(Closed) Just a little vent- budget, family, venue remorse

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@faeriegirl05:  i would feel a bit mislead by the seating as well.  is there only one area for the ceremony?

what do you mean by draft?  is it a credit amount on the bar and when the bar total reaches it the bar closes or people have to start paying? 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@faeriegirl05:  I would definitely feel misled about the seating situation as well.  The venue should have explained that “seating” available for 150 guests actually means 80 people can sit comfortably and all others must stand.  Are there any additional seating options besides the deck, or is that the only area in which guests will have a good view of the ceremony?

As for the bar, my fiance and I are not paying for an open bar all night.  Neither of us have ever been to a wedding that provided an open bar all night, so I wouldn’t worry about that.  We’re actually doing something similar to what you mentioned … We’ll pay a certain amount up front to cover the bar (we’re thinking about $2000 or so), and then once that runs out, it will be a cash bar.  I don’t know how common that is in your area, but it seems pretty common around here (as well as where I grew up on the East Coast).  I’ve never heard anyone complain about having to pay for a drink at a wedding (especially if they got their first couple of drinks for free).

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@faeriegirl05:  I’m not really a fan of the tickets, to be honest.  I can’t pinpoint why exactly, but there’s just something about it that seems a little off for a wedding.  (I know you didn’t say you’re planning to do this, but just in case you were considering it!)  I think choosing to do an open bar for part of the night and a cash bar for the rest of the night is a good compromise if you don’t want to risk forking out ridiculous amounts of money for the bar alone.  If you have several guests that love to drink (as we will), it’s perfect.  

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@faeriegirl05:  thanks for clearing that up.  so the venue doesn’t usually carry draft beer and the couples are no longer allowed to bring one in.  is there a beverage package that you can get?  these are usually good if you have a lot of big drinkers.

we had a consumption bar and we were both totally surprised how little the bar tab was even including the wine.  it was full bar with anything and everything and was open during cocktail hour, through dinner and all night until last call.  i was budgeting more than 2x the final bill.

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