- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I’ll try to make this as short as I can. So here goes.
My wedding is on May 27, 2013 (Memorial Day Monday!) and I asked all my bridesmaids to be in the wedding a year ago (plus a few months). I also got in contact with my Sister-In-Law (married to my step brother) who I LOVE and adore and is one of my closest family members, to ask if her daughters would like to be a part of the wedding. As one is a bit older, I asked if one could be a junior bridesmaid, and the younger one (5 years old) to be my flower girl. She said yes, was super excited, and said she was going to make the flower girl dress out of tulle and such (she is super crafty). She is also super great in the kitched, so I asked if she wanted to make my wedding cake (small two tier) and I would pay her for it as well. She also said yes, and would send me pictures now and then to ask if I liked this, or that, etc. Everything seemed to be fine.
Fast forward to last week. I texted her to see if she was still making my cake, since I hadn’t heard from her in about 2-3 months. She said, yes, she was but then it was followed by this text:
“Okay!!! We haven’t really ahd the $ to take *juniorbridesmaid* dress shopping yet. Hopefully we will be able to on Friday–also *flowergirls* dress is turning out to be a major pain the in the a$$, so I’m thinking we might have to look into different options.”
This is when I sorta have a mini panic attack, as the wedding is 3 weeks away at that point.
I would help her buy these dresses for the girls IF I could afford it myself, but honestly, I can’t. I’m right on budget for paying everything I need for the wedding, and an extra expense of two dresses isn’t something I calculated for.
After speaking with my mom she suggested that I gracefully and gently tell SIL that its okay, and I don’t want to financially burden them and the girls do not have to be in the wedding, but can attend as guests. She said my SIL had plenty of time to search for dresses and let me know she couldn’t make the flower girl dress before the month of the wedding.
However I feel that will cause bad attitude because a few texts after the original one, it sounded like SIL wants me to buy the gowns for the girls.
So, these are the options I was thinking:
1. Take my mom’s advice. My mom also said that she would buy me a cake somewhere so that SIL doesn’t have to worry about making it. That way SIL and BIL can bring my neices to the wedding and just enjoy themselves.
2. Offer to buy the dresses. The wedding if two weeks away now, so I’m worried if I buy them, they won’t be altered in time, and I honestly don’t know if I have the cash to do it.
or 3. Anything the bees suggest would be helpful. I got really stressed out over this, and feel that SIL shoudl have let me know a month ago about all this, than I maybe could have budgeted more to help.
There it is…help me please!