Post # 77
Planning wise? Not stressful. There are a few things to do, but nothing major; if they don’t get done, it will be just fine. At this point, I just have to show up! (Thanks mainly to my mother who is finishing up the details.)
But, overall, wedding-dream wise? GRRRR. So much venting! Programs didn’t turn out aligned (after spending so much time designing them!!!) – can’t get them redone, obviously. The reception is in an ugly, ugly, ugly gymnasium that echoes. The ceremony is not where I wanted it. The officiant is not who I wanted. The Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are not what I wanted. My dress is not at all what I wanted. My Future Mother-In-Law hasn’t ‘gotten around’ to getting the pictures of Fiance for the reception. I don’t get a bridal shower (none of my Bridesmaid or Best Man live in the same state). No bachelorette party. *Cry* Fortunately, it’s all so bad, I just don’t care. So…stress-free, yay!
Post # 78
I just wanted to say that this thread ending up making me feel better/cracked me up. Seriously, SO glad there are other people who GET IT.
My Future Mother-In-Law left my graduation ceremony last weekend because she was “too offended” that my parents spent most of the time during the ceremony talking to Future Father-In-Law and FI’s stepmom. She has this idea in her head that my parents don’t like her as much and don’t want to talk to her (insecurities, yes, I get it) – but if they thought you were fine before, the fact that you just PEACED OUT of their daughter’s master’s graduation probably didn’t leave a good impression. I’m so nervous she’s going to pull shiz at the wedding, but Fiance is going to have a chat with her and hopefully set some boundaries. I can’t even think about the seating chart yet. I can’t even.
Post # 79
I don’t want to be a vendor basher…but I’m getting so sick of getting taken advantage of. So many “lost” orders, changes in agreements, extra fees etc etc. And we’ve been working with all of our vendors for at least a year with regular check-ins and payments etc. And now just a month before we’re calling to give exact times etc etc and then all of a sudden oh there’s a fee for that or they didn’t write down that we wanted that or they send us our final invoices and they’re completely wrong and we have to catch all the times they try to double charge us or add in things we never asked for etc etc.
I’m not sure if it’s because we’re out of state and it’s easier to take advantage of us but it’s seriously driving us bonkers.
Yesterday was a shit show. The seamstress wrote our final fitting for next weekend but it was supposed to be this weekend (we were there last weekend and planned on coming back on Sat). We show up and she has a million other people there so we go home with no dress!
Ok, fine simple mistake. Then we call to book our day of lunch catering. That all goes fine but they don’t give reference numbers or invoices….we just have to trust they’ll have the food ready to be picked up. But they charged us. Great…I can forsee that shit show.
So then we call to check on our room block and to give times for the shuttle service. We’re told the rooom minimum is 25 rooms! WTF we booked 5 rooms for 2 nights to meet the 10 night (not even room) minimum. And we had set this up with the manager and the shuttle service and minimum room thing was discussed at length because that was a big reason we went with them. It was also the second time we had to set up our block because they didn’t set it up the first time, our guests tried to book and there was no block, hence why the second conversation was with the manager. Well now we’re told the blocks can’t be set up without a contract and did we sign a contract saying we only had to have 10 nights booked?! What??! No, we were not told that, and we were working with the damn manager so you’d think she’d know their process. And if this is true then how exactly do we have a block at all…because we do and we have people booked under it. So now we have to wait until Tuesday to talk to the Groomsmen.
Post # 80
Hi ladies, these past few days have been rough lol. Didn’t get to enjoy Memorial weekend because of wedding planning! Today is a short week so work is a lot. Couldn’t move a certain thing in our reception room where I wanted the photobooth to be (not to mention it’s pretty ugly). Can’t get the color pintuck tablecloths our rental company initially agreed upon. Last minute additions to our guestlist is driving me crazy – why wait until AFTER I give final counts and make seating chart/escort cards??? Found out I have to drive an hour to pick up additions to our dessert table Thurs night (leaving early Fri). And my parents want to turn our rehearsal into a mini wedding (like 50 more ppl!) by inviting so many relatives who are not even involved in the actual rehearsal!
Expect that everything you planned for all these months end up changing within the last few days, lol. I could use a massage right about now!!!
Post # 81
After being cut off from the real world all weekend at the lake, I’m back in full wedding mode BUT I feel like the only things I have left to do, I can’t until we have a final head count!! So I’m at a somewhat stand still. Our deadline is in 4 days and we have 74 RSVPs still out! WTF people send it back already, it’s not that damn hard! UGH!
Post # 82
- Wedding: June 2013 - Piney River Ranch
So, so, so, many vents right now but I’d rather keep them to myself in case anyone comes across my post… ARGH.
I’ll just highlight that my vents involve RSVPs, added [uninvited] guests, Maid/Matron of Honor, people NOT looking at our website for very specific direction information…
Post # 83
I’m annoyed at the people who haven’t sent back their RSVPs. We have gotten a LOT back, only waiting on maybe 20 more with a June 1 deadline. But multiple BMs, including Maid/Matron of Honor, haven’t sent one back. WTF.
Also, we did postcard RSVPs and a friend’s parents put it inside an envelope, stuck a regular stamp on it and mailed it back. Do they think we’re tacky now that we didn’t include an envelope/postage? And why do I even care when out of 80 invitations sent, only 1 person didn’t get it?
Post # 84
My mom said to me yesterday, as I was putting some baked ruffles on my lunch plate, “Are you watching what you’re eating?” Then proceeded to tell me she just wants my dress to fit.
Post # 85
I have to have surgery on Friday, 3 weeks before my wedding. Ugh.
Post # 86
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@Guelph: Oh my goodness!!! You poor thing :(!!
Post # 87
@lealorali: Thanks:-) In the end, we’ll be married. That is the important thing.But it’s nice to vent!!
Post # 88
Thanks for starting this thread! Glad to know I’m not alone!! I actually feel a lot better today, but this week has been the most stressful. I am starting to wish I didn’t have such a DIY wedding! I’m sure in the end I’ll be happy about but, here goes…
All the usual, guest list, RSVPs & of course plus ones!! But on top of that-
One of my bridesmaids had to drop out. I’m not mad, she is having a rough time with her new boss who won’t give her the time off & she has a brand new baby and lives over 300 miles away. She was also supposed to sing during the ceremony. Thank goodness I have a back up who’s great, just won’t be quite the same.
Friends bands are playing and of course calling me to tell me all of the challenges. Can they just handle it on their own? They’re professionals!!
My sister is doing the flowers and apparently spending way more (thousands more!!) than I ever wanted her to. I’m not supposed to know so I can’t just tell her to spend less but it’s weighing on my mind!
All the groomsmen are wearing kilts. First we had a terrible experience with the first company so had to move on at the last minute. The new company is great but a few of the guys had such a hard time just filling out a drop down screen of their sizes and entering their credit cards to order them. I sent them a detailed email, but a couple of them keep calling my fiance to ask which one it is. He’s been so distracted with them that he was completely behind on purchasing his own jacket. We had to order it online from England and it will hopefully come 5 days before the wedding. I hope he doesn’t need alterations!
On top of all of this, I’ve tried my best to delegate jobs, but everyone has to run things by me. At this point, I kind of wish they would just deal with things on their own and not even bother telling me. I’ve made enough decisions. Now I just want to show up & get married to my best friend!!
Post # 89
My fiance is driving me crazy!! We have 26 days to go and I’m trying to finalize everything and anything I ask him is “I don’t care” “What do you want”. Or today I was asking about some of the things we might do for the reception “That’s just one more thing on your plate”. Seriously dude?
I’m about to just do things and he will know when we get there. lol
Post # 90
I want to scream and cry. I am having so much anxiety.
Post # 91
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I have been starting to have nightmares… involving dark wood paneling and cheap Christmas decotations (wtf?)