had a high reading followed by a low reading and then back to high for a few days before peak, but otherwise it’s actually been very consistent for me, 2-3 highs and then a peak and then you have to stop testing.   I wonder if part of it is your natural estrogen levels?  I mean they say that the “high” is an estrogen reading versus “peak” which is more LH, so for example this month I didn’t get a high, maybe my estrogen level was lower than normal? and maybe yours is higher than normal on the month where you get many high days?  Who knows. I pee in a cup for all my tests and then hold it for 15 seconds in there, so I feel like I get pretty consistent/ reliable results. Although yesterday when I tested and got low, I had woken up several times in the night to pee but didn’t test until my official wake up pee….. So maybe I had already peed out my “longest sleep” pee and thats why it didn’t read as high properly? either way i’m bummed and also rambling LOL..  Long story short, I really do believe in it too…. I mean I have gotten pregnant twice out of 4 tries, and it’s not the test’s fault that both Pgs failed!

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Helper bee

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Turtle83:  That’s heartbreaking. I’d have wanted to know, too. 

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