(Closed) Judging someone on name?

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
630 posts
Busy bee

I wouldn’t necessarily say “judge” someone, but if I see an interesting name, I may picture the person that goes along with that name. For example, a couple of years ago, we were hiring at work, and I saw the list of people they were interviewing, and we had a Lorenzo and a Ruby on the list. Both names I don’t hear often, both names I automatically started picturing the people who had them. For Lorenzo, I pictures a tall, long haired, deep voiced Italian man (think romance novel cover-esque) and for Ruby, a tiny, wispy-ish girl with a mousy voice.


FTR, I was WAY off on both counts.


Post # 4
9146 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@cbco:  I wouldn’t say judge but certain names create expectations on the part of the listener.  I used to review lots of resumes and call back people for interviews.  Unisex names are tough because you’re not sure to ask for Mr. or Ms. when calling that person for an interview.  Names we couldn’t begin to pronounce tended to get tossed out pretty quickly (use an initial on your resume if you have a really tough first name.)  Older generation names like Dorothy and Beverly usually implied an older applicant.  And so on and so on.

In picking out a name for your baby, remember that at some point it’s going to be on a resume or behind the word Doctor.  Try out the name with different phrases and please dear lord make sure it’s pronounceable based on the spelling.

Post # 5
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I tend not to judge adults for the mistakes of their parents! However, I do admit to being a tad “eye-rolly” about some of the sillier names that people give their babies. Because, like it or not, you can choose whether your child has to bear the sort of naming burden that will affect them throughout their lives. Unusual is OK provided it is pronounceable, but for goodness sake, spell it correctly!  I wince at the awfulness of Oylyveeah or Rylly. 

My mother (who I think deluded herself that this was a real possibility) always reminded me that the Royal Family had yet to welcome a Prince Elvis into their ranks so I needed to be appropriately thoughtful when naming any children I had. But actually, the general theory is a good one. Especially if you add “Doctor” rather than “Princess” to the process.

Post # 6
630 posts
Busy bee

@Steampunkbride:  Funny you mention that name, my FI originally wanted to name a future son Elvis. I veto’d that. Instead, we have a cat named Elvis.

Post # 8
8640 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think a highly trendy  or  unique name can say  more about the parents than it does about the person with the name! 

Post # 9
6865 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I definitely judge peope by their names, before and after meeting them. I’m not going to give any examples because I don’t want to get flagged by anyone with that name. But there are “stripper names” (and when I hear someone has given their daughter a “stripper name” I wonder why they’re dooming her to work the pole); “thug names” that give you the image of someone who wants to start a criminal empire; “weirdo” names where you can tell the parents read way too much sci-Fi/fantasy/true blood/Harry potter; and so forth. 

Names carry a lot of meaning, and they can trigger a huge amount of emotion and even prejudice. It’s really important to factor that in when naming a baby. Genuinely I can’t understand why some people have chosen to hang their kids with such horrible names. 

Post # 10
4499 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t necessarily judge them, but sometimes I judge their parents. I had a professor in college whose name was Harvest Moon. I mean… yes, I automatically thought her parents must have been hippies lol. I also kind of judge people if they have a “stripperesque” name. I just wonder what on earth their parents were thinking. These days with all the made-up sounding names there are I often just think, “well their parents were trying way too hard to be different.”

I work with a girl that gets judged by her name. Her name is Shanequia and she says that people always make assumptions based on it. She has a very strong resume, but was not getting any calls back for jobs. She shortened her name to Shan on applications and the calls came rolling in.

Post # 11
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I don’t judge people on their ridiculous names.  I judge their parents for naming them those ridiculous names. 

Post # 12
1312 posts
Bumble bee

I’d also be more likely to wonder what people’s parents were thinking when I hear a weird name, with one exception.

My family’s from Hong Kong, which is a former British colony, so it’s normal for people to have English names (even though English is not their mother tongue).  Some are given English names by their parents (like in my family), but there are people who are only given Chinese names by their parents, and they adopt/choose English names themselves later when they’re older.  Some people pick really weird names, just to be unique.

Like last night, I was watching a singing competition or something on TV and some girl’s name was Rainky. RAINKY.  WTF is that?  So in such situations, I will be a judgy jerk. 😛

Post # 13
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

There are a few that come through the pharmacy where we’re all like “Oh, that poor child!”. Just some REALLY bad old-lady names attached to newborn baby girls, naming kids after gas stations and random colors, etc. I like old-timey names, don’t get me wrong, but some of them just need to go away because they are downright ugly!

Post # 14
452 posts
Helper bee

@Steampunkbride:  That is why I named my daughter after a queen and my son after an Apostle. 🙂

Post # 15
452 posts
Helper bee

@Ellicott:  +a million. We don’t (to an extent) get to pick our own names. 

My DH has a terribly long Polish last name (with not enough vowels and too many consonants). People always make comments–to both of us–about that “mouthful of a last name” and “boy, how do you pronounce that?!” He finally got tired of it and said, “You know, I didn’t get to pick it”


Post # 16
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Not really……but I have to admit.  My ex, who I really have a nice friendship with, named his daughter Jailyn.  Pronounced “Jail-in”  That is such a godawful name and….I’m going to get so much hate for this, sounds really, really trashy IMO.

Oh and let’s not forget the name CINNAMON!  Cinnamon was scheduled to help me at the wedding dress boutique.  It sounded like a stripper’s name but she was the cutest, sweetest middle aged woman I have ever met.  


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