Post # 1
Question all. I am having two of my Fiance’s cousin’s children.. (does that make them second cousins to him ?!) be Jr. Brides’s maids in the wedding.
They are 12 and 13. We asked their parents first and everyting before asking them. One of them lives close, the other on the opposite coast… the one from the opposite coast is coming to visit in February, and I want to take them dress shopping.
My question to you is how to handle the cost of their dresses ? Do I set a budget and talk to their parents about sending them with money ? (and if so how do I bring this up with grace, and make sure the budget will actually be reasonable for them, AND be enough to purchas e a dress ?)
Pay for the dresses and then get reimbursed ?
Just not bring it up and pay for them myself ? (Not REALLY in the budget, but I could prolly make it happen)
I’m at a loss ? I mean I’m not even really sure if their parents thought about the cost of the dress when we asked if they would be willing to let the kids participate, and it hasn’t been discussed at all yet, so any advice on how to discuss this would be helpful, I SUCK and talking about money with people !
Post # 3
Glitter650, Like you, I have a Jr. Bride’s Maid in my wedding party. She’s 12. My Fiance and I asked her parents first…it if would be okay if she could be in our wedding party. They said it was fine. ::YAY!:: She’s like a daughter to us… But anyhow, her parents are paying for her dress. At the same time, their younger daughter is also one of our Flower Girls and their son too, is our Ring Bearer.
Post # 4
It’s really hard to bring up the finances..I say just go with worst case scenario and assume you will pay for it yourself. Be more conscious about the price tag. If you get reimbursed, great, if not, you wouldn’t have spent a an arm and a leg anyway. Just a leg. 🙂
Post # 5
My two young cousins are jr bridesmaid too (10 and 7). I asked my aunt before mentioning it to them. I think acceptance of the responsibility to be in the wedding means acceptance of the associated costs. However, I did try and keep the dresses as reasonably priced as possible!
Post # 6
I agree – I think accepting the responsibility also means accepting the cost. I’d definitely broach the topic with them first, however, and discuss what a reasonable budget is. Alternatively, you could set your colors and let them find their own dresses.
Post # 7
I wanted my nieces and nephews all to be in my 15th aniversary and they range from the age of 3 to 9, (four girls and four boys) my sister in law has three, my first brother has two and my youngest brother has three, so before making it official I sat down and talked to each of them and they agreed to it, I did this with a lot of time before hand so they could make the money arrangements for my siblings clothes, my nieces dresses are going to be made, each dress is $25 and I got a deal with my other sister in law that works with tuxedos for $49 each including everything (the original price was $100). I told my brothers and my sister in law the prices and they were fine with it. I was clear since the begining, I wanted them to be in the anniversary, but if their parents couldn’t afford it, then they wouldn’t be in the anniversary. Just be sincere, tell them that you have a budget, I know they will understand. Good luck.