(Closed) JR BM and SM won't show me their dresses! – how would you react?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: would you be pissed?
    Yes. Its my wedding I deserve to know what "important" people are doing! : (55 votes)
    79 %
    no nothing is super matchy anyway it can't be that bad suprises are fun. : (15 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m sorry, you have EIGHT junior bridesmaids?  How many regular bridesmaids do you have?

    Post # 4
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @peachacid:  +1. Anyways, I wouldn’t be happy about them doing that but I also would have told them I have to see the dresses before they purchase them.

    Post # 5
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    4068 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I don’t think you should worry about your stepmum as she doesn’t have to match. As for your JR BMs – yes I think you should see them but so long as their mums followed the instructions colourwise you should be okay. Maybe you could ask to see a colour swatch so you can coordinate flowers (or whatever) better? Blue is a difficult colour because it’s the one our eyes see most shades of so I can understand your frustration. People are funny. ETA I do agree with PP that you should have seen the dresses before purchase but hindsight is a wonderful thing.

    Post # 6
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    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @alishaloo:  

    If they aren’t going to respect you by including you in the process, at least just to see and ask your opinion, then you should fire them all from the wedding party and move forward. That’s just downright ridiculous. 

    Post # 7
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s different that they won’t show you but I mean you did give them the freedom to chose their own dress. What happened if you didn’t like the dress they bought? Would you tell them not to wear it and to buy a new one? That seems a bit contradictory to me, unless they knew you reserved the right to veto beforehand…

    @Sugarpug2012: they’re Junior BMs, so I’m guessing anywhere from 10-13 years old?! I think “firing” them is a bit extreme given their age and role.

    Post # 11
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    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @alishaloo:  that’s so many people.

     

    why won’t they show you?  that’s so weird.  just say, “May I please see?  I want to make sure everything is the way I imagined.”  

    Post # 13
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    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @alishaloo:  What are they all going to do?  Walk down the aisle together?  What kind of guidelines did you give for the dresses?

    Post # 15
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    Is this why you look so unhappy in your avatar picture?

    I wouldn’t worry too much. As long as they stayed within the color scheme you gave them, and you weren’t too intent on them matching anyway, let the girls have their fun.

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