(Closed) Just a Few Questions

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

1. Absolutely. They are guests too and they are the people most likely to save such items.

2. If your vendors need to stay for the entire event, you should feed them. Some people seat them at a table, but most provide them a vendor meal (usually at a discount for you as compared to a regular guest) and they eat it somewhere in the back out of sight. Unless your hair and make-up people will be on hand to freshen you up during the reception, this would not apply to them, but it would apply to the DJ, photographer, videographer, coordinator, et al. You should also invite (not just feed) the officiant if he/she is not some random person you hired.

3. Everyone should get the same invitation or it will look like you B-listed or planned poorly and ran out.

Post # 4
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with @mrsSonthebeach:.  She has provided you with wise and helpful guidance.  

Post # 7
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010


1) I did, not because they don’t know they’re invited/where the wedding is but because they’re the most likely to want the invite as a keepsake.

2) Only our DJ and Photographer were at the reception.  The DJ ate in his booth, and the photographers had a seat available at one of the front tables so if something amazing happened while they were eating, they could still snap a picture, but we had two and they ate in shifts, for only like 10 minutes each so it was a non issue.  i’d ask them what works best for them.

3) I’d try to find just one that you love, but if you can’t I don’t see why not.  As long as one’s not clearly “nicer” than the other??

Post # 8
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

1) Traditionally yes- I’ve already had my bridal party tell me they would never remember to send it back so if I want to skip it…they’d just love me more.Use your judgement. 


2) Only if they are staying for your reception as mrsSonthebeach mentioned

3) Again traditionally you only send one type. I say if you want to 50/50 it nobody is going to care. Do what you want unless it’s an a list vs. b list sitch because you’ll end up hurting feelings. I actually had a friend do a split invite type like this- their groom got invites he sent out and she got nvites she sent out. It’s not important in the big pic as long as you’re getting the RSVPs back.

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