Post # 1
I haven’t been a part of this message board for very long but I already feel like you guys are my friends.
Some of you may have read my post about my bf agreeing to go ring shopping on monday. Well monday rolled around and he “forgot” that football was on. needless to say I was very hurt but he promised we would go today and make a date out of it. (dinner and ring shopping) Well I’m sitting here at home, crying, because we didnt go ring shopping today either. We went to dinner and told me that he and some of his buddies were going to throw the football at 8. My heart hurts so bad I dont even know what to do.
My boyfriend has made it very clear the priorities he has chosen and I am clearly not at the top at this point.
I hate to do this but I am gonna leave the boards because I can’t keep doing this to myself. Hoping that this 28 year old boy will grow up and realize that I’m not going to stick around waiting forever. I have stopped living for myself and I feel like I am constantly wondering and waiting, which doesn’t feel right for me anymore.
I’m writing this because you guys are such an awesome group of women and I wish all of you the best. Hopefully I will be around again soon, but for now I gotta start living again.
thanks yall for all your support.
Post # 3
I’m sorry to hear that 🙁 Best wishes love!
Post # 4
Awww ((hugs))!! I think you are making the right move by taking a step back and re-evaluating your situation. It’s very hard to be so bombarded with all this wedding and bridal stuff when you’re playing a waiting game. I wish you all the best, and hope to see you back here very soon! 🙂
Post # 5
I understand where you are coming from and I do think that you need to live your life for yourself!
However, I must say that we will miss you on the boards and I will miss you as my workout buddy but I understand that being on the boards makes you have engagement brain and forget everything else!
– Keep up the good work with the shred and if you want to pop on just to tell me how you are doing with every thing I would love to hear it!!!!!!!
I wish you all the best!!!!!
Post # 6
((hugs)) I understand your reasons for leaving but I am sad :(…. Promise you’ll come back around to let us know how you are. Remember that this board is more about weddings (those of us in this section aren’t even engaged :P) it’s about a group of women coming together to support and sometimes disagree but always have the other person’s best interest at heart. We are here to cry with you laugh with you get mad with you and congratulate you… Sigh…. as far as the beau for him it’s just another day he probably doesn’t realize how much it means to you. Or he may be afraid that you will pick out a 8 bajillion dollar ring and fall in love with it and he’ll have to break your heart because he can’t afford it. Why not tell him that you don’t really want to go ring shopping and that you’ll send him pictures of styles that you’d like to see. Then let him know that you haven’t tried any on so you don’t really know what anything looks like on and leave it at that. Big Bummer for him changing the plans… ((hugs))
Post # 7
i’m so sorry 🙁 we’ll miss you!! good luck sorting through things…
Post # 8
Thanks guys, and I really mean it…yall are a great group of women. It’s going to be hard to stay away lol.
Post # 9
Aww.. I understand completely. I don’t want to discourage you from posting (or anyone, ever) but when you’re surrounded by wedding ideas & brides it can become completely overwhelming…
We’ll be here when you decide to come back 🙂
Post # 10
((Hugs)) we’ll all be here WHEN (not if) you come back. We’ll miss you, good luck!!
Post # 11
Awww, I’m sorry. That must be so frustrating. I really think you’re doing the right thing by standing up for yourself, being strong, and not settling for him prioritizing football over you constantly.
Good luck getting everything sorted out…I hope a break from WB helps clear your head! ((hugs))
Post # 12
I’m so sorry, you will be missed on the boards. I wish I checked this last night because we would have had a lot to talk about. I had a heart to heart with my Boyfriend or Best Friend and it didn’t go very well. Needless to say, I am going to keep any WB postings light while I figure out what’s going on. I hope things work themselves out!
Post # 13
aww, i’m sorry to hear that! but i wish you nothing but the best! ::hugs::
Post # 14
Good for you for sticking up for yourself and not waiting for something that might not be right. The Hive will be here when you get back 🙂
Post # 15
I just wanted to say that I hope you all get things figured out!! I was in a situation for a very long time with my 28 year old “child” and know how horrible it is. He proposed to me in 2005, but I don’t think he was really ready. Every time I brought up picking a date, all he would say is “why so soon?” and other things to keep putting it off. And I had already asked my girls to be BMs and everything. We were living together at the time, and this went on for 3 years!!!!!! I finally moved out, we broke up and I gave the ring back and told him to give it back when he was serious. He ended up moving back in with me, then we bought a house, I have a NEW ring and a real, set in stone wedding date. And he even talks about having kids soon, which before, he wanted to wait until he was like 40 for! In my case anyway, when I quit putting up with his crap and lived for me – that’s when he realized what he was losing and it made him grow up – real quick.
Just wanted to tell you this, so that even when he is acting this way, you know there is hope that things can change!
Regardless of what yall decide to do, I think things will work out in for the best in the end. Good luck!!!