Post # 31
KayKPhillips: We just had something similar happen. Three weeks out (over two months after final RSVPs) and my fiance’s mother suddenly insists that we invite a bunch of her friends that she has never mentioned until now. We graciously allowed her to add ONE extra friend since she hadn’t used up the plus one we gave her originally, but stressed that the friend would not be able to attend one of the pre-events we were paying for since it was now completely full (in fact, already over-full) and venue restictions meant we absolutely could not invite anyone else. She was still completely welcome at the other two pre-events we are throwing free of charge (it is a destination wedding so we wanted to make sure we had plenty of time to see people and do cool things with them).
So she agreed and now less than two weeks before the wedding is throwing a tantrum because she insists her friend will be at the already-full pre-event or she won’t attend it either. Cool, we already have someone else who is only too happy to take her place so we called her bluff and politely told her we’d miss her, haha. She isn’t liking that at all, but too bad – last minute additions are a privilege, not a right, and neither of us are in the mood to deal with her games right now.
Post # 32
my FI’s mom won’t say if she’s coming or not. There’s been tons of drama from his parents over nothing. His dad isn’t coming. his mom has told my Fiance that we should not prepare for her to be there at all because she is “still figuring out” whether she can come. It’s a domestic destination wedding (first of her children) that she’s known about for 14 mos and she doesnt have any other obligations and there isn’t a money issue. But other family members say that she’s already bought her plane ticket. She has a history of lying to have her kids not make plans w her on special days but the kids later find out she was actually just sitting at home Alone. It’s completely crazy And I don’t play games. You say you’re not coming? Okay, then she is not on the seating chart. I’m not going to assume someone will be there who keeps saying they don’t know. If she shows up, the planner has the info she needs to figure it out.
separately, she’s guaranteed to cause some kind of scene if she comes. She’d also be the only person of that generation on his side. Unless she’s bringing someone else with her unannounced? Who knows. I’m over it and just dont have the energy.
Post # 33
My fiance and I decided from the get go that we would not be inviting small children to our wedding. I invited my cousin and his wife to our wedding, and explicitly addressed his invitation to Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so without any mention of his baby and toddler. He sends me a Facebook message saying how he’s coming and he booked a room already. I get his RSVP back- he wrote in the names of his two kids. I mesage him and politely tell him that we made the decision not to invite any kids and that we hoped they could still make it. He tells me that he’ll see if they can find a baby sitter…not even 24 hours later and he gets back to me to say they’re not coming. That’s fine, but then he calls his dad to ask him to speak my dad to express how he really wants to come because “there are members of the family who haven’t met the baby yet” and to ask my dad to speak to me to reconsider. Ummm…no words. It’s a small wedding (about 60 people) and I’m not paying all this money to be upstaged by your baby.
Also having some problems with my dress 🙁 Went to my first fitting in May, and I felt very weak/lightheaded during the fitting and had to reschedule. I chalked it up to it being heat stroke and I made sure to eat a good breakfast and bring water and a fan to my next appointment. Well, the same thing happened and I didn’t even feel like I was hot; I just felt like I could faint. I think it may be because I’m not used to wearing tight clothing and my dress has a corset and the bottom is a whole bunch of tulle. I really didn’t think I could make it through the whole wedding day in my dress and felt I had no other option but to buy a second dress for the reception. I always felt that was a big waste of money but I really don’t want to have these issues during my wedding.
Oh and I still have so many things to do. I basically had zero time during the school year because I threw myself into my job and didn’t do much for the wedding besides the essentials. Regretting it now!
Post # 34
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
1. My dress is going back to the seamstress tomorrow. 🙁 Majorly bummed about it. I didn’t realize until last week that it had multiple issues b/c I couldn’t get a damn friend to come over and help me get into it.
2. My SIL has decided this is a good week to become a huge bitch– just in time for out-of-town family to be here and for me to really need her help.
3. My Fiance keeps nagging me (with good reason) to do things (he can’t b/c he doesn’t speak the language) and it’s Driving.Me.Crazy.
4. I am way way way too mellow?lazy?lax? and am now secretly terrified that “informal” actually = lame.
5. I lost the locket for my mother’s picture that I ordered off Etsy and my stepmother brought from the States. I just can’t figure out where I “hid” it.
6. The teams I like keep losing in the World Cup.