(Closed) Junior Bridesmaid, Flower Girl, and Sister-in-Law…tornado of trouble [HELP!]

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’re going to pay her for making the cake, right? If you want the girls in the wedding why not tell your SIL that you will buy the girls’ dress if she makes the cake?

Post # 4
512 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I vote #1.

Post # 5
8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@heathuhhhhwebbbb:  tell her if she wants the girls in the wedding, she will have to buy the dresses for them (your approval), she has had plenty of time to figure things out.  otherwise, they can come as guests.

don’t rely on her for the cake, just have your mother buy one as she offered.


Post # 7
7 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

Have you looked into cheap dress options?




I have 2 Flower Girl and 1 junior bridesmaid at first their mother was going to buy their dresses, however she had some stuff come up so I offered to buy the dresses because I still really wanted the girls in my wedding.  I found some super cute lace dresses at Old Navy and Costco they were $20-$30 per dress, I’m making up for this in my budget by getting the girls a smaller gift.




If you really want the tulle I have seen some cute tulle skirts at target.  Children’s Place is also really good for finding affordable dresses.  Ask your SIL what her budget is, figure out what style you want and then look around.  I bet you could even post here to the board, there are so many bees that are so good at finding specific styles of dresses.  Don’t let this stress you out too much, it will be ok Smile


EDIT:  What if you didn’t pay her for the cake and instead bought the dresses?  Would that even out the budget at all?


Post # 8
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think those little girls would be disappointed if they were no longer in the wedding.  Could you charge the dresses and pay it off with wedding gift money?  (bad, i know, but this feels like an emergency)

Post # 9
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@heathuhhhhwebbbb:  I think you should just level with her. Tell her what you wrote here: that you adore her and don’t want bad air. That you would love to pay for the dress(s) but didn’t budget for the unexpected expense. That it would mean the world to you to have the girls in the wedding but you understand if it is a trouble for her. And that you hope she can still make the cake, with the agreed upon $.  If she is the person you believe her to be she will understand and work out a conclusion. Just be kind; don’t tell her that she had plenty of time – it won’t help. 

Hope this helps. Good luck. 

Post # 10
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would buy the dresses for a reasonable price and then tell her she can pay you back when she can, just so they have something to wear!

Post # 11
793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

There are some super cute spring dresses out right now, I would just try and buy some cheaper dresses! Like PP said, The Children’s Place has lots of affordable dresses. I found my flower girl’s dress at Ross for $12! Just shop around a little, I’m sure you guys can find something that is much more in her budget. If need be, you could buy one and she could buy one.

Post # 12
2437 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@heathuhhhhwebbbb:  Calm down :). I just bought my flower girl dresses yesterday (zulily). They were 34.99. My jr dress came from Sears and was 29.99 (clearance easter dresses). Also, have you tried thirft stores, or second hand stores for kids clothing. In her defense my sister made her tulle flower girl dress and it was a pain in the neck. She finished them, but said never again, it would have been easier to buy.

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