Post # 1
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Sugar bee
Well, last Thanksgiving Monday ( I’m canadian) My future father in law ( even though we aren’t engaged yet for various reasons) had passed away. It had been a complete shock. I am really upset about this, and more upset then I initially thought I would be. I’m not with my boyfriend right now as he is back home, and I just got back tonight to replenish supplies and put my son to bed for a good nights rest before heading back there. I guess talking to the people I know best seems hard right now, because I don;t want people to be sorry for me, but for my boyfriend and his family. So I’m just going to vent here.
I’m really sad that I will not get to see my son ( now one year old) grow up with his grandfather. My boyfriend had so many plans for my son, himself and his dad to go on hunting trips, and camping trips, and fishing trips. I’m really sad I never got to say one last goodbye, or give one last hug, or go for one last drive. I am so sad that when we get married he won;t be there to congratulate my boyfriend, or welcome me to the family, I’m really upset that for every birthday comming up, he won’t be there. Or on christmas he won;t be sharing his chocolates that he always has in abundance. I’m sad that the family on my boyfriends side will never feel complete again. I know there is so much to be thankful for, but thinking about his death just saddens me, even though I only knew him for a couple of years. Life is just so short, and it can happen at anytime. It can happen tomorrow, or the next. It just makes me realize how much I have to appreciate everyone around me, because you never know when the last day is going to be.
Sorry if this is a weird letter. I figure its just over the computer, so whats the harm in venting a bit right?
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Oh, dear. I’m sorry to hear about that; I just lost a very close family member, too, and you’re so right about not knowing what tomorrow will bring. Hugs!
Post # 4
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Newbee
I’m so sorry….vent here all you need..
another reminder to live in the moment.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I’m so, so sorry for your loss.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Awwww, I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine what you are going through, but I offer my condolences. This is definitely a tough time for you and your family. I am sure your Future Father-In-Law will live on through all of your good memories of him.
Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
I’m so sorry sweetie. Your post totally made me cry. I completely understand how you feel. My grandmother passed away last summer shortly after we were engaged and it was so hard to think of all the things you just said. She wasn’t at my wedding, won’t see our kids, etc. It’s really hard to go through such loss and realize that you’ll be missing that person and also their presence and participation when you thought they’d always be there.
I just try to take a moment when I’m having a great day with family or doing something I know she’d enjoy and think “Omi would have loved this”. She was a fantastic cook and baker, so when I made Thanksgiving dinner for our family, I took a moment to look at her photo that I keep on our fridge and thank her for being with us and helping me cook the meal that day. That’s the best I can do.
Again, so sorry to you and your family. Cry when you need to and come here to talk any time you need us.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
I am so sorry you’re going through this. My FH’s dad committed suicide about a year before we started dating so I never got to meet him. Still, I feel a sense of loss because I will never get to meet my FH’s dad and see the similarities between them, my children will never get to meet their grandfather, etc. I know it’s hard for you right now, but I hope that eventually, you’ll be able to take solace in the fact that at least you got to know him for a little while and at least he got to meet your son before he passed. I’m so sorry for you and your/ your FH’s family. 🙁
