Post # 1
I was chatting with Maid/Matron of Honor last night and she started to talk about my shower, ending with the words “I’m thinking June-ish”. I was not thinking June-ish.
I was thinking more September/October but there’s the possibility she’ll be in grad school and couldn’t be there if we did it at the “traditional” two to six weeks to wedding time. I keep thinking, well there’s no harm in doing it early.
What do you think? Has anyone had their shower 5-6 months before the wedding?
Post # 3
Can you try at least doing it in early August so it’s not quite as long between? I can see your point of view, especially if she’ll be in grad school.
I don’t know, I think 6 months out is very early to have a shower.
Post # 4
@ littlemissmoo: *sigh* So do I. I don’t really want to have it in June.
Post # 5
I’m getting married in August and my aunt is throwing me a shower this month. My cousin is moving to England and she wanted to be there. I also thought it was a bit early, but since my aunt is the host and her daughter wants to be there, I’m definitely not going to complain!
Just make sure that you don’t leave the registry to the last minute. We weren’t planning on registering now so we had to run out and do it without thinking much about what we wanted.
Post # 6
That’s way too early to be doing a shower. I understand you want her there but if it’s on a weekend and you give her plenty of notice, I don’t see why she couldn’t be there. There are plenty of people that plan their wedding while in school or have some of their bridal party in school and it’s totally doable. I’m doing both! August still seems a little far out to me. Why not see if she has any breaks if you really want to schedule it around her, that way she could have a long weekend. have you talked to her about this yet or are you assuming she’d be too busy? That’s sweet you want to accomodate her since she’s in grad school but remember it’s also your wedding and you can’t move everything around her. Just talk to her and I’m sure you’ll figure out something!! *hugs*
Post # 7
I had my shower 6 months before our wedding because my mom and sister wanted to throw it for me in my hometown, and I live out of state, and that weekend was the only weekend I could make it because of time off (we had also planned a bunch of wedding planning stuff and met with vendors and such that weekend).
I honestly see no problem with it. In fact, I kind of liked having it early. It was a nice way to spread out all of the celebrations. I don’t think anyone cared. My mom just told people that I was only coming home for one weekend, and they were all fine with it.
Post # 8
Six months may be a touch early, but if that’s what’s best for your Maid/Matron of Honor and other BMs it’s probably wise to go with it.
From my perspective, better to have an early shower thrown by people who have the time and energy to devote to putting together a good party than one that falls within the “correct” period that’s only half done and possibly resented by the guests.
I also think you should tread lightly in matters of showers and bachelorettes. True, they are parties for the bride, but the bride isn’t the hostess and it can feel a bit much to be told when and how to arrange these sorts of things.
Post # 9
I had my shower 6 months early for the same reason as Miss Chapstick. I can assure you no one cared that it was early. I am sure people understand!