(Closed) Junior bridesmaid

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee

I think 8 is a bit young, but I also think 14 is young! So it’s perspective. Do you want her in the wedding, or is it SIL that is pushing for it? If you could take it or leave it wit hher being in the wedding, I’d put her as a flower girl, or passing out bullitens.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

So 8 is right in flower girl range.  I had 2 junior bridesmaids 12 and 13.  Not sure how you see a junior maid dressed, but my younger niece was the smallest size available for a junior bridesmaid dress and her sister the largest size available.  

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Km0629:  i have seen people have a ring girl as well, she wore a color like the bridesmaids

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

This one is a tough one for me. I feel like an 8 year old is stuck somewhere in the middle. I guess for me it would depend on how tall she is.

My fiance’s niece will be 9 at our wedding and I haven’t decided if I will be asking her to participate. She is VERY tall for her age already, so I know she will not look out of place standing with my bridesmaids. But she is very immature for her age, and I’m not sure if when we get married, I will feel comfortable with her being mature enough to stand up at the front during the entire ceremony, and sitting with us at the reception (her mom, my fiance’s sister, will not be in the wedding party). 

When I was 11, my cousin wanted to include me in his wedding but his soon-to-be-wife already had 6 bridesmaids and a flower girl, so they had me hand out the programs at the ceremony and bottles of bubbles when eveyone was leaving! At the recpetion I also got to have a special dance with my cousin, who is like a brother to me! That made me feel great, I was so excited to be included!

Honestly, it’s completely up to you if you want to have her as your Jr. Bridesmaid, if you think she will be mature enough throughout the whole day, I say go for it!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I personally, find it too young. I think she is in the proper range for a flower girl. It’s your wedding though do whatever males you feel comfortable. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee

1. Either have 2 flowergirls or have her as a ring girl, or she can carry a sign down the aisle.

2. Traditionally junior bridesmaids were in the 12-18 range. Back then girls matured later and weren’t as tall. (Back in my day – married late 1970s)

3. Sounds like the mother is exerting pressure for her daughter to be your flower girl. Some mothers do this. You can just say no. My SIL was doing this for years, even after her daughter hit puberty. Mothers were all but campaigning, to have their kids included in my daughter’s wedding party. I’ve always said that the mothers act like their kids will spend years in psychotherapy, due to rejecttion, if they’re never asked to be a flowergirl.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My oldest was a Jr. Bridesmaid at 8, 9, and 13. She did fine everytime!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I personally think 8 is a weird in-between age. Too old to be a flower girl, but to young to be a Jr. Bridesmaid. What about having her be an usher? That’s what my 10 year old sisters will be doing at my brother’s wedding. At my wedding, they will be Jr. Bridesmaids, but only because I have 5 sisters and I can’t just leave 2 of them out.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

If you want her as a Jr. bridesmaid then do it. I doubt anyone at the wedding will put too much thought into it. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yeah, I think 8 is weird for either position honestly. My niece will be 12 when I get married and she will be a junior bridesmaid. But me and her have literally been attached at the hip since she was born. So no matter what age she was, I likely would have had her up there. If I were you, I wouldnt have her in the party because it doesnt seem like you are that close to her.

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