- 3 months ago
- Wedding: September 2018
my husband and I just bought a new house and decided that we really wanted to furnish it with all new furniture. We saved and budgeted for it, so it’s no big deal for us. We’ve lived in an apartment with hand-me-down furniture for 5 years, everything from couches to end tables to the bedroom set. It’s all from family who moved, neighbors who died, things like that. Long story short, we have our own house and we wanted our own furniture.
When in-laws learned we bought a house, the assumed we would be getting new furniture and started sending us ads from Craigslist for couches, tables, washers and dryers. We thanked them, but didn’t say what our plan was. Every couple of days they’d text us “did you contact the guy from Craigslist yet?”. We never had any intention of doing so, so we just would tell them we have a plan for furniture. They have a history of butting in, so we keep details minimal with them. They’re not very tech savvy so the ads they were sending us were questionable at best, “scam likely” at worst. They thought they were doing us a favor by helping us save money.
Anyway, we got new everything. In-laws came over one day and noticed that the furniture they got was not what they sent us on Craigslist. They asked why, asked why we down the money, told us it was an outrageous expense when they provided us with perfectly good options, all that. We just said “We wanted to”.
Ever since then, the in-laws have been questioning our finances and spending. They think we went broke doing this when in reality, we spent less then $10,000 and it was money we saved and budgeted for. We have a baby on the way and they think we’re taking away from the baby. It’s ridiculous. We’ve been avoiding contact with them. My Father-In-Law is an actual millionaire and he’s very frugal. Shops at the dollar store, buying used things online, grocery shops out of the “day old” and expired section at the grocery store. He feels this has contributed to his success and he thinks everyone else should be doing this too if they be like him. And I think he’s projecting it on us.
Should we just take our time away from them and ignore them? I don’t really want to invite them over anymore. We don’t owe them any explanations for our finances or our spending, or I think they don’t. Should husband say something or just ignore them?