Jr. bridesmaid/flowergirl hair dilemma

posted 10 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’d let them wear flower crowns.  There isn’t really any good reason not to.  I don’t think there is a height requirement on flower crowns.  I considered wearing one for my own wedding, honestly.  If there is a choice that makes a kid happy and doesn’t hurt anyone else, I say go for it.

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2020 - City, State

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aliencereal :  How adorable! I would let them wear the flower crowns. This will seperate your jr bridesmaids from the bridesmaids & make it look like she is helping the little flower girl stay on task. I bet both girls will love it, and it would look adorable in photos! Go for it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I was a flower girl at age 27 and wore a flower crown. There is no age limit!

Post # 5
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Worker bee

I would skip the flower crowns for a few reasons.

1) Any time I’ve seen flower crowns at a wedding, it is the bride wearing it.  Unless it’s a very young flower girl, it reads as a bridal accessory to me. 

2) When you’re standing at the altar with the bridesmaids + Jr maid, it would look strange to have only the jr maid wearing one next to everyone else.

3) It doesn’t sound like you wanted flower crowns in the first place, and you’re just accommodating the 12 year old which is sweet but unnecessary in this instance. 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Definitely let her (and the flower girl) wear the crowns! That will be so cute! I think it’s wonderful that you’re accomodating her and so sweet to make her feel included. As far as the height goes, she may be taller than you and some bridesmaids, but she still looks like a little girl at just 12 years old. So, I wouldn’t analyze that much!

My youngest sister is 11 and will be 12 when we get married next fall. She is our “Maiden of Honor”. We aren’t having a flower girl, but similarly, I’ve been incorporating her in a special ways, giving her options and she has been over the moon. I don’t think we realize in the moment how much these young girls enjoy being included and valued by women they surely look up to a great deal. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

The flower crowns will look adorable. The height issue is irrelevant. If the 12 y/o wants to be helpful and escort the 7 y/o, I think it will work just fine. She can be a hybrid flower girl/junior bridesmaid.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

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aliencereal :  Honestly, you’re thinking about this too hard. You say she “will look like a regular bridesmaid”, but why does that matter? You know what’s going on with your wedding party, so what things “look like” don’t really matter! If you don’t like or want flower crowns, tell her that! Maybe a compromise could be some baby’s breath or another flower in her hair (in the back) so she still has that going on, but you don’t have to worry about the aesthetics being off? 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

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mooncrown : 

1. No one will mistake the 12 year old for the bride, also flower crowns aren’t bridal. For heaven’s sake it isn’t a veil.

2. Who cares. Give the other flower girl a crown too. 

3. What kind of person refuses to accommodate a child’s fantasy for no good reason? 

Op, you are way overthinking this. It’s worth making the girl happy, especially when it’s very little inconvenience to you. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

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aliencereal :  Getting caught up on little things is nearly impossible not to do. At the end of the day, no ones going to notice anyone but you, so give yourself a break on the details!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

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aliencereal :  Years from now, do you really think you are going to care about the aesthetic? 20 years from now will you be looking at your photos and saying, oh I REALLY should have not let her wear that flower crown? Or are you more likely to remember how happy she was to wear it and how nice it was to be able to give someone else a special moment that she will likely remember? 

I think you are caught up in how things will look but at the end of the day, it’s the happiness and love you will remember. 

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