- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
And I’m sad for all of you too. Those things should never happen.
Oh and if I am still getting positive hpts next week I might call and see about having my blood drawn. I imagine that my hcg levels were extra high because of two babies……but does the body eliminate it just a quickly as one baby or not? 20 years from now they will probably have drug store pee sticks that tell you your exact hcg levels lol.
I’m pretty sure you won’t ovulate until after they’ve dropped, then two weeks later get af. From what i’ve read sometimes it can hang around at low levels for a week or two. Worth an ask to see if they will check them to ensure they are dropping correctly.
The OB I saw said they dont’ normally do testing until after 3 MC but was willing to do some thyroid and ultrasound testing (but not clotting disorder or other testing), and they tested the products of conception from the D&C so we’ll hopfully get the results when I go for my follow up (6 weeks post D&C!).
I know that frustration, you just want to start again, NOW! My biggest fear is at my check up they will say wait longer.
I do somehow feel like it would be good for my body to have one natural AF just to make sure things are good to try again. I worry that if I didn’t and got pregnant and then something happened it would be too much. After my last miscarriage even though I ovulated about a week later than normal and had great timing, I still didn’t get pregnant until after my first natural AF. So maybe my body knows if it’s ready or not.
How are you doing emotionally? I’d say 90% of the time I’m ok, but sometimes a commercial or even just a wandering thought will make me sad and cry. Same goes for my frustration, some days i’m great others I just want to move forward and try again!
Hi all, I’m unfortunately joining you all here. 🙁 First of all, just wanted to say how sorry I am about everyone’s losses—such a terrible situation to be in.
Here’s my quick story: My husband I got married in November 2013, and started trying in January. We were so excited to get pregnant on our 3rd cycle trying (first cycle charting using temps) with a BFP in early April. A couple blood tests early on looked good—HCG levels were rising normally. No spotting, bleeding, etc. Last Friday I went in for my first US–I was around 7 and a half weeks. Unfortunately, the US showed an empty gestational sac. They did an internal US as well, and the same—sac but no baby–blighted ovum.
The past few days have been really hard on my husband and I. Today is the first day I haven’t spent most of the day crying. Still, we know we want to start TTC again as soon as possible–we are ready to be parents. My D&C is scheduled for tomorrow.
Those of you who charted right after—did you count your D&C day (or day of natural or medically induced miscarriage) as CD1? I’ve read that some people do that, but others set the first day of having back to normal HCG levels (I guess <5?).
Also, did you try right away, or wait one full cycle? My midwife reccomended waiting a full cycle, but said I could talk to the doctor performing the D&C about it. I had long cycles before (38-40 days), so letting any chances go by feels like torture. If the doctor is really firm about there being a medical reason to wait, then we will wait one cycle, but if its just for dating purposes, I don’t think we will prevent before the first period.
Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): MC cycle
MC History: diagnosed with blighted ovum on 5/2 (first pregnancy)
Issues (if any): The doctor thinks this was just a chromosonal fluke, so hopefully no issues.
Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): charting using BBT–that’s it for now
Link to chart: not sure how to link this
What are your biggest challenges right now?: Just coping with this loss emotionally–getting over the idea of our Christmas baby. Being happy for those around me who are having healthy (unplanned) pregnancies—horrible of me I know, but it’s hard not to be bitter sometimes. Planning my sister’s baby shower.
Current coping strategies/favourite inspirational quotes: N/A
I counted the D&C as cycle day 1, but I also noted when my hcg had dropped low enough to no longer get a positive on an FRER. I ovulated about 17 days after getting a negative test. As far as I know, there’s no medical reason not to TTC before your first period; that is, your risk of miscarriage is not any higher than normal. It is important, though, to make sure that you’re emotionally ready to try again, and I think it’s also a good idea to chart if you’re going to TTC again before your first period. If you don’t know when you conceived, your doctor won’t be able to tell if your baby is measuring behind or on track, and that can cause a lot of needless anxiety and confusion. But if you know when you ovulated, it’s probably not as much of a concern.
We chose not to really try again until after my first period. We did have sex one time about three days before I ovulated, but that was just sort of by chance. I have to say, I appreciated the closure that first period brought – I’m sure I would have been thrilled to be pregnant, but it was nice to have that sort of symbolic end to the post-miscarriage period. (No pun intended.) But you should definitely do whatever works for you – if trying again right away is what’s best for you, go for it.
Hang in there, and I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
My doc said pelvic rest until 5 days after bleeding (about two weeks), and i don’t have my follow up until 6 weeks and i’m to wait until then. I’d ask what they reccommend.
My first MC was early and natural, I counted the day I started bleeding as cd1, I ovulated 5 days later than normal. We tried that cycle but it didn’t work. Who knows if it was my body not being ready or not. After my first AF my cycle went back to normal and we got pregnant again. I made it til 9 weeks when the twins died. I marked the D&C as CD 1.
I know how you feel about wanting to just get back in to it. For me, I think after a D&C, the amount of healing your body needs, a full cycle would feel like a clean start and ensure there is a healthy environment for conception. I don’t see an issue with not waiting, because I think your body will only do what it’s ready for. We’re going to wait, just to make sure.
Good luck tomorrow.
I will definitely take it easy for a bit after the surgery. I’m an adjunct instructor at a couple colleges, so I’m lucky in that the semester is over, so now I’m just working from home on grading, research etc. and don’t have to go in to work at all.
Hey ladies. I want to wish everyone here a happy Mother’s Day, whether or not you have any children here on earth today. I know that not everyone is comfortable thinking of themselves as a mother after a pregnancy loss, but I think we are. We carried our babies in our bodies while they were here, we loved them and love them still. That’s what mothers do.
I hope everyone is taking gentle care of themselves today. I’ll be having a nice glass of wine with DH when he gets home from work, and spending some quiet time cuddling up with him too.
Everyone here is in my thoughts today. <3
Did/does anyone else have new PMS symptoms post-MC? it seems like I have pregnancy then MC symptoms every month, but since I’ve sworn off early testing and my cycles are pretty regular. My MCs have been so close together that I don’t know what’s what anymore.
Thank you for that wonderful message, happy Mother’s Day to you and to us all.
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