(Closed) JULY WEDDINGS! 4 months away, who's stressed??

posted 4 years ago in July 2014
Post # 2
5279 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

saritacg7:  My wedding is exactly 4 months from today 🙂 This month we have to have our tasting, order invites, buy wedding bands and FINALLY register (oops – put that one off…). I am not TOO stressed out. I am a teacher so I’ll have the whole week off before my wedding to do last minute things. I can’t believe its SO CLOSE! I’ve been engaged since last April.

Post # 4
40 posts


saritacg7:  So hard to keep calm… I have the invites picked out, but not ordered yet.  I plan on taking care of that this weekend.  I think my biggest stress point is just worrying that I’m going to forget something.  Technically there is enough time, but I’m always one to worry that something is going to slip through the cracks. 

My FI and Family have been way too calm.  I’m afaid to ask about the tasks he’s in charge of because I don’t want it to seem as though I don’t trust him to take care of them. I am still worried though.

The funniest part is that I was strangely serene the past two months and  the stress just hit me as March started.  I’m really excited though!!

Good luck with your plans 🙂



Post # 5
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

saritacg7:  I haven’t been too stressed yet. We are getting our invites made and they won’t be done until April, so I was stressed a bit on that, but I’m sure it’s going to be fine.

We are buying a house, so we have been putting all of our energy towards that right now, so I think that’s why I’m not so stressed about the wedding. I am super excited for our honeymoon though!!!

Post # 6
3028 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Ugh, at the moment, I AM.

Just got the price breakdown from SIL re: the invitations, which she designed for free. Of course it’s nearly twice as much as I thought AND is now delayed b/c she ran out of paper. SIGH.

And my FI just DOES.NOT.UNDERSTAND why she’s charging ANYTHING, lol. These are letterpress, by the way, so we’re getting them for a steal, but I guess it’s not a steal if you don’t know the value. SIGH.

I need to be zen. People know the date bc of the STD and the ones who are planning to shell out 1500$ to fly to Europe have mostly done so already, but still. I want the damn invitations!!

Zen. Breathe. Zen. Breathe….

Post # 7
183 posts
Blushing bee

I’m stressed too. We’ve already selected our menu, our invitations are in the works, and we’re ordering our cake this weekend–so that stuff is all good! My biggest stressor thus far has hands down been the guest list. It’s been a HUGE struggle fitting everyone that FI and I want AND everyone my parents (who are paying) want into a small space.

Luckily that seems to have been resolved, leaving my current stressors to be planning the rehearsal dinner and getting my DIY projects done. FMIL has generously said she’ll contribute to the rehearsal dinner, but she still hasn’t given us a figure so we don’t know what budget we’re working within (we budgeted under the assumption that we would work with what she had to contribute, so we didn’t leave room in OUR budget for a RD). That said, if she doesn’t come through on that soon we’re going to just have to move forward and come up with the money ourselves.

Post # 9
25 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

I am beyond stressed. I feel like my head is going to blow up!

Let’s see here…EVERYTHING is paid for! All the big stuff anyway. LOL My fiance’s cousin is doing our photography so she is figuring out pricing. Our church is being annoying and we are trying to get through the details with that and if we need to make a “donation.” We really just need to pay for gifts and get that situated. That by the way is very overwhelming because I just can’t decide, ya know? I also have a huge wedding party, lots of parents, and lots of readers and such. So, we will figure it all out eventually.

The bad…there is non stop fighting and drama. Some one you may have seen previous post by me regarding my step family. We haven’t spoken since September and I didn’t see them on XMAS..(step siblings). My stepmom is trying to control everything. The seating, the food, the colors, where to put the DJ, and my father and I are fighting, too. I got yelled at for not showing them invitations even though I’m paying for them. I’m getting yelled at for not sending my step mom a pic of the bridesmaid dress. I”ve shown her a million times, she has seen my jr. bridesmaid dress in person, and she told me she was most likely going to wear black. I’ve told them since we got engaged about the colors we are using and I even offered to go shopping with her, she declined. I asked my dad that she can wear whatever color she wants except for white or ivory. I got called the “clothes police.”  My stepmom wore an ivory dress to my sister’s wedding…my sister’s gown was ivory.

It’s so annoying. At 28 years old I’m still trying to gain my dad’s acceptance and nothing. I should note that my dad and stepmom are paying for food and drink at the wedding. I included them in on the tasting with my in laws as my FMIL has a lot of food allergies. My stepmom was so rude. My FMIL was very uncomfortable as my stepmom criticized everything I liked and didn’t like and was just controlling everything. My FMIL was like does she think it is her wedding? It’s been awful planning and my fiance and I are having some issues as well. It’s just tough.

My dad and I haven’t spoke for the past week and I will be seeing my dad, stepmom, and stepsiblings this weekend at my niece’s bday. It just sucks incredibly. I texted my dad after our fight and just said that I’m done and emotionally drained from all the situations. I haven’t had a cool head with talking to him either and I know that I added to issues…I just want my day to be my and my fiances vision … not anyone elses.


Post # 10
43 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

Oh God…I have nothing done for my July wedding. My parents really don’t want me to get married so they have sabotaged everything so far and now there is only 4 months left and we are just putting in our deposit for a venue this week. I have a wedding dress appointment this week as well which no one can come to because they are either out-of-town or busy and everybody is dragging their feet because of a bunch of family drama that I am sick of dealing with! My fiance and I really don’t even care about what the wedding looks like anymore, we just want to be married. But eloping will cause more trouble in the families than we can deal with, so we are stuck having to do everything last minute!

Post # 11
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

saritacg7:  Thanks! It is so exciting. So you designed your own invites? That’s very ambitious.

My dress just came in so I’m trying it on, on Sunday to see how my shoes fit with it. I’m so excited to finally see it in person in my size. I feel like you don’t get the full effect of it when it’s too big and they are clipping it. And I just made an appointment for my cake tasting.

I’ve been engaged for 2 years so I still feel like I have a lot of time, but I know I really don’t.

Post # 13
983 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Not stressed, but definitely had a “whoa.  I need to get moving” moment.  I finished my invites over the weekend which is a big relief.  They don’t need to be mailed yet but at least they’re done.  Next tedious project is the vases for the centerpieces – luckily I’m doing 2 types of centerpieces and only 1 will require work on my end so that’s centerpieces for a total of 6 tables, plus whatever I decide for the sweetheart table.

I’ve already decided on what to do for the cake stand and escort card display and designed the programs.  But I need to etch vases for the memorial candle and unity ceremony as well.  Plus design our menu cards, all the signs, paint the monogram we are using as the guestbook, and finish up the BM gifts.  There’s more I’m sure, that’s just everything at the forefront right now.  🙂

Post # 14
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

i am sooooo freaking stressed out. I had my first meltdown Saturday, topped off by a huge fight with FI, over programs and cups. Seriously.

The big things are done, but these little final moment details are KILLING me. Half the time im excited and jittery, and the other half im stressed and yelling at someone. Im actually starting to justify bridezillas’ actions. Yeah, im totally stressed.

Post # 15
1165 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

saritacg7:  4 months on the 12th! Not stressed, but getting a bit anxious (probably due to the fact that we still don’t have a house/some sort of dwelling the day after the wedding….)

We have invitations stuffed and ready to go, those are getting mailed out by the end of March (Thanks Canada Post for the increase in stamp prices…), we had our tasting a few weeks ago (delicious), and tuxes are getting done in the next couple of weeks! We still need to get our wedding bands and make a lot of small but important decisions (readers, readings, music, h’orderves, dessert, engagement pictures to blow up, cake flavours, etc. etc.)

Yay July brides! 

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