(Closed) Journey of TTC After Miscarriage Part 7

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Post # 466
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

HaaaveYouMetTed:  πŸ™ I’m so sorry. That sucks so bad but hopefully you’ll O a day or 2 later so that you have time to still catch the egg. Is there anything you can do to initiate that you know will get him going without him knowing it’s TTC sex? You’re still not out so try to stay strong and get another session in when he’s off work. Remember, it only takes one time.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by  leahdany.
Post # 467
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

 

HaaaveYouMetTed:  Im so sorry. I know that has to be frustrating πŸ™ I agree with what leahdany said. Anyway you could initiate sex that might help your DH? You still have good timing to try. Maybe work towards BD every other day? It may help with your Darling Husband anxiety of trying to perform. I hope you get in some good BD timing πŸ™‚  

Post # 468
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

HaaaveYouMetTed:  oh lady, I’m so sorry. I 100% know how frustrating it is. I’m sure your Darling Husband is trying his best. I’m sure I’ve told u before but what works for us is only EOD BD and sometimes we pull out some internet visuals if we need the big guns. And what about preseed? Idk if u use it already but some extra lube can help get things going sometimes. Hope you get a better outcome tomorrow.. You’re still in this!!! 

Post # 469
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

leahdany:  chloesmommi:  Kabatchy2be:  thanks all. Since he works 24 hour shifts (firefighter), he has 48 off. So if we aimed for EOD, that second day would be his shift day. Because of that we try for 2 days he’s off, and no BD on his shift day when he’s away. 

He sent me a long apologetic text when he got to work this morning. I know he’s embarrassed and it’s so frustrating he/I/we can’t just fix it.

I again suggested visual stimulation which he’s open to so maybe that will work. I also initiated last night but it didn’t do much. We do use preseed but just internally at the moment, so maybe we’ll just try it as regular lube. 

OPK was negative this morning but heading in the right direction so I expect a positive either tonight or tomorrow. Hoping he comes home super horny tomorrow (which is doubtful since he works with a bunch of dudes, but hey, miracles happen!) 

Post # 470
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Also, when this happened last cycle, I told him that I would just keep him in the dark as to my FW but he insisted he wanted to know because he feels I shouldn’t be the only one to have to worry about it. But I think since this happened again, I’m going to have to keep the days to myself. 

We were planning to abstain until just before I O. We did slip just after AF but thought he’d be “recharged” by now. I’ve read that holding it doesnt help sperm count, and can actually reduce it after a while, so I’m torn on that aspect. ughh this sucks 😒

Post # 471
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Good news – I got a +OPK this morning and we were able to BD when Darling Husband got home this morning! 

Post # 472
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

HaaaveYouMetTed:  I am so happy to see your good news!! FX this is your cycle, lady!! When are you going to POAS?

Post # 473
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

HaaaveYouMetTed:  Woo hoo! That’s a great feeling of relief right? When you just get it in. And that’s a great day too!! πŸ™‚ FX!!!

AFM today has been slightly better. We put up Grady’s cross at the cemetery. It felt nice to do that for him. And when the ground settles in a few months we will get a nice headstone. 

Post # 474
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

HaaaveYouMetTed:  yay!! Was hoping to hear u and Darling Husband were able to get busy today! Wow, awkward sentence. You know what I mean…

FreckledFox:  Glad you’re doing a little better today. I know it’s cliche to say but time really does help. 

AFM, my RE never really told me when to come back in for monitoring. Today is CD8 and I won’t be able to go in until the weekend. Based on previous cycles, I usually don’t O on femara until CD18/19, so timing for that should be fine. Timing to do our first IUI on the hand, not so great. I finish summer session next Thursday and we’re not supposed to miss the last or second to last days… The days that IUI would probably fall on. Darling Husband thinks I should just do what I gotta do and not worry about work. It’s just complicated. Crossing fingers timing will work out some how. 

Post # 475
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

howsweetitis:  Thanks!! AF is due 8/15, but I O’d late so that might be pushed back a day or two. I’m really going to try and hold off until AF is late (or later than I would expect) but I’ll probably cave like usual and test maybe 8/14??

FreckledFox:  Thank you! Yes, huge relief. I of course wish we had been able to get more BDing in.. we only hit O-4 and O-1, but all it takes is once, right!? I’m glad you are having a good day! πŸ™‚ 

Kabatchy2be:  Seriously lol’d! I know what you mean πŸ™‚ I hope everything falls into place for you!

Post # 476
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Buzzing bee

HaaaveYouMetTed:  Sorry about BD issues. I totally get the disapointing/frustrated feeling. Have you thought of maybe doign IUIs? I have heard that REs do them not only in cases of fertility issues, but also if couple is struggling to BD.  It would take the stress off you tracking everything, if do it with a trigger shot, the clinic times everything perfectlry, don’t even need to use OPKs and he has to “produce the sample”  only once, and BD for fun when feels like it. Clomid-trigger-IUI are not that expensive, maybe good timing is all that is needed to do the trick for you.

Post # 477
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

solnishko1186:  I actually just started looking into IUIs this week! I think I’m going to give it a little more time. This is our 4th cycle trying since MC, only 2 did we have decent timing, and the last 2 he’s had issues. He’s never had problems before – just since we’ve started TTC. I think (and hope) if we DO have a couple more unsuccessful cycles, the stress of it for him will subside. But IUI(s) is definitely something I’m keeping in mind!

Post # 478
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

HaaaveYouMetTed:  solnishko1186:  that’s actually one of the reasons Darling Husband and I are trying IUI this cycle. We’re already doing femara and trigger so we (I) figured IUI could be worth a shot to take one BD off the table. Here’s hoping..!!

Post # 479
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213 posts
Helper bee

Coming back to this group again after a second miscarriage.

Roll call:

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): 

Rest cycle.  I had my miscarriage starting June 13 and just got my first period July 27th.  

MC History:

My first miscarriage started on October 13, I had been 6 weeks, 4 days.  My second miscarriage started on June 13th, I had been 8 weeks, but they found the embryo on an ultrasound and it never got past the 6 week mark.

Issues (if any):

I don’t know yet.  It’s a struggle to get any testing done.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc):

Get some sort of testing (blood test for hormones) to rule out easily fixable reasons and just expect another miscarriage?

Link to chart:

What are your biggest challenges right now?

I have absolutely no hope that I’ll have a live baby as the result of my next pregnancy.

Post # 480
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

missadventure85:  My heart breaks every time I see a new name here πŸ™ So sorry for your losses. Please know that SO MANY women go on to have healthy pregnancies and healthy babies after many losses. I can understand how easy it is to lose hope, but try to keep the faith that it will happen! I hope your stay here is short. <3

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