(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 6

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 287
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Blushing bee

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GrannyPantiesRock:  thanks! I went and got some! I will still ask my OB on my next visit! 

I hope you all have a great day! 

Post # 288
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Kay1126:  OH MY GOD! Yay! I am so happy for you. You’ve been such a support on the weight loss thread and this one. You deserve this! I have everything crossed for you, and reading your post made my cry. You’re a wonderful support and congratulations! I’ll 100% stalk you on the other threads. πŸ™‚

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auggiefrog:  My DH is ridiculous to an extreme level lol. We talked a lot about it last night because he sprung this on me on his lunch break. He seems to be leaning towards staying here, starting a family, and then moving maybe next year. He says I’m pressuring him to decide, which I am! My BC stops this pack on Sunday, leaving the start time perfectly if we are going to stay here and try again. But moving is also appealing. I told him it’s hard to be optimistic when he keeps changing his mind. I don’t want to look forward to starting a family this year if he decides next month we should move.

Post # 289
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

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Turtle83:  Hope you ladies don’t mind a joiner. Can’t express my sorrow for each and everyone on here as we have to endure both physical and emotional pain. Hoping for a rainbow bany soon for each and everyone one of us πŸ™‚

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): Getting ready to MC. Heartbeat is slowing significantly and a MC will occur any day now. 

MC History: 1st pregancy after TTC for 16 cycles. 1st miscarriage. 

Issues (if any): Me: PCOS. Possible Endometriosis (have all signs and symptoms per OB). Found out through charting that I do not ovulate every cycle. DH: None

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Going to take a few cycles off to regroup. Will go ahead with Lap for possible Endo. Once we are ready to get back to TTC, keep taking Prenatals and Vitamin B6. OB wants to prescribe Clomid which I think will help with not taking so long to concieve like it did naturally.

Link to chart: N/A

What are your biggest challenges right now? Dealing with the fact it took us 16 cycles to finally get a BFP. Then less than 2 weeks after that BFP, we get the news its not a viable pregnancy. Just waiting to miscarry knowing I have someone dying inside of me and there is nothing I can do. Fear that it will happen again the next time around. 

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: “Keep your head up. God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers.” 

Post # 290
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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DumpTruck100:  I’m so sorry for your loss and that you’ve found yourself here.  Many of us on here have had MMC and know the feeling of waiting to MC and how horrible it is.  Take care of yourself and take whatever time you need to grieve, it can definitely be an emotional roller coaster.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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MechEBee:  Yeah, I kind of thought that they might want to see if my uterus was empty, but they didn’t.  I also don’t know what would drive that type of testing.  Totally agree with you on wanting something definitive at 8 weeks.  I think you’re on a great track with trying to stay positive.  You’re right, we know we can get pregnant!  DH and I got pregnant on the first try, and I know that many are not that lucky.  I guess my world is a little skewed because most of my close friends with kids got pregnant on the first try and none have had miscarriages, so I was hoping to be that lucky too. 

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MrsNebraska:  I know, even if I had a ton of testing I would just worry that the next day, things were not okay.  I didn’t realize that pregnancy would be so terrifying.  That sounds SO frustrating on your DH.  My head would be spinning too from all of the back and forth!  I hope you guys can come to a mutual decision soon.

Post # 292
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Kay1126:  Congratulations on the BFP!!!!  It is so reassuring to see that.  I am totally going to stalk the other thread.  Wishing you a H&H 9 months…. and I hope this first scary part flies by!!

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GrannyPantiesRock:  
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PenelopeQ:  Interesting on the Vitamin D.  I had no idea it was such a common deficiency.

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desertgirl:  I feel like with so much of this, it’s hard to know how you feel until you get there.  And then your feelings change day to day anyway, so it’s kind of a crap shoot. 

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PenelopeQ:  Thanks for the reassurance re asking for testing. You’re right, I will always be anxious now (and I was an anxious person before, ha).  I do think that it’s something that I can work on in terms of letting go of control/knowing if everything is okay, but I will also remind myself that I can ask for testing if I really need it.  It’s great that your therapist helped you get some perspective yesterday.  I hope that the medical attention you’re getting now means that things will be looking up for you soon.

Post # 293
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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DumpTruck100:  I’m so sorry for your loss.  Sending big hugs your way.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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MrsNebraska:  Thank you. You’ve been a wonderful support to me as well. I will continue to look for updates from you, whatever you and DH decide to do. Thank you for the well wishes, any are certainly welcome right now! Stalk away πŸ™‚

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SaltedCaramel:  Thank you so much, wishing the best for you as well.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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DumpTruck100:  I am so sorry you found yourself here. That’s quite the long road to find it ending here this time around. It’s hard to be in the limbo stage. I had a mmc the first time and I was in limbo for a week before my doctor scheduled me for a d&c. By then it was already 5 weeks past when the heart stopped. I really hope your process is much quicker than mine. It doesn’t help the healing, I know. Also, I read your update on your other thread. I know it may seem like you don’t want to try now, I completely understand that. I’ve had two pregnancies both ending in MC. I never wanted to try again. Once your hormones level out and you wait a month or so you may feel differently. I was so angry after my chemical pregnancy in October that I no longer wanted to try. Now, I do. It’s weird the way life works. So just be gentle on yourself. You may find things change in a little while. Again, I’m so sorry you are here though.

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SaltedCaramel:  I agree. After a MC or multiple, it really makes pregnancy harder. I don’t have the naive way of thinking I did before. I have a plan for if we do TTC this year. I am planning on calling my dr’s nurse to see if they will get me in earlier than 8 weeks to test my hcg levels and what not. The front desk nurses don’t schedule you earlier unless it’s an emergency. So I feel like it’s worth a shot to go to my dr directly. Especially since I’ve had two losses. It’s like the receptionists don’t really care about loss history here, they just schedule you for textbook appointments.  And thank you! Hopefully DH decides soon. I’m not going to bring it up today. I know he is expecting me to because I don’t often let things go easily πŸ™‚

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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DumpTruck100:  Sorry to see you here.  I found out I had a non-viable pregnancy two weeks after my BFP as well, then had to wait a few days before I naturally miscarried.  It was hell.  I’m really sorry you have to go throught that, but I hope you don’t have to wait too long for the inevitable.  

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Blushing bee

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DumpTruck100:  I am so sorry for you loss! I know that is a terrible experience, the worst in my life for sure, but I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone. We are here for you. 

 

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MrsNebraska:  I hope you guys are able to make a decision soon. It must be so frustating! I will definitely talk with your dr’s nurse vs recepcionist. I feel that we need to be our own advocate because it’s our body, our baby and our family. Myphilosophy  is to be polite but assertive. 

 

 

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SaltedCaramel:  I am glad I was of some help. πŸ™‚ I do feel that therapy has helped me. 

AF is supposed to be arriving this weekend. But after a chemical I really don’t know what to expect. Any input will be appreciated!

 

 

Post # 298
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ugh, I am so annoyed.  I POAS this morning in an attempt to see if the HCG was out of my system.  Got a faint but clear positive on a dollar store test.  And a few days ago I thought my temps were indicating ovulation, but now they are just all over the place (which makes sense considering the HCG).  

If this had to happen, I just want my cycle to get back on track so that we can try again.  I’m so frustrated.  It’s only been 2 weeks and 2 days since my D&E, so I know that this is still normal…. but I just hate all of this.

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Bumble bee
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MrsNebraska:  I agree, I feel so seasoned (in a bad way)…. not that I was exactly naive before but I didn’t REALLY think that I would have a m/c.  At the practice I go to, the receptionists are not nurses, but the nurses do lots of triage…. so if you call in with a question they have a nurse call you back.  Generally you are assigned to one in particular, so I talked to mine a few times while I was pregnant due to spotting. I am definitely keeping in mind the possibility of asking for tests… pregnancy just seems impossibly long and stressful.

The friend who just announced she is pregnant and a little ahead of where I was (she’s 14 weeks now) hasn’t had an u/s yet….she declined the NT scan.  She did hear the heartbeat, but I can’t help but worry for her that something is wrong and she just doesn’t know yet.  Odds are that that everything is fine with her and the baby, but I guess in my position it’s hard to feel positive about things progressing smoothly without confirmation.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

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Kay1126:  Congratulations!! Such beautiful news. I will be praying and dancing to the sticky baby gods for you. Happy and Healthy 9 months for you. Can’t wait to see happy updates from you πŸ™‚

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

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PenelopeQ:  Thanks for the welcome and the well wishes ladies. Hope to learn a few things while here and get to know you all. Praying our for our rainbow babies in 2015.

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