(Closed) Jump the broom with a white guy?

posted 10 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I am white and my fiance is African American.  I would totally have jumped the broom if he had wanted to.  If that is your dream, I think you should ask him to do it.  (I would ask him privately so he can be honest if he has a problem with it though.  You wouldn’t want him to feel pressured one way or the other.) 

I actually asked my fiance if there were any traditions he wanted to add to the ceremony.  White covers a lot of groups, but you might see if there are any traditions from your fiance’s heritage that you can include too. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We are incorporating a number of cultural traditions into our wedding.  Some are from our cultures, but some are traditions that are meaningful to us despite not being of our cutures of origin.

Naturally, I would support jumping the broom if your fiance is ok with it.  I think it is really important to discuss which cultural traditions you want to incorporate into your married and family life, so this is a perfect time to open the discussion!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

If you opt to celebrate this tradition, you might want to include a brief explanation in the program re: why broom jumping is significant.  On the flip side, if you want to include a traditional element, but you (or your fiance) won’t be comfortable with jumping the broom, there is another tradition where the eldest family member from both families holds a ribbon (or 2 ribbons intertwined) and you walk through it as you are leaving the ceremony.  This signifies that you are joining your families and entering into a life together.  It would also make for a great photo op b/c more than likely it will be an elderly grandmother or grandfather on each side. 

I know many interracial couples, but for the life of me I can’t seem to recall if they jumped the broom after getting married.  I think you might get more whispers by jumping the broom, particularly if your family is not as open about interracial marriage.  Just be prepared and do what feels right.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I think you should do it!  A wedding should incorporate the unique cultures of both the bride and the groom.  I only wish I had something interesting like the jumping of the broom to add to my wedding.

Post # 8
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Newbee

Yeah we plan on incorporating the broom jumping in our ceremony – i’m white and my fiance is african american. We will have his sister introduce the tradition to everyone and lead the audience in counting 1-2-3. You can have your broom custom made to include your wedding colors. I’m looking forward to it.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

"This is a ceremony dating back to the 1600s and derived from Africa. Dating back to slave days, jumping the broom together has been part of weddings for couples who want to honor that tradition. It also has roots in the Celtic culture and including but not limited to Welsh, Celtics, Druids, and Gypsies and some aboriginal or shamanistic cultures.

Jumping the broom or in some cases jumping over an imaginary line is an African ritual, or tradition still being practiced in some parts of West Africa. Jumping the broom is not associated with slavery. Enslaved Africans, as an affirmation of their cultural heritage practiced it during slavery in North America."

Go for it!  How can we change stereotypes if we hold onto old ideas of what is appropriate?  You’re in love, celebrate! 

Derived from: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com/ceremonybroom.html

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

Go for it! Lot’s of interracial couples are incorporating traditions from both cultures.

Hispanic bride, Indian groom

 

Korean bride, White groom

 

His parents participated too.

 

Jewish bride, Pakastani groom

 

White bride, Ghanaian groom

She wanted to incorporate elements of his culture in the details. Instead of table numbers she used symbols which would be meaninful to their marriage. The one below, Nyame Dua or "Altar of God" is the symbol of God’s presence and protection.

 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2009

You should definitely jump the broom if it has always been your dream. Incorporating each families traditions is what makes each wedding so special and unique. Each family will be represented in the ceremony and or reception.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think you should totally do it!  Make sure to talk with your Fiance first — if it’s your dream though I’m sure he won’t be overly opposed.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My fiance and I are jumping the broom! He is African American and I’m Filipino. I was totally stoked when he suggested incorporating this!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I love those pictures!!!!! thanks for including them

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

If it’s something you want to do, talk to your groom about incorporating it!  Intercultural marrages are so common now, it’s so much fun when there are more traditions to be combined.  Just explain the significance in your programs so your guests can appreciate it as much as you do.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

When it comes time, I’m going to ask my bf about jumping the broom, I’d like to do it.

I don’t see how it would be insensitive, unless it were a one-way “we’re jumping the broom but I’m not stomping wine glasses!” or something like that.  

I don’t see it being any problem to incorporate any traditions you see fit, especially if they are ones that are in your background.   You’re getting married because you both love each other and because you accept each others’ histories.

 

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