Sigh, I cannot believe that I am posting on this thread… I am, as the people who are stressing me out included state, very laid back, nonchalant, and flexible. First, Maid/Matron of Honor insisted on getting her dress from some weird website. MY other Bridesmaid or Best Man went into the store. All I asked was to have matching colors and that did not happen. I was pissed, but Maid/Matron of Honor had no idea. Let’s jump to today. It is about 1 month before the wedding. Maid/Matron of Honor dress never fit. Then she tried to zip it up and the zipper broke and cannot be fixed. She has to buy a whole new dress. She totally wasted so much money. I am willing to bet that her dresses cost more than mine ($200)… She is still going to buy it from the same website, sigh…
Also, Maid/Matron of Honor pissed off Bridesmaid or Best Man so much, that Bridesmaid or Best Man is not going to the shower. I love Maid/Matron of Honor and I have known her for going on 2 decades. It is MOH’s fault. She is very into herself and does not communicate in a proper time frame (for example, Bridesmaid or Best Man texted her and she took and entire month to text her back and it was her idea to text instead of calling in the first place)… Is it a surprise that she was kicked out of another wedding previously?!
Oh, the cake is still NOT DONE. I have not tasted any yet. The original bakery had a huge fire and now I am dealing with another one in the franchise, but with different owners. The girl has a crazy schedule, as do I, so it has been hard to plan something. I have something to do every weekend up until the wedding! I should have been a b*tch rather than loyally waiting for the original bakery to get it together.
I have to fire the original photographer. He is a liar and a cheat. I am booking a new one this weekend. He is amazing and calmed me right down. He said the first guy was inexperienced and unaware of how to run a business. The contract was poorly written. I paid $120 for engagement pics that I will never see, oh wait, he put 3 up on his website that he has been using for promotions. He either deleted the rest or they all came out like sh*t. This is going to cost me more money than I had anticipated, but at least the new guy has a good reputation and is more likely to show up to the freaking wedding… The first guy cited child-care as an excuse for not showing up to get the deposit, sigh…
There have been other hiccups with family and friends. Some may not make it due to finances, etc (I changed my venue to ensure it would be easier for everyone to come). Others are having personal issues. The officiant lost her mother-in-law and son recently! I am only having 50ish people, this should not be so freaking difficult!!! Why, oh why now?! I have been engaged over 2 years and now everything is jacked up. I also have to deal with the really needy girl at work who is depressed over her BF. He was a loser, and never really treated her right despite what she tells herself. I wish she would focus on work and perhaps going back to school. She has a lot of debt (a chunk from her wedding, she is divorced) from credit cards and medical bills from when she was unemployed until now. Like, don’t you have bigger fish to fry?! That man didn’t even pay for her meals without her begging him to… Anyway, I have my own problems!!! It is hard to be encouraging to other people when you are trying to work on your own situation. Also, she is Debbie Downer with some of the things that I tell her and gives me unsolicited advice. Don’t get me started with work. New manager=pain in the a*s+ more work! I also just turned 30 and had a panic over that.
Did I forget to mention that this is all happening NOW? The month before the wedding. I wish people would stop asking me about it. Yesterday, I cried (after almost being hit in my car from the back by a dummy who was not paying attention). Fiance knew about it and told me to come home and go to bed. He feels like I should let him be responsible for some things because the burden of this is getting to me. I just couldn’t hold it in. I also broke out into a rash. I think it is a mixture of eating something I should not have and freaking out. I have not had a ddamn rash in years. It is not very noticable, but God willing it will be gone by the wedding. I have not gone off on anyone, but I am planning to take my rage out on the crappy photographer. I am going to trash him every chance I get. Also, FI’s car is having issues. I am still not sure his dad and dad’s wife can come… The list goes on. Oh, and I am in school and have midterms (took one today) and final project/exam to think about. They will be complete RIGHT before the wedding.
I noticed a new white hair the other day, what a shock. I asked Fiance if he wanted to elope, haha! I wish that we had just had a small wedding with us, our son, my Bridesmaid or Best Man, and one Groomsmen and then went to Japan and had a little Japanese wedding while on our honeymoon for two weeks. It likely would have costed the same as the wedding and honeymoon that I am having combined… Too late, but we may do that in 5-7 years for our anniversary.