(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 6

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Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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MrsNebraska:  Silver linings! Such a good way to look at things, and something I often forget to do. You’re right- focusing on the weight loss has been really important to me so that I am healthier next time. I was at my thinnest on my wedding day last year, a weight I was proud of and had maintained for a few years. But newlywed bliss got the best of me, and I am determined to continue my weight loss before TTC again. The fact that I’m well on my way and have been losing makes me feel like I have some control over things.

But I never thought of some of the things you mentioned: being able to drink over the holidays… Love it. And just having it be DH and I for a while longer is definitely not a bad thing either. I definitely still do the flip flop between wanting to try and not, but I think I’m at peace with our decision. Between the sadness and anger (I had those scary “dark” thoughts too sometimes) and everything else, at least I know I’m focusing on my health for next time. And trying not to get too upset when everyone around me is having babies.

I’m very excited for you guys, and the things you want to do before TTC again. I hope your possible blog, and coming on here for support will help you through when you have bad day, just like you helped me today. So, thank you!

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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EmmaWatts:  I’m so sorry for your loss. My story is similar to yours. Got my BFP in July (first ever), found out at 9 weeks that baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. I also had an ultrasound at 6 weeks and heard the heartbeat. The baby died the day after that ultrasound. Just know that you are not alone, and it’s normal to go back and forth between many different emotions. As you can see, I am still here 2 months later asking these ladies questions about things I’m going through. We’ve all been there. Just lean on your DH, cry if you need to, and laugh whenever you feel like you can. We are all here for you. It sucks and it’s ok to acknowledge that. You are in my thoughts <3

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

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Kay1126:  thanks for your kind words ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Kay1126:  I hear you on the newlywed bliss eating. Yikes I know that well. My Mother-In-Law told DH she could tell I lost a lot of weight in some recent pictures we posted on FB. I feel really happy that someone else noticed!! That’s a boost. And thank you! You and I are very similar, so it is nice to have the support. I’ve actually been working on my blog a lot lately. It took forever to me to get going because I am super picky. But hopefully one day I’ll be able to share it on the blog board ๐Ÿ™‚ I am super excited about it. It’s kinda like my own baby of sorts. I have to take care of it and bring it into the world lol. Who knows, if it takes off maybe someday I can incorporate a bun in the oven post ๐Ÿ˜€

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EmmaWatts:  Ah I am so sorry for your loss. I also had a mmc and it is so hard having that happen and not even knowing. Are you going to ttc once your dr gives you the ok?

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

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MrsNebraska:  I’m sorry for your loss…

Yes! I feel ready to TTC again. It took us 8 months to get our first BFP, so I hope this time will be faster. As soon as the doc gives us the green light we’ll get back on it. ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Roll calling for my third thread:

 

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): TTC

MC History: MC in December 2013 at around 5w6d (I’d been bleeding for a week, but my HCG was increasing, so I’m not sure when it actually was); a chemical in January and a prolonged MC in March 2014 (thought I miscarried/fading line, then the line was darker two weeks later, then I actually miscarried at around 5 weeks).

Issues (if any): Possible low progesterone, though lots of doctors think that’s a symptom and not a cause.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Round 3 of femara with injections.  I’m trying to step back as much as possible. I won’t temp after O and, if I get the shots to trigger ovulation, I may skip temping completely. I’m taking folic acid, pre-natals, fish oil, some Chinese herbs and doing acupuncture (which I may also stop). 

Link to chart: There’s not much to see.

What are your biggest challenges right now? The emotional strain of TTC for over a year.  This time last year, I was pregnant, and DH and I are having trouble understanding what each other is going through.  As I jokingly told him last night, he thinks I obsess and overreact and I think he has no feelings.  We’re going to be seeing a couples counsellor to help with communication, but otherwise he’s my rock. I’m also burnt out on TTC and have a hard time seeing an actual baby at the end of it. It’s just this temporary hell that I put myself through (especially the TWW).

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: Talking to other ladies who are struggling, trying to let go some of this imagined control that I have, making sure that I have quiet “me” time.

 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My boss just asked me to find an email in her inbox for her from our EVP.  Turns out that EVP had recently emailed my boss to ask if I was expecting (subject line = is 4littlekitties expecting?) There were atound 5 emails, so it was a conversation.  EVP didn’t want to ask me herself n case I’d just gained weight, and she knew about the miscarriages.  I expect AF to show up tonight. It’s bad on so many levels, but at least it’s the end of the day & I was able to sneak out without running into anyone.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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4littlekitties:  Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry you had to read that. That had to have hurt! Thank goodness it’s the weekend and you can take a break from work for a few days. I’m also sorry you find yourself still on these boards. Hopefully your patience will pay off soon!

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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4littlekitties:  Oh what the absolute fuck?!?!? That’s just messed up.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

To make matters worse, two of my favorite radio stations have already started to play Christmas songs. WTF – it’s not even Thanksgiving & now I have to find new ones. 

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Fell a bit behind on this, so I apologize if my responses are delayed or irrelevant now! 

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tinapo85:  Welcome to the group….  Have you been trying since the MMC or did you take time off from it?

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whitums:  Yay for some great test results!!!  FX for you that this month is the tubey side!

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MrsBananas:  Pregnancy announcements have been the death of my spirit. Especially when the people are due around when my second MC would have been due.  But actually, now seeing people that got pregnant after me and are now having babies before me, that might sting the worse.  It’s also crazy that my first MC would have been due in 2 months..  Can’t believe I should have been sitting here with a 7 month preg belly and instead, i’m sitting here with a raging period and depression bloat

 

 

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EmmaWatts:  Feeling alone in the struggle is so difficult.  My husband is a great support but he certainly doesn’t carry the pain on in the same way. My only real life friend with miscarriage history is due in a week and definitely has moved past the phase of wondering if she’ll ever get a take home baby (this is actually her second child)

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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4littlekitties:  I’m pretty sure people have been wondering about me, since everyone at my office knows I got married in March and I’ve done nothing but gain weight since then.  Especially my gut is looking pretty bad right now.  It makes me feel terrible and at the same time, I can’t find it inside myself to be strict about eating and working out AND balancing the ups and downs of TTC, as well as trying to take it easy during TWW for implantation purposes.  I feel like weight loss and TTC do not go hand in hand for me at all! 

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hey everyone, im new here and sad to be roll calling but this seems like a really supportive thread and I could use some. <br /><br />Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): MC Cycle

MC History: Got a BFP the first month trying in October, I had really low and slow rising HCG at 5 weeks (It only rose 50 in 8 days) and was told to come in at 7 weeks for a D&C if nothing happened. I went in at 7 weeks which was on wednesday and he did an ultrasound to double check there was still no sac and this time there was a sac and a baby but no heartbeat, he said there was a chance it would catch up and told me to come back in 2 more weeks but that night I started miscarrying naturally.

Issues (if any): None known

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Just prenatals

Link to chart: I don’t chart

What are your biggest challenges right now? My DH works away for 2-3 weeks at a time and comes home for 4-5 days so its really hit and miss when he’ll be home in my fw, we were lucky and I got pregnant first time when he had a month off. He was also the only person who knew I was pregnant so I feel really alone with it.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: Just trying not to obsess about ttc too much as we know it could be a looong time before I get pregnant again with him being away so much. Im also making the most of doing things I couldnt do if I were pregnant

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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Tarsier90:  I am so sorry for your loss. Do you think it would help if someone else knew? Is there a family member or friend that you think would be able to support you and help you through this while your DH is away? I was 9 weeks along when I found out about my mmc-  everyone is different, but I was so grateful that my parents knew I was pregnant. My husband doesn’t work out of state or anything, but we don’t have any days off together, so it helped knowing I could turn to my mom for support on the days that I was home alone. It might help to be able to talk and get your feelings out. I’m so sorry and I’m glad you came here. The only advice I can give right now is to take it one day at a time and allow yourself to grieve. Tame care of yourself.

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ugh *take care of yourself. Autocorrect screwed it up and I didn’t catch it in time to edit.

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