Post # 1
Hi all –
My niece will be 12 years old when I get married in June 2017. I’m very close with my niece, so I want her to be part of my wedding. She’s too young to be an actual bridesmaid, but I was thinking of having her be a junior bridesmaid. I think she would love to have a role to play in my wedding.
My problem is…um, what do junior bridesmaids actually do? I’ve never actually been to a wedding with a junior bridesmaid, but I have heard of them. So did any of you have a junior bridesmaid and/or are thinking of having a junior bridesmaid? What did they do/are you planning on having them do?
Post # 2
mahalkita: As with all bridesmaids, the junior bridesmaids stand up with you on the day of your wedding and wear the designated dress. That’s it!
Because of her age, you may need to include a parent or guardian in the dress shopping, and I would encourage you to speak with her parent or guardian about both a price point and what they feel is appropriate for their teenage daughter to wear prior to selecting a dress (some parents may feel uncomfortable with some of the “sexier” bridesmaids dresses, others may have no problem – can’t hurt to ask).
Post # 3
I’m having a junior bridesmaid… I don’t expect her to do much. She’s 10. I’m sure I can think of some little things for her to do to “help” here and there. I think mainly she will just be thrilled to get dolled up and stand next to you!
Post # 4
I was a junior bridesmaid once– I just walked up the aisle, had a bouquet and mini bridesmaids dress, and was in all of the pictures with the wedding party. My job was basically to sit still, look pretty haha. I think the only reason I was a junior bridesmaid at all is because my sister was a flower girl, but I’m three years older than her and the bride probably thought that I was too old to be a flower girl. If you’d like, you can give your junior bridesmaid little things to do, like hang on to your bouquet during the ceremony.
Post # 5
I had “mini maids” and they didn’t stand up there with me (or do anything bridesmaid related), but they did wear the same color as the bridesmaids. Prior to the ceremony they manned the guestbook, told people to sit wherever they’d like, and ran cards/gifts to the gift table.
Post # 6
Junior bridesmaids do the same as bridesmaids- basically nothing. They wear a nice dress, walk the aisle ahead of the bride, and stand at her side during the ceremony.
Post # 7
mahalkita: Well even your bridesmaids shouldn’t be expected to “do” anything other than stand up with you the day of wearing the dress. 🙂 My sister was 13 at my wedding and a bridesmaid, I didn’t call her “junior” because really other than her age she didn’t do anything different and she’d have been increidbly insulted to be singled out for her age. She wore the same dress as everyone else (I made sure to pick one that was appropriate for them all) and loved getting to feel “grown up” for the day. She participated in all the same activies, minus the bachelorette party. I even let her come along for a spray tan. 🙂
Post # 8
My niece will also be 12 when I get married. I don’t really think of her as a junior bridesmaids just a bridesmaid. She’s going to wear the same dress as them and basically do everything the same. I’m not having a bachelorette party or anything like that but she obviously wouldn’t come out to a bar if I did. That’s really the only thing I can think of she wouldn’t be able to do. I got all my bridesmaids wine glasses with their names engraved on them as a gift and I still got one for her too. I’m just going to give her sparkling grape juice or something like that instead of a bottle of wine.
Post # 9
We’re having 3 Junior BM’s because it was really important to include ALL our nieces and nephews. since we are having three, we’re having them wear the bridesmaid dress, adding a belt, carrying flowers and they will walk down the aisle before the bridesmaids and take a seat in the front row.
Post # 10
Thank you all, your insight is very helpful!
I think part of what I was confused about was what exactly distinguished a junior bridesmaid from a regular bridesmaid. So just the age then, I guess? Unless I don’t want my junior bridesmaid to stand with the rest of my bridesmaids, but I think she would love to stand up there with me so I’m going to have her do that.
Maybe I shouldn’t even call her a “junior” bridesmaid, like a couple other PP mentioned? Hmm…
My bridesmaids haven’t picked out their dresses for the most part yet, but I’m going to have them wear mismatched dresses of their choice, but all floral and long (and of course I have veto power just in case). So my niece can wear a dress that her parents approve of and that she likes, but I’ll just tell her and her parents that it has to be floral (and if it isn’t floor length or ankle length like the others, I don’t mind at all).
I’m not going to be paying for my bridesmaids’ dresses (they have no problem with this, only one bridesmaid is on a tight budget and I helped her find a beautiful dress at a thrift shop for $40), however I will be paying for my niece’s dress. She obviously has no disposable income of her own, and I don’t want to ask her parents to pay for the dress (they wouldn’t mind, I’m sure, but I just would rather pay for her dress myself instead of asking them to do it).
I’m pretty excited to tell her now, I know she will be so excited! Her little sister is going to be the flower girl (she’ll be 4 years old, so I’ll probably have a cousin lead her down the aisle), and I think she was a bit disappointed that she’s too old now to do that role (she’s been the flower girl in like 4 or 5 family weddings since she was 3 years old).
Post # 11
My junior bridesmaid will be dressed in one of our colors (bridesmaids are wearing different colors). She will also be helping with passing out hot chocolate during our ceremony. She’s 12 and for some reason she was so excited to know she was going to “help” by passing stuff out. 🙂 Works for me!