Post # 1
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129 posts
Blushing bee
Hi Bees, Feeling down today!!
I just received the quote from the venue I’ve wanted to have my wedding at since I was a little girl. It’s waaay more than my budget allows for, like even more then I can swing with trying to save more plus the money my parents are gifting us. I’m so upset. My entire life when I thought about my wedding, it included this venue. Now I’m nervous about looking for a new venue, that I might be too critical of them or compare them to the other venue.
I know I will be able to find somewhere just as or even more beautiful, it’s just a pretty huge blow to my planning.
Has this happened to anyone else?!
Post # 2
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee
If you can’t afford it then it isn’t your dream venue. Also, you have to remember that dreams rarely become reality. My wedding was nothing like what I had dreamed of, but I still loved it because it was real and tangible and actually happened.
Does it suck that the venue you have loved forever is out of your price range? Sure. But you just have to push it from your mind and keep reminiding yourself that now that you aren’t stuck on this one place you have the chance of finding something even better.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Oh that sucks, is there anything they could do to get the price down – different date, reduced package?
I had thought the venue of our first date would be awesome to have our wedding at, and that was way out of our price range too. Luckily a friend had viewed it for her wedding and mentioned the price before I got engaged so I hadn’t got my heart set on it. When we did go to view I was able to focus on the negatives.
We ended up picking somewhere totally different so it never felt like a poor immitation, what type of venue was this one? Maybe view something very different next then it’s harder to compare.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
I’m sorry, that is a bummer! My favorite venue was also way over budget. Honestly, it’s better to spend less on the venue and be able to have great food, bar, and overall experience for you and your guests. In the end that’s what will make the wedding, not the location.
Post # 5
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129 posts
Blushing bee
freckles071611: third definition of a Dream: a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.
…everyone is entitled to a dream, and this venue was mine. If I had more money this is where I would be getting married. I would love to get married in Hawaii too, but that’s never happening… it’s a dream…….
Post # 6
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129 posts
Blushing bee
yorkshirerose: It’s a large banquet hall, so all inclusive pacakges are the only way to go, I also chose the cheapest package as I expected it would be a bit pricey, but was not expecting what I chose. And unfortunately I cannot change the date as other events have been planned around the day.
I am planning on looking at something completely different like you said, so that I can’t compare them at all.
Post # 7
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Newbee
Aww I’m so sorry I know how that feels 🙁 sort of. I always imagined my family church, hubby was completely against it, so I didn’t get married in the church and didn’t have the church bells I imagined, but u know my wedding became my new dream wedding
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
missnicolemcg: Um, okay. I never said that people weren’t entitled to dreams, but when it comes time to actually plan a wedding you need to be okay that your dream won’t become a reality. Because lets face it, they rarely do because your reality now involves someone else and their ideas and wants and dreams, so compromise is needed.
I am sure there are many couples/brides on here who had a dream wedding but they didn’t get their dream, but rather something that could be seen as something even better. They got to marry the love of their life at a wedding that wasn’t just some fantasy.
So like I said, it sucks you can’t afford your dream venue, but you can now allow yourself to put that venue behind you and find something that may be even better.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I am getting married in an apartment party room, not romantic at all. But cheap!
If you could think of how to save that money, I would go for it. think of ways to earn extra money towards it, is your date correct? June 2018? You have 3 years…
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Post # 10
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140 posts
Blushing bee
The same thing happened to me just last week after I inquired with the venue I’ve had my heart set on for the last year and it’s way too expensive. It was eveything I’ve envisioned for my wedding and I love that everything was included even the DJ. It felt like such a weight off my shoulders to not have to worry about all of that. Now I’m starting to look into other places that I would have to get more of the things myself like catering and linens but in the end I may be able to save a bit of money if I shop right. Good luck bee.