(Closed) Just a family vent

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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14496 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Holy geez, sounds like she’s got some crazy problems.  For one, even if I were pissed, i certainly wouldnt put it on a FB wall like that with such language.  It only makes her look bad.  I’d just respond calmly with basically what you said about, 20 minutes can barely be considered far, yes you do visit and watch her kids, and NO shes never even seen the inside of YOUR house and her comment is totally uncalled for.

Post # 5
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No, she was totally out of line.  You should be able to have an honest conversation with your mother with out your sister freaking the F out.  Apologizing to your sister will only solidify that her behavior is warranted and acceptable.  I would calmly ask your mother what she said. 

Post # 6
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890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Holy hell I am sorry.  You have every right to put your foot down on this one.  SHe is the one that s a child in this situation.  Make sure you stand your ground and be happy with just your family!  You don’t need that family drama!! I personally think its messed that none of your family came to your housewarming! That to me is a WOW! Hang in there.

Post # 8
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

NCPwedding Yeah, I get the “black sheep” treatment too. Your sister was out of line, and you need to do what is right for your family (FH and kids). I get along better with my family with a little bit of distance.

Post # 10
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You are not over reacting. I completely understand where you are coming from. Me and my fiance are always the ones to reach out to my sister and Dad. The only time we see them is when it is a holiday and they want us to throw the holiday get together. Other than that, I rarely get a call back. I lived 5 minutes from them after having my first child and none of them came to visit to see us or the baby. So we ended up moving an hour away where it is cheaper and closer to my FI’s family. They have never once called to ask about the kids, asked to take them to do something or offered to watch them. Some people are just self centered. And usually, it doesn’t change. Stand your ground! You are not wrong here!

Post # 11
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

This is my life!! I always have to apologize for moving to a different town, or taking a different job..no one is interested in my wedding…I have done ALL my wedding DIY and dress shopping stuff with my 7 year old daughter. My family believes we should all grow up and live and STAY in the same town our whole lives. When Fiance took a job in Mississippi with Toyota, they were all furious because there is a Toyota plant in KY. Yes, if you choose to work on the factory floor. Fiance is in an office and is a specialist (idk of what). My family never visited me in any of the houses I’ve lived in in 33 years. I am expected to visit them a hundred times a year! Our first Christmas in our first house that we bought, last year, they threw a fit because I wanted to have Christmas morning here!! We didn’t. This year, though..everyone can kiss it. Sorry I want to have nice things and give my daughter a better life than staying in a crappy town. They refuse to come see our new house and none of them are coming to the wedding. too bad so sad! Then the guilt trips…you drug our granddaughter/niece/greatgranddaughter away..”gave her to FI’s family” Hello, we live in MS alone and know noone!! ugh

I agree with PP. Stand your ground!! You have to do what is best for you and your kids!

Post # 12
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

^^haha, we live in Tupelo. Big change from Lexington KY!! There’s nothing here but cotton!!

Post # 14
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would love to delete my Mom from FB but we just told her that it deactivates after 30 days if you don’t log in…haha don’t need her lurking around going through stuff making inappropriate stoner comments!!

Post # 15
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368 posts
Helper bee

No my family is the same. I always have to work my schedule around THEM. For my own birthday dinner I had to wait til two weeks until after my birthday to celebrate because it’s easier for them. Then on the way to my birthday dinner I found out all my siblings were coming and I thought it was going to be just my parents. It is so annoying and then they try to guilt trip me for not seeing them enough. I lived in Pittsburgh 1 year and no one came but my one brother. Literally no one else the whole entire time. When I would drive from Pittsburgh to Cleveland for parties they were always annoyed that I didn’t come around enough. I love them but I’m sick of having the world revolve around them. Sometimes distance is good for a family then you can miss them lol

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