(Closed) Judgment Free Zone – Tell me about your "bridezilla" moments!

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Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

i’ve had a couple PMS induced bridezilla moments lol. one was just a couple nights ago. i freaked out on Fiance ab the budget. 8 months out. i sure know how to create a problem when there isnt one lol

also, i took my BMs to see my venue a few months back. one of them was in the midst of planning her wedding. I was telling them an idea i had ab aisle decor, she says “oh i love that!” i snapped & said “You better not steal it!!!” lord. so embarassaed!! i apologized & she totally understood lol

Fiance is quite the groomzilla, but refuses to admit it haha

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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alexsquared:  well I told a friend of mine how stressed I was about all of the planning that needed to be done (mostly the trying to keep on budget part) and got called a bridezilla for that. So if that makes me a bridezilla, then I guess it’s an unavoidable label I’ll be wearing for the next 11 months 😛

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sigh, I cannot believe that I am posting on this thread… I am, as the people who are stressing me out included state, very laid back, nonchalant, and flexible. First, Maid/Matron of Honor insisted on getting her dress from some weird website. MY other Bridesmaid or Best Man went into the store. All I asked was to have matching colors and that did not happen. I was pissed, but Maid/Matron of Honor had no idea. Let’s jump to today. It is about 1 month before the wedding. Maid/Matron of Honor dress never fit. Then she tried to zip it up and the zipper broke and cannot be fixed. She has to buy a whole new dress. She totally wasted so much money. I am willing to bet that her dresses cost more than mine ($200)… She is still going to buy it from the same website, sigh…

Also, Maid/Matron of Honor pissed off Bridesmaid or Best Man so much, that Bridesmaid or Best Man is not going to the shower. I love Maid/Matron of Honor and I have known her for going on 2 decades. It is MOH’s fault. She is very into herself and does not communicate in a proper time frame (for example, Bridesmaid or Best Man texted her and she took and entire month to text her back and it was her idea to text instead of calling in the first place)… Is it a surprise that she was kicked out of another wedding previously?!

Oh, the cake is still NOT DONE. I have not tasted any yet. The original bakery had a huge fire and now I am dealing with another one in the franchise, but with different owners. The girl has a crazy schedule, as do I, so it has been hard to plan something. I have something to do every weekend up until the wedding! I should have been a b*tch rather than loyally waiting for the original bakery to get it together.

I have to fire the original photographer. He is a liar and a cheat. I am booking a new one this weekend. He is amazing and calmed me right down. He said the first guy was inexperienced and unaware of how to run a business. The contract was poorly written. I paid $120 for engagement pics that I will never see, oh wait, he put 3 up on his website that he has been using for promotions. He either deleted the rest or they all came out like sh*t. This is going to cost me more money than I had anticipated, but at least the new guy has a good reputation and is more likely to show up to the freaking wedding… The first guy cited child-care as an excuse for not showing up to get the deposit, sigh…

There have been other hiccups with family and friends. Some may not make it due to finances, etc (I changed my venue to ensure it would be easier for everyone to come). Others are having personal issues. The officiant lost her mother-in-law and son recently! I am only having 50ish people, this should not be so freaking difficult!!! Why, oh why now?! I have been engaged over 2 years and now everything is jacked up. I also have to deal with the really needy girl at work who is depressed over her Boyfriend or Best Friend. He was a loser, and never really treated her right despite what she tells herself. I wish she would focus on work and perhaps going back to school. She has a lot of debt (a chunk from her wedding, she is divorced) from credit cards and medical bills from when she was unemployed until now. Like, don’t you have bigger fish to fry?! That man didn’t even pay for her meals without her begging him to… Anyway, I have my own problems!!! It is hard to be encouraging to other people when you are trying to work on your own situation. Also, she is Debbie Downer with some of the things that I tell her and gives me unsolicited advice. Don’t get me started with work. New manager=pain in the a*s+ more work! I also just turned 30 and had a panic over that.

Did I forget to mention that this is all happening NOW? The month before the wedding. I wish people would stop asking me about it. Yesterday, I cried (after almost being hit in my car from the back by a dummy who was not paying attention). Fiance knew about it and told me to come home and go to bed. He feels like I should let him be responsible for some things because the burden of this is getting to me. I just couldn’t hold it in. I also broke out into a rash. I think it is a mixture of eating something I should not have and freaking out. I have not had a ddamn rash in years. It is not very noticable, but God willing it will be gone by the wedding. I have not gone off on anyone, but I am planning to take my rage out on the crappy photographer. I am going to trash him every chance I get. Also, FI’s car is having issues. I am still not sure his dad and dad’s wife can come… The list goes on. Oh, and I am in school and have midterms (took one today) and final project/exam to think about. They will be complete RIGHT before the wedding.

I noticed a new white hair the other day, what a shock. I asked Fiance if he wanted to elope, haha! I wish that we had just had a small wedding with us, our son, my Bridesmaid or Best Man, and one Groomsmen and then went to Japan and had a little Japanese wedding while on our honeymoon for two weeks. It likely would have costed the same as the wedding and honeymoon that I am having combined… Too late, but we may do that in 5-7 years for our anniversary.

Post # 20
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Busy bee

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bebelicious1:  you sound like me before my wedding. My only advice is every time you have to plan something or follow something up, make sure you have a glass of wine in your hand. 

Vendors are a pain in the ass. But my day turned out perfect and yours will too! 

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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nyxtrade:  I totally understand.  We sent out rsvps a little over 3 months early.  All they had to do was say if they were coming or not and put it in the mail.  We are still missing about half out of 130 people and the wedding is in three weeks.  I know people who haven’t rsvped are coming, but I need to know how many!  I’ve had to start contacting people and gotten the strangest excuses for why they were sent in. It’s just becoming a big pain for something that should be simple.  At least your people are texting you!

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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maiapal:  I’m having the same problem and it is making me ragey. Everyone got their rehearsal dinner invite already – ONE email rsvp so far. And we’re still missing about 40 response cards and they’ve got a week and a half to send them back at this point. 

The weird part is, when I called the hotel to see how our room block was going, there are ALL these rooms booked for people who have not responded. So they are coming, and they obviously had the time to book a room, but haven’t found time to mark an ‘x’ on a pre-stamped card and put it in the mail. Lovely.

I know this happens to everyone, but it is making me NUTS.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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alexsquared:  Thats just bad customer service. I would have definitely called corporate after that. As for my bridezilla moment…I have gotten aggravated about a few things but manage to calmly explain why certain things will happen a certain way. For example, we will not have an open bar for our rehearsal because I do not want my groom and bridal party to be hammered prior to the wedding day (or hung over). I am sure there will be other things since the wedding is 10 months away 🙂

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was actually thinking about this earlier.  The only “moment” I had was after the wedding.  My best friend/brand-new sister in law, who was one of my bridesmaids, didn’t show up at the after party when she should have (we’d all gone to our rental to change into normal clothes, and we left from there at the same time), and didn’t show up…and didn’t show up.  We’d driven by where they’d parked, and so I left the bar to go find them.  Her boyfriend was pouting and yelling at her because we’d invited someone who used to date her.  I knocked on her window, and she opened the door, and I was like, “I don’t care what problem you have with our wedding, Sam, but you’re ruining my night because Penelope isn’t there to share it with me.  I’m not leaving until she comes with me.”  She came right away.  

 

UGH I cannot stand him.  

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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FireLily0:  Haha, I think corporate would have been like, “It’s against our religious sensibilities to provide decent customer service.  The Supreme Court has our back.”

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I just got done bawling my eyes out over having to skip our cake tasting tomorrow. We were camping up at the state park where we intend to get married, but the weather was awful and someone’s car alarm kept us up all night. My Fiance starts a new job on Monday, and there was no way we could take another night like last night and have him rested up like he needs to be. We made the call to just go home, but I’m still super bummed about it.

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t go full on bridezilla until a few days before my wedding.  To be fair, a lot of crap was thrown at both husband and I in those few days – our pastor backed out on us without giving any reason, my soon-to-be-inlaws were suffocating me by being much too present, and a thousand little things were forgotten or dropped or went wrong.  When my husband decided to have a “serious” conversation with me about being one table linen short, I lost it on him.  It was such a small thing, and yet he was treating it like it was a major concern, and I’d just had enough!  I pulled him away from everyone and we had a serious convo.  I then walked back to the house (the reception we were planning was at our home) and told everyone that I was physically and emotionally incapable of making one more decision for the day.  

I’m glad I did it!  Everyone left me alone and I was able to recoup.  Sometimes, when the pressure is on, you just need to stand up for your mental health.  Anyone who cares about you won’t hold it against you!

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper

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alexsquared:  I haven’t had too many to be honest. I got mad at my OH for leaving his made-to-measure suit to the last minute (it was pretty much the ONLY thing he was responsible for!), but I think that was justified, and then my other moment was when my mum said ‘Umm, your dad is thinking about getting changed in the evening…’ I was like, ‘OK?’ and she then goes on to tell me that he has planning on changing into jeans, a short-sleeved shirt, and a bright red sports jacket. My mouth literally fell open and I was like ‘Oh HELL no!’

Again though I think it was justified, as in the UK weddings are often split into day guests, and evening guests. We’ve made every effort to make sure our evening guests feel as included as possible, and for me, that includes the bridal party and parents still looking smart in the evening to welcome them. That and everyone will be dressed up and he would look ridiculous!

I’ve also been fussier than I thought I would be, but I tend to keep that to myself and it causes stress for me more than anyone else lol

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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alexsquared:  Ugh that’s so frusterating! Did you eventually get your bowls?

I had one of these moments when the bridal shop LOST. MY. DRESS. They sent me a package that was supposed to have my dress (but only had my accessories) when i called them to get the tracking info for my dress (thinking it was just shipped seperately) they couldnt find it! They gave me the same “we are looking for it and will call you back” line… and they never called me. I gave them 3 hours before actually calling angrily demanding to know where it was.. AND they said they hadn’t even started looking because they were too busy with other customers!! What’s more important than a LOST bridal gown?! Eventually i spoke to the shipping manager and she took care of everything, and shipped my dress overnight free of charge.

I probably would not have gotten mad if they would have just communicated with me instead of rushing me off the phone, not calling me back, and stating they were “too busy to look for it” Thank god i have my dress now!!

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I threw a tantrum the day of my wedding. My three guests were very late and that ruined my plans. I wanted my girls to help me get dressed; I had bubbly and appetizers for them.

The person who was driving my friends was a cheap fool. He was dating one of my buddies. The day before my husband and I went to the resort, he bombarded us with calls complaining about the cost of a rental car. We did not tell him to rent a vehicle; he decided to do that on his own and then expected us to pay for it. I found out later that my friend was talking shit about me to her man and sharing secrets. He was dumb enough to confront me about my past. He also refused to smile in the pictures. 

This is part of the reason we are renewing our vows; my husband and I want to have a ceremony that goes well for us. We also want to share a special moment with my family. 

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