Post # 1
Well, this was a bit in the past, but a little of an emotional vent.
We wanted our invitations to be unique, and there was no greater way than to make thme completely custom. My brother deigned them, and every line is written by a different member of the family. It looks awesome!
I posted them for my bridemaids when they were finished, and my two oldest friends (one my MOH) were a leetle critical. I guess the part that was frustrating to me is that what they pointed out, I was insecure about as well, and was hoping to just get some encouragement that they look okay.
“The green is a liiiittle overpowering but they are both so cute!” <br />My Explanation…followed by:<br />”At one point you were thinking gray?“<br />It’s a little too late to change the entire background now, and gray is being used as an outline. I’ve seen them printed and they’re not too bright at all.
“I LOVE the fonts. The “Y” and “a” in You are seem like the only goofy spots. Like a marker was struggling?”
I guess I was sad because I wasn’t asking for their opinion, because they were finished. I just wanted people to see them becuase I was excited and it kind of backfired.
This was the response I was looking for (answers from others):
“OH MY GOD IT IS PERFECT!!! I AM DYING!“
“I LOVE ITTT!!!“
“I loooove the RSVP card.”
Post # 2
MissOtter: that’s tough to deal with, especially when you were already feeling insecure about something, but it’s just what happens when you show things to people. Unless you’re explicit (“this is the final draft and we will not be changing anything moving forward”), it’s going to come across as you soliciting advice, especially from your bridal party.
I’d take the comments as not judging, but simply them trying to make sure your invites are perfect.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
MissOtter: So, from my understanding you only wanted them to coddle you? You didn’t want actual thoughts – meant to be constructive? You just wanted them to blow smoke?
I don’t understand why you asked them then?
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
If a bride posted it for me to see before they went out, my initial thoughts would be that she wants my opinion. Sorry they didn’t completely love them. 🙁
EDIT: Also, I don’t think they were being harsh AT ALL. They seemed to be very nice about their suggestions.
Post # 5
I wasn’t asking. I said literally this: “Look, they’re completely and finally finished!”
It wasn’t necessarily an invite to comment, I was just excited about them and wanted to share. I just wasn’t exepecting any critiques at this point, and got them anyway.
Post # 6
LMD: I guess I’m just kind of reading them in their voices, and so it lent to the judgment. They are both pretty critical. So I knew by, “They’re a liiittle overpowering,” she means, “wow, i really hate that.” and with her second comment: “you should change the color on it immediately.”
Post # 7
I realize you’re invested in your wedding planning process… but in the grand scheme of life, this really doesn’t matter. At all.
Most of your invites are going to get tossed out anyway. I think I’ve kept maybe one wedding invitation from a wedding I attended. They have a purpose… which isn’t simply to look pretty.
If you care about one or two people nitpicking tiny details of something so small as wedding invitations, you’re going to have a hell of a time planning this wedding.
I am sure they look just fine. Even if they didn’t, then so what?
Post # 8
MissOtter: Hey, I feel ya. Sometimes we just want people to be excited for/with us! It’s disappointing to get a different reaction than what we expected/hoped for. But brush it off and send out those invites! You’re going to have a great wedding!
Post # 9
canarydiamond: homegirl, i feel you. at this point i just want to throw in the towl and say wheatever shows up there that day will show up.
howtobeawife: exactly. 🙂 thanks!
Post # 10
I don’t think what they said was all that bad, anyway. You asked for their opinions, and you knew they are both “pretty critical” (your words) of things, so I’m not sure what you expected. I’m sure they look fine, and as long as your guests show up where they’re supposed to, they served their purpose, whether or not the green was overpowering or the Y looked like it was struggling.
Post # 11
That is a super cool idea for your invitations!
Post # 12
MissOtter: Exactly!! This isn’t worth making yourself miserable.
Post # 13
Tigerlilybride: they turned out super!
abbie017: I just didn’t really ask, so I guess I was just expecting the wrong thing.
I’m not worried about it now, they’re in the mail to my house right now! Just thought it might stir the pot for this morning.
Post # 14
It would’ve been nice if they had just said “cool” and left it at that. But, since you noticed the same flaws they did, it’s not really fair to be upset at them for noticing it too. Are you willing to post the invites here? It sounds really set the way you had each person write a line.
Post # 15
MissOtter: I’m sorry, I might have interpreted it like they did and thought you wanted comments. They probably thought you were looking for opinions, which sometimes means a little bad with the good (and it sounds like there was only a little bad). It’s pretty much impossible for everyone to love something equally, since we all have different taste.