Post # 1
Good morning and happy Monday, wedding bees!!
I am new to the board and very excited to be here. I have been lurking and finally joined – you ladies give some wonderful advice.
I am not engaged yet, but S/O and I are officially preparing. From the beginning, I’ve known that I loved the emerald cut diamond. And I have tried on plenty of rings to establish that this is the cut for me. I tried on a few round cuts to satisfy SO’s curiousity of how it would look on me, but he now too, loves the emerald cut. This is the ring/style that we both fell in love with:
This band isn’t the band I would pair the ring with, I would likely find another diamond band (emerald cut or baguette) to pair with this 3-stone emerald cut e-ring. Do you think that would suit nicely? The ring shown is a 2 carat CZ center (would be replacing with a diamond) and the cttw of the setting was 3/8.
So, here’s my predicament. S/O says I can get another diamond wedding band before we get married, but his heart is set on us getting matching yellow gold Cartier love bands. He is a minimalist – does not like diamonds, platinum, titanium, or white gold. He doesn’t wear rings at all, actually. But he loved the way the Cartier love looked on his finger and I personally really loved it too. It does, however, already look similar to the promise ring her bought me (it is also yellow gold, with the screw imprint, but it has pave diamonds)
Here is where the problem lies: I don’t think the two will couple well together. First, it’s a matter of the band’s thickness, then of course the shape of the emerald, and then also the mixing of metals (white gold and yellow gold.)
I love the engagement ring and have fallen in love with the style. And I adore S/O for the very romantic thought of matching bands. I’m looking for your input. Thoughts on this? I was thinking I could just wear them on separate hands, or alone.
Post # 2
Personally I find the Cartier band to be hideous and I’m not into the premise behind it either. Also nothing on this earth could induce me to pair it with that gorgeous engagement ring. Keep looking, you have time.
Post # 3
skunktastic : Yes, definitely have plenty of time to search. I appreciate your input, thank you!
Post # 4
Here is another photo of the selected engagement ring, sans wedding band:
Post # 5
I really like the combination you posted, but like PP I’m not keen on the Cartier ring. The sentiment of matching rings is sweet and all, but you’re the one who has to wear it. Maybe you could get it for occasions when you don’t want to wear an engagement ring and diamond band?
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
While I appreciate your SO’s sentiment… he found a ring that he likes for HIM and you found a ring that you like for YOU. They do not need to be the same ring. Matching wedding bands are great for some couples, when they agree on the style. If they don’t, I don’t think you need to compromise the style you want in order to match your future-FI. Ask him if he’d be okay with you both having different wedding bands (he’d be wearing his as a standalone, so there’s nothing to match with and the Cartier band is just more his style, while you have a dream ring that really doesn’t go with the Cartier band, and it doesn’t need to). The rings are enough of a symbol.
Post # 7
I don’t see anything wrong with the Cartier band, but also don’t love it, but you loving it is what’s important. Fi doesnt wear rings either and isn’t into bling, but he did like a substantial ring, so we are getting him a 8mm wide, 14k yellow gold wedding band with milgrain edges. Mine is different in that its going to be a 5 stone, 14k yellow gold ring, just with milgrain edges to sort of match them up.
Our rings are supposed to be ready this week and I’m getting antsy enough that I picked up this eBay cz for fun. It’s super cute and similar to your style, so I thought I’d show it to you beside my sapphire e ring and you might get a kick out of it lol.
Post # 8
anabolina : I love that, that is so exciting! Congratulations to you both. Your fiance sounds like my S/O. He likes a thick, plain yellow gold band. I am trying to get him to take a look at Cartier’s other bands because he really hasnt tried anything else on other than the “love” collection.
I love that emerald cut you have on. Just gorgeous. Your sapphire is also beautiful! I have a very similar styled ring that was passed onto me from my mother, but it is diamond instead of sapphire. 🙂
Post # 9
Moonrise : Thank you very much. I agree. Although I too love the sentiment… I need to choose a band that will match with my ring. Like you said, I can always wear the Cartier band separately!
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
I absolutely love your engagement ring. I love emerald cut rings. I think they’re so classy. Like some other bees though. I don’t understand the Cartier rings. I think they’re cute but I don’t think the price tag is cute! Haha. Bascially, I think they’re just way overpriced. I do think it would be hard to match one of their bands with an ering and not totally wash it out. If I had your engagement ring, I would want to find a daintier band to go with it.
Your Fiance could always buy the Cartier band now and maybe for your 5 year anniversary or something you can get the matching one? I find a lot of women start wearing just a band after a while.
Post # 11
Try them on together before you write it off, it might look better than you think! I actually think the squareness and substantial size of the emeralds could pair nicely with a thick-ish squared-off gold band. The screws on the love band, I dunno, that’s more a matter of taste I guess.
I’m biased though because I love my white gold e-ring + yellow gold band combo, and yes I got the yellow gold band to match hubby haha.
Post # 12
AMarie_ : thank you! I absolutely love my sapphire and don’t usually like a lot of bling, but kept gravitating to 5-7 stone bands with it, so I’m just going with it. Overall like the idea of matching some elements of the rings while allowing each to be unique.
TBH, I think fi will probably wear his siilicone band more after the wedding anyway. I gave him a set of arua silicone bands and have my own matching set. His say forever on the inside and mine say always. Fi loves cooking and lifting weights, both of which are activities he would take his ring off for, so I though I might give him the silicone band to get in practice for wearing a band and so he could have a silicone band he could wear when he couldnt wear the metal bands. He hasn’t removed it since putting it on Saturday, so I think he likes it 🙂
Post # 13
Wow bee, the ring you chose is beautiful!! I really don’t think the Cartier band would go with that ring AT ALL – it is much too thick and I think it clashes. My fiancé and I did not choose matching wedding bands – we went with what we both personally liked since it’s something we’ll be wearing every day.
Anyway, I happened to pick out a band that has round and baguette diamonds so I thought I’d share! Keep in mind the ring is 3 sizes too large for my finger haha it’s all they had in store for me to try.
Post # 14
If your SO really wants the matching Cartier bands, maybe you could wear it on your right hand?
Post # 15
AMarie_ : I would definitely try on some of the simpler bands at Cartier just to see. I personally think the Cartier love line is pretty casual. All my friends and I have rings or bracelets either given to us from our parents or we received as gifts from a loved one. It’s pretty casual in my ring and not typically considered wedding grade, so maybe I’m biased. Agree with a different poster that using it as a RHR would be better, as it looks classic as a stand alone piece without detracting from your engagement ring!