(Closed) Journey of TTC after miscarriage part 6

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 812
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m sorry to see so many new faces here. This thread is the best thing in such a crappy situation. I hope you all can find some peace soon. It does get easier– it’s been 4 months since my MC, and I felt like the first month was the absolute worst. After that it slowly got a little better, though there are still hard days. I’m pregnant again (7w) and sometimes I still feel angry and frustrated that I am dealing with morning sickness all over again, when I should have been out of the first tri around New Year’s. Hugs to all of you ladies.

 

MechEBee:  AF sounds like a good sign!  On one hand it’s nice to feel kind of validated by your doctor’s confusion, it’s also infuriating to be the one in however many that this happens to.  I hope that you get the last beta results back soon and you can move on either way (with a D&C or without).

HaaaveYouMetTed:  Totally hear you on it not being fair.  Sometimes it just really, really sucks.  I have a friend who’s an OB and works in a clinic seeing women who are drug addicted and pregnant– I had the same thought as you in talking to her recently.

Post # 813
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

MiJeS1104:  I am also a worrier and was nervous about MC before I had any reason to be….. and it sucks because you’re right, once you have one it feels like you can never have a worry free pregnancy.  I am so jealous of my friends who just got pregnant and then had a baby 9 months later… it feels like I can never be that innocent.

Post # 814
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

MechEBee:  That’s a great sign!  I really hope AF means that your HCG is finally down to 0 and you don’t have to be on this particular rollercoaster anymore. 

HaaaveYouMetTed:  I had a lot of the same feelings.  I found out my HCG levels were not doubling, and that I would likely miscarry a few days before it happened. I spent my nights and the weekend dealing with my grief, and my days until the MC trying to hold back what I was dealing with.  By the time it finally happened it was kind of a relief.  I can’t remember if I even cried, I cried so much in the days before hand I might have been spent.  Although I was still sad, I think I held it together pretty well until Christmas Eve, which was about a week after my MC.  I was at my SIL’s and had a few secret meltdowns when I could get alone time.  Although I have mostly felt better since then, I still deal with the what-ifs, and the occasional sadness.  

SaltedCaramel:  I hope your pregnancy is going well!  

Since my MC I have been dealing with how to represent my feelings and emotions about my long TTC journey and my MC.  A few days ago I came up with an idea.  I am starting by adding words to photos that I have taken of the TTC process.  It is actually kind of liberating to find a creative outlet for my emotions on this subject.  Anyways, if anyone is interested I’m going to be posting my images on a blog that I’ll share in the blog sharing thread, or you can PM me and I’ll send you the link.  

Post # 815
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

auggiefrog:  I love the idea of a creative outlet around all of this.  I would love to see your blog when you get it started!

Post # 817
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’ve been having some pain in my right ovary that started after I ovulated. It comes and goes, but has been so sore the last few days. My doctor told me it looked like there was a large cyst that burst and there seems to be some fluid around the ovary that’s causing the pain. She took a urine sample and my pregnancy test came back negative.

Does anyone know if it’s still possible this is an ectopic pregnancy if the test was negative? She didn’t do any blood work since the urine sample was negative. I’m just concerned since I’m still having pain on that side.

Post # 818
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

KatiePi:  auggiefrog:  MiJeS1104:  Thank you ladies! I just can’t believe how heartbreaking this has been and I never even saw the baby or heard a heartbeat! I’m able to hold it together at work but as soon as I’m on my way home, I can’t hold the tears back anymore. Yesterday evening, I started crying because I really wanted my baby back…the baby that I lost. I wanted it all to be some big mistake. I became mad because I knew I was never going to have that baby again. This is just a lot harder than I ever expected.

Post # 819
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Honey Beekeeper

Hey ladies! I’m SO sorry to interrupt, but I just saw how big this thread has gotten. Anyone willing to start a Part 7? Thanks!!! xoxo

Post # 820
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

MiJeS1104:  Are you feeling better after the antibiotics? That totally sucks that you had to deal with that after the d&c!  Hope your cycle gets back on track ASAP.  I can relate to the feelings of being mad that you will never be able to get pregnant easy and have a worry free pregnancy.  After going through two miscarriages, there is no chance in hell of me having an easy carefree pregnancy.  My husband and I have been trying for almost two years with only two miscarriages to show for it.  So sad and frustrating!

HaaaveYouMetTed:  So sorry you have had to join this thread.  We can all relate to the things you are feeling.  It is so incredibly unfair! Especially like you said, when druggie moms go on to have successful pregnancies.  I truly have no words sometimes.  As far as the pain in your side, I know with an ectopic you still would have HCG in your system, but I’m not sure if it would be so low that it wouldn’t show up on a pregnancy test.  If you are concerned, I would definitely call the doctor just for some reassurance. 

Post # 821
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

MissB2MrsO:  So sorry that you’ve found yourself here.  I can totally relate to your last post about wanting this to be some big mistake and wanting your baby back.  It’s been a month and a half since my last mc, and it’s still hard for me to accept some days.  It’s such a hard thing to go through, because it’s such a big loss but for the most part it’s dealt with quite privately.  It’s been really hard for me some days to put on a happy face at work, when my heart is breaking inside.

Post # 822
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Hi ladies, just checking in.  Everything seems to be going well since my D&C.  I am feeling a lot better emotionally. It still stings when I hear my coworkers talking about their pregnancies or see pregnant women, but I don’t cry like I did before.  Since the D&C, I have stopped bleeding (it took about a week for it to stop even after the procedure) and that has helped me feel more normal at least.  I got sick a few days after and I still am feeling weak, but that may also be because I bled for 3 weeks (not always heavily) but I am usually anemic, so I am taking iron to try to get some energy back.  I am hoping I don’t have to wait a long time for my period to return. 

The dr. that did my D&C recommended we wait at least two regular cycle before trying again, but I have read online that it isn’t necessary to wait after a miscarriage.  Has anyone else been advised one way or another?  I am just curious.  I obviously want to give the next pregnancy (assuming we are able to get pregnant again) the best chances of being healthy, but I don’t really want to wait two cycles.  I would like to start trying after my first regular cycle. 

Post # 823
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

happyheartbee:  I was told to wait 2 cycles by the OBGYN who did the D&C and one by my OBGYN. I then asked why/how hard did we have to prevent and she told me that it was solely to help them date the pregnancy and there was no reason to prevent if I was emotionally ready. Because I bled so much during my MC, we knew it was all out and there was no reason to have a period. 

With that, I decided not to wait. I had funky anovulatory cycle, 2 or 3 days of bleeding, and ovulated 2 days later. We will find out later this week if we get a BFP. The only risks of geting pregnant right away were iron stores and other nutrients, but I have been eating super healthy and taking a prenatal.

Post # 824
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

happyheartbee:  I was told to wait one full cycle after my D&E (so prevent pregnancy until I got a normal period).  I got another BFP on our second cycle trying again.  I think doctors say such different things– some say don’t wait at all, some say wait a few cycles, etc.  I am pretty sure that the cycle immediately following the D&E was anovulatory anyway.

 

Ladies, I know we’re supposed to start a new thread since this one is so big.  I would do it, but I’m not super active on this thread anymore– does someone who’s here more want to start it?

Post # 825
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Pollywog:  That IS a crazy cycle, with O being 2 days after bleeding!  FX that this is it for you.

Post # 826
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Pollywog:  FX to you for a BFP!  I was actually told two different things also.  The Dr. that did the D&C told me to wait two cycles.  The PA I normally see in the same office told me we could try again after my normal cycle returns.  I think we may try after I have my first regular period.  It took us a year to get the first BFP and I just don’t want to wait any longer. 

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