(Closed) Judged…baby's will be 13 months apart.

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

My two kids are 14 months apart and I.have never come across this type of judgment.It’s your uterus

 

Post # 2
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Bumble bee

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MrsCoest3:  Those people making negative comments are called “assholes.” Congrats to you. Deep breath. It’s going to be wonderful.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I can’t relate, and I’ve never been pregnant… but I thought for a second if someone I knew had a baby and then announced they were pregnant just 6 months later. I think that time seems to go by a lot faster for people who aren’t you and aren’t your family. 6 months flies, it feels like that person you knew who was pregnant JUST had their baby, and now they’re announcing another one. I absolutely don’t mean to imply that their judgement is right, but I understand. There is a certain way that people are used to things happening, and when someone challenges the norm, it’s hard to swallow.

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Busy bee

I am so happy for you! Your children are going to have such an amazing bond. Good for you to be ABLE to have children that close in age. 🙂

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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MrsCoest3:  There’s only a small gap between me and my brother and I love that about us. We’re different in a lot of ways but we have a strong bond since we reached most milestones at the same time. We even went to the same uni at the same time and studied the same subject. 

I don’t understand people who have negative opinions about other people’s children and their age gaps. And I certainly don’t understand why anybody would make snide comments. 

 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

What is wrong with people?! My brother and I are 17 months apart and it’s the best! 

 

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People judge you whether they are too close together or too far apart. Ignore them.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Congrats! I’m not a mom yet, but can’t wait to be one. Any child is a blessing, so it is unfair for people to judge you based upon them being close in age. Besides, it’s great that they’ll be so close in age growing up! 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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MrsCoest3:  I may make a comment if you were really close to me and they were 10 months apart. But 13? That’s normal where I’m from. Congrats!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Eh, as a parent, you’re going to be judged for everything.  You need to get thicker skin.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I’m 13 months older than my sister and she’s 13 months older than my brother! I don’t think it was intentional, but honestly it was really nice to be that close together. I’m sure it wasn’t easy when we were all very young, but we really bonded and are still close even though we’re adults now. I would definitely see it as a postive thing!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

To be honest there is no winning when it comes to public opinion. Too close, too far apart, no kids, only child, multple kids you can not please everyone. Don’t worry bee. Just hope for a healthy baby. My mom and her older sister are that close in age and they are great friends. My nieces are that close and it’s great. So is one of my BM’s and her  brother and they are also best friends. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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MrsCoest3:  I would think you’re really gift grabby if you have a second shower.  I don’t agree with second showers but that’s just me.

My boyfriend has a brother and sister that are 10 months apart.  His parents call her the bonus baby and they are the youngest of 5 kids.  I asked his mom once how she handled having two so close in addition to the others (and she worked!) and she said she got into a routine very early.  The two would eat and nap at the same time.  She treated them almost like twins. She also had help from friends and family so she accepted their help whenever they offered, even if it was just to watch them for an hour.

My sister just announced she is pregnant with her 4th child and numbers 3 and 4 will be 13 months apart.  She’s actually not worried at all.   She’s super organized and gets a ton of help from her husband.

It sounds overwhelming now but I have no doubt you’ll get through it.  Just take it one day at a time and ignore those that are judgy.

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