(Closed) July Brides – what's currently annoying you?

posted 5 years ago in July 2014
Post # 16
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261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m only worried about two things:

1. My family doesn’t get along with each other. I’m praying no fighting that day.

2. These ppl who my fiance considers his 2nd family hates me. I don’t want the stress of them showing up. It’s hard because I know he wants them there but I don’t feel happy knowing they’re there. It makes me sick to my stomach.

Post # 17
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Wow… lots of people have all sorts of drama.  My wedding is an a month from today and none of the crazy drama here- I have a few close friends that haven’t bought their plane tickets yet and they will be pricy now (I’m having a family only bridal party), but they said they are coming.  It isn’t really stressing me out- they seem to rather pay a high price than avoid procrastination so that is their call.  

RSVPs are due tomorrow and we still have TONS we haven’t received.  I know a bunch will trickle in late, but I’m sure we will have to contact a bunch of people to ask.  

My officiant is pretty impossible to contact and our ceremony is a tad bit disorganized, but other than that I feel like everything is right on track.  

Post # 18
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Soon2BeMrsS:  We looked into these, but they were a bit out of our budget.  I ended up making streamer wands (kind of like ribbon wands but much longer and more colorful) to give a similar effect to these.  It seems like bubbles and things that aren’t actually thrown are usually the only options.  We knew we didn’t want bubbles- they are very pretty but kind of like people spitting on you!

Post # 19
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

So…my marriage commissioner whom I booked last year talked to my aunt about how she has a wedding to do the day of my wedding. My aunt contacted my mom to tell me she may have messed up the date I booked her for. Nope, she didn’t she asked if she could cancel doing mine so that she can perform a family friends wedding because they changed the date and her dad passed away amongst a few other things. So yeah, she said she will work around what we want to do but she will have to marry us the day before or the weekend before the wedding.

I feel bad asking her to drive 3.5hrs to “legally” marry us the night before and then drive the 3.5hrs back to do the other wedding the next morning, such a waste of gas. So I guess we are getting married the weekend before…no other choice. :S we are just going to fake signing papers the day of the wedding I guess.

Post # 20
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Newbee

I think planning a wedding period can get annoying at times…i feel at times no one cares about our wedding & i haven’t felt the support i was looking for…or thought i would have planning our wedding..some current annoying things are 2 bms still dont have their dresses ..we are 38 days away..1 bm dropped out..1 of my brothers doesnt want to pay for his tux..i am just at the point i dont care anymore..its about US so who ever cant get with the program..can get lost!!

Post # 21
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180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

24 days to go and my dress isn’t in yet.

I have fallen for another dress!

I still have lots of fiddly jobs to do.

And yes to the rsvps!!! Just respond already!

Post # 22
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471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

31 days to go for me! But I am not having my reception until 5 days later (elopement wedding) so luckily I don’t have any bridesmaid dramas or anything. My only real drama is that I have decided to change caterers so I need to go do all of that at some point.

I am also doing everything DIY for my reception and I keep looking at all the piles of stuff around me waiting to get done and.. I don’t even know where to start! I am also doing my own wedding dress alterations, including adding sleeves, so I have quite a bit on my plate. Maybe I shouldn’t have taken that nap tonight… 

Post # 23
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982 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

weatherbug:  I’ve got one now. Exactly 3 weeks out from the wedding and I get a text from Future Mother-In-Law switching someone’s RSVP from No to Yes. Seriously?! Like its no big deal. Our wedding is not a family BBQ where you can change your mind last minute. We’ve already turned in our headcount to the venue and done the seating. 

Post # 24
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746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This is long…I’ve got two weeks to go, overall things are going pretty well.  But I would like to hear from my caterer.  He’s not the greatest at communicating.  I wish he would just confirm with me or something.

The biggest thing I’ve had to deal with is my cake.  The woman that’s doing my cake has a great reputation in our small tight knit community (pop 10,000).  But as I found out is totally unorganized. 

After our inital meeting with my Fiance and I we didn’t hear from her for months.  Which was okay as we had plenty of time until the day of.  Fast forward 3+months and still not hearing anything I email her and ask about the sketches for the cake.  No response.  Two plus weeks later I email again.  No response.  After another 10 days I call and leave a message on her cell.  That night at 11am I receive the cake sketches.  We discuss via email the next day the cake we like, deposit etc..  Again I don’t hear anything for quite a while. About 5 weeks before the big day I email to ask her about the cake and the exact cost (never did give her a deposit as she didn’t get back to me).  She responds by saying she doing an invoice and will email it in the next day or so.  I hear nothing for over a week.  I email her AGAIN and ask where the invoice is.  No response.  A week later I get the invoice via email. 

Up until this point I feel I’ve been more than patient.  I was annoyed but not angry.  FYI I have not been a demanding bride.  I contacted her for basic’s, really.  I was not happy when I saw the cost of the cake.  It was over $100 more than I wanted to spend.  This issue could have been resolved if I’d had more communication with her (which she made impossible). Plus considering the aggravation and having to spend my time “chasing her down” I didn’t want to pay full price for the cake.  I could have managed another $100 or so but why should I?  I was angry but I tried to handle it with class and responded with this email:

Hi _____

 I just looked at the invoice.  I believe we discussed that our max budget for a cake was  $### -$###.  I realize that the cake is larger than we originally discussed.  Is this the reason?  I understand that you don’t work for free.  You’re a lovely woman and I’m confident that the cake will be beautiful. <br />The only thing I’m disappointed with is the fact that I’ve had to “chase you down” for months for basic things like sketches and cost.  I don’t feel I’ve been a demanding bride.  I don’t want to cause problems as our wedding is 2 weeks away.  Now that I see the cake is more than we were expecting… <br />I know that running your own business is demanding (my father did the same) and profit margins aren’t huge.  I realize that in the larger scheme of things we aren’t your biggest client.  But IMO I really think you need to get a p/t assistant or take on less work? I think you being stretched too thin may be is having a negative effect on your business.  I think I’ve been understanding as a local but it does look unprofessional. <br />Look forward to seeing you tomorrow.

Soon after I got an adjusted invoice with a nice discount on my cake.  The next day she apologized. She actually thanked me for my email and said “It was something she needed to hear.” Which I thought was very classy of her.  I guess it pays sometimes to be polite but assertive.  I’m actually very proud of myself as to how I handled this situation.  I was tempted to call her and leave an angry message.

Post # 25
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m getting married in 2.5 weeks (July 9 – eek!) in the Mayan Riviera, Mexico. My frustration is that we haven’t had any contact at all with our on-site wedding coordinator.  She was supposed to contact us two weeks ago and hasn’t. Stress!!

And we don’t have all of our RSVPs yet and I wish people would just say they can’t make it at this point. It’s fine, it’s a destination wedding, you won’t make us feel bad!!! They are still “deciding”. I’m assuming they won’t come.

I got my dress today so that makes me happy!

Post # 26
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933 posts
Busy bee

We are having a large wedding. We invited around 480 people. I’m getting really annoyed that our RSVPs are due on Wedsday and we have received about half back. This means so much extra work to find out who is coming and who is not. I mean how hard is is to mail back a pre-stamped postcard?

Post # 28
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42 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

lcutter711:  I think we’re twins. haha. I feel the same way. Just a few lbs–come on!  Dress fits GREAT, it’s just TIGHT. Im going to sweat.

My mamma is crazy–I’ve just given up there! 😉 

Post # 29
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42 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Soon2BeMrsS:  Ditto. I told her to politely remind them the date has since passed… and I am sorry but it’s not happening! She offered to pay, but that’s not the point. <br />A lifetime together as my Mother-In-Law but I stood firm and said…sorry! 

RIDICULOUS. Good luck 😉 

Post # 30
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

14 days.

1. I’m sick. Yay.

2. My fiance just informed me that he’ll be changing the seating chart tomorrow because one of his friends WHO NEVER RSVPED wants to sit with “cool people” and he says he never saw the final chart (he did).  Too bad the names and tables have already been sent to the guy doing our place cards. Then he says I’m being crazy because of my reaction to his ridiculousness.

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