(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 6

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 617
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

MrsNebraska:  I’m so happy for you!  FX this is your rainbow baby!  I totally understand wanting to stick around a bit.  Even though I could have tested by now, one big thing keeping me from not is knowing that I could loss it.  

Post # 618
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MechEBee:  glad to hear your HCG is dropping, that must be so frustrating having to wait that long.  Hope the NTNP works and you get a sticky bean.

auggiefrog:  FX for you tomorrow, looking forward to your update.

bubbycakes:  so sorry to hear about your MC and that you’re having to go through this for a second time. i completely get the no one understands in real life, you have definitely come to the right place the ladies on this board are so supportive.

MrsNebraska:  Congrats again on the BFP, really hoping this is your rainbow!

AFM, got a BFP today at 11 dpo.  I’m cautiously optimistic and just saying a pray that this will be a sticky bean and our rainbow will arrive in November.  Other than crazy sore boobs and bloating, no real symptoms.

Post # 619
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

Magnolia_Mountain:  I am so sorry that you have had to go through a mc again. I hope that you get some answers soon.

Post # 620
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

Mind if I join?  I had a miscarriage last month.  I was early in the pregnancy, but I am still really upset about it at times.  I was able to talk to a new gyno about my frustration with PCOS and irregular cycles.  I am thankful that I have now been put on progesterone so that I can start clomid with my next cycle.  She was very positive over the fact that I had become pregnant considering I had not had a cycle since November, but was understanding about my frustration with having to test frequently due to my work environment and wanting to have more control over my cycle.  They would not prescribe metformin, but I’m accepting of that now.  If no results with clomid, I will contact a reproductive endocrinologist per their recommendation as well if no pregnancy within the next 6 months.

I have felt “off” since the mc and I feel like the progesterone I’ve started on is making that worse instead of better.  I also got progessence plus, an essential oil blend and will start using that but not while I’m in the hormonal funk I’m in right now.  Hoping things feel normal again soon.

Thanks for reading my post and I hope we all get our BFPs and sticky beans soon! 

By The Way GonnaBeAFind:  Congratulations!  I will keep you in my thoughts! 🙂

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Post # 621
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

GonnaBeAFind:  Congrats!  I really hope you have a happy and healthy nine months!  

orchidblooms:  Sorry about the MC and that your hormones are acting funky.  It sounds that you are getting lots of help though from your doctor.  FX that your stay here is short. 

Post # 622
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

bubbycakes:  I’m so sorry to hear this! Praying things get easier for you! 

One of my close friends (F for this story) texted this morning that she’s expecting in Oct. She had a MC around Thanksgiving and will be 10 weeks on Friday. I’m so happy for her, but also bitter and sad, which makes me feel like a real a**hole. F said she was so nervous to tell me bc of my MC and wanted to be sensitive to that. F said she now understands why her other gf waited a long time to announce her pg to F following F’s MC.

I was all “this is grreeeeaaattt, I’m sooooo happy for you guys!!!!!” meanwhile my internal monologue is more like:

Devil: “this isn’t fair! she already has a 2 yo!”

Angel: “she had a MC too, she needs you to be suppoortive of her, this is hopeful for you too that she had a MC and is now having a healthy pg”

Devil: “girl, bye. where’s my period?!?!?!”

 

Good luck with all of your tests, ladies. I really will be geniunely happy for you guys when you get your BFP’s! It’s just hard when it’s someone I see in person all the time…

Post # 623
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

auggiefrog:  I know what you mean about being afraid of the loss. I was definitely cautious with testing early for that reason. And thank you! I have my FX tightly that I’ll be seeing some good news from you soon!

GonnaBeAFind:  Congrats again on your BFP! Saw it in the other thread. Hopefully this is the rainbow for both of us this time.

orchidblooms:  Sorry to hear about the loss. A loss is a loss no matter how early. Sounds like you have some things working for you now. Hopefully your new gyno gets you what you need.

phillybride61513:  I understand how you feel. People get really sketchy around me when bringing up children and stuff. It’s like that’s nice, but where the hell is my turn at? I can imagine when it is someone close to you it is that much harder.

Post # 624
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We finally decided we will try again in September because we want to enjoy our summer with DS but I feel like that’s sooo far away. I know realistically it’s not but I guess I just need someone to talk to about it. I haven’t told our family our plans only because I want to protect them from getting their hopes high. If anyone has any advice please do share.

 

Post # 625
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

phillybride61513:  I’m sorry. I understand how you feel with the torn feelings. I have been staying off of facebook and blocking people who announce pregnancies. I feel bad doing it, but I just can’t handle seeing all their updates about morning sickness and starting to show and other pregnancy related things. It hurts.

I had a coworker offer me a bassinet today. And she knew about my MC. She said she was getting rid of baby stuff and knew that we were going to be trying again soon. I know it was a nice gesture, but it seemed a little out of place. After I told her about my MC she said something along the lines of, “Well at least you won’t be pregnant in the summer, that is awful.” I know she meant well, but at the time, it wasn’t something I really wanted to hear. I would have been happy to trade my MC for being pregnant in 100 degree weather for the whole 9 months.

Post # 626
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

MechEBee:  OMG I can’t. What a nightmare. What is wrong with people?!? I feel like this is something my mom would say. 

Post # 627
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

auggiefrog:  thanks so much, think I might stay on here for a bit longer cautiously optimistic that this will be our rainbow.  

MrsNebraska:  Thanks again, looking forward to being a November 2015 Mama with you, though it don’t think I will be roll calling there just yet.

orchidblooms:  thanks so much and I’m sorry to hear about your MC, FX that the progesterone clomid work and you get your rainbow baby very soon.

phillybride61513:  I totally understand how you feel, I think it’s happened to all of us on this board right after my MMC 2 of you friends announced on Facebook that they were pregnant, needless to say I cried quite a bit and just kept telling Darling Husband that it wasn’t fair.

MechEBee:  I honestly think that people who haven’t had a miscarriage don’t realize how hard they are.  My SIL called last week saying she packed up our nieces and nephews baby things and wanted to know if we could pick them up in a couple days since she knows we’re trying, I know she meant well but at the same time I was like WTF.

Post # 629
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

eecuadrado:  We have definitely hid our TTC the entire time and even lied about it to our families so they wouldn’t add pressure or be disappointed when we didn’t announce ever. So I totally get where you are coming from. Eventually Darling Husband straight up told his mom to not bring up TTC with me or us as the MMC was hard. They don’t even know about the 2 CPs. So we are very protective and guarded. 

MechEBee:  Oh my god I would punch a person if they said that to me after everything I’ve gone through. I’ve just cut out one person from my life completely when he joked about me and Darling Husband never having kids. I was like nope, bye! I can’t even believe that happened to you. I never wanted to be pregnant during the summer because Nebraska is insanely hot in the summer where I am. Now I promised myself I will never complain or anything in dealign with pregnancy stuff. I am way to grateful to be complaining about 1 thing. I think my mom will definitely comment on being pregnant in the summer though. Like, come on though! Like it matters all that much.

GonnaBeAFind:  I’m looking forward to it too. So happy to have a friendly face in this. We probably have a similar EDD too. I roll called in the sister thread to this one just for some added support. 

orchidblooms:  Thank you!!

Post # 630
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

MrsNebraska:  Yay, SO excited for you!!  I hope this is a super sticky rainbow!!!  Sending lots of good thoughts your way.

GonnaBeAFind:  Yayyyy for another BFP!!  I hope yours is super sticky too!

orchidblooms:  I’m so sorry about your loss.  It’s so sad to see so many ladies here.  

phillybride61513:  I think those mixed feelings are so normal.  It is so hard to hear other people’s pregnancy announcements.

eecuadrado:  I think you just have to see what feels right.  Maybe see how you feel in a few months?  You might feel like Sept is just right, or you might feel ready sooner.

MechEBee:  OMG.  People are insane.  I’m sorry you had that conversation!  I think people so often just don’t know what to say… but obviously things like that are so not helpful.

Post # 631
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

phillybride61513:  totally get your dialogue you have going on. It’s such a struggle to not feel angry or jealous at other people’s news. I think it is normal though and nothing we should feel bad about, it’s not our fault we feel this way it’s just what we’ve been through!

 

MechEBee:  my goodness, i seriously wonder what some people think! The only positive from going  through this experience though is at least we are able to know what to say and what not to say to others in the same position.

 

I received a call from my doctor about my tests to say my progesterone was way too low. I don’t know why they didn’t test after my first loss. So now with the progesterone supplements the next month we decide to try I’m feeling a tiny bit more hopeful. At least it’s something to work with. I didn’t want to try again without at least trying something different.

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