(Closed) Judgment from coworkers about having money.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
Hostess
3085 posts
Sugar bee

Stop discussing your finances with your co-workers!! They do not need to know all this information about your finances. It’s none of their business what your budget is for the wedding. Practice saying “Oh, we aren’t sure yet” or “we are taking a look at our budget”. That’s really all you need to say.

Post # 3
Member
3989 posts
Honey bee

I didn’t read your whole post, but the more I read the more I just kept thinking “quit over sharing!!”. If you talk about money, you’re going to give people ammo to judge. I was raised in a household where it was considered extremely tacky to discuss money, so talking about budgets and giving people wedding and ring details is just opening the door for lots of judgement and inappropriate conversation that would die down if you kept a tighter lip. 

Post # 4
Member
1071 posts
Bumble bee

Nobody needs to know your credit score. You are an oversharer. I can see why people would be annoyed. 

Post # 5
Member
7445 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Keep your financial information private and don’t let people lure you into discussions about money.

Post # 6
Member
910 posts
Busy bee

I think the best way to avoid this kind of awkwardness is to not discuss personal financial matters in the professional setting, which is a good general policy. You can be friendly and participate in conversation with your coworkers while also being politely vague about your own situation/choices. You don’t need to give details (especially about prices or how you’re paying for things!), and honestly it sounds like those conversations are becoming a distraction from your work.

You can get things back on track and put the focus back on your performance by knocking off the money talk.

Post # 7
Member
2328 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Do you guys actually do any work? Or just discuss cash?

Post # 8
Member
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This could all be eliminated by not speaking of financial matters with co-workers, or frankly anyone who’s not paying your bills. 

If you’re impressed with yourself and feel the need to brag because you have a 2 carat engagement ring, or because you’re paying 30k for your wedding, don’t be. In some areas that’s pretty standard. 

Post # 9
Member
6353 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I think you share too much information about yourself and your circumstances.  Keep yourself busy at work, that’ll help.

Post # 10
Member
9459 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

I get why you are confused.. you are open about your financial situation because you are young and it sounds like you never learnt to avoid talking about money.

well, now is a good time to learn: don’t talk about money. some people don’t care, sure, but many people get envious and will take out frustrations on you. others will try to use you. 

previous posters have good suggestions. don’t go in to detail, just say “oh yeah, for sure” when someone gives you financial advice or warnings and smile and nod.  stop correcting people.. it doesn’t matter what they think, so long as you do your job well and with a good attitude.

Post # 11
Member
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Innerdonught :  lolololo!! Just discuss cash!! 

Your very long post comes off humble braggish. “Oh my co-workers are bagging on me because my wedding and ring is more expensive.” Whoopedy doo. Let people wonder … the more nuggets you give them the more they can be thrown at you. Next time they ask, just change the subject or give a vague answer! 

Post # 12
Member
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

duchessfriedrich :  It’s not even humblebragging–it’s just straight-up bragging. 

Post # 13
Member
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

They have ammo against you because you give it to them. 

How much are you spending on your wedding? What is comfortable in our budget

How much was your ring? I don’t know, didn’t ask

It must be nice to have such a large ring. It is thank you, I was very surprised in the ring he chose 

Post # 15
Member
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

hairstylist101 :  Make up stuff, then. They’ll get the message. 

Q: “How much are you paying for your wedding?”

A: “One miiiiiiilion dollars!”

Q: “Who’s paying for your wedding?”

A: “Donald Trump and the Easter bunny!”

I often work more than 40 hours a week, in a small office with the same people, and yet I still don’t get questions from colleagues about my finances. Clearly I’m working in the wrong place!

 

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