- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So yesterday was my mom’s birthday.
We were having a birthday dinner for her (parents, myself, my brother, his wife and niece).
So I am the baker of the family and spent 3 hours baking and decorating a cake for my mom and then another hour cleaning up from it.
My brother also texts me asking me to pick up dinner (about $70) and he will give me his portion at dinner. Husband and I are on a tight budget as we have a lot of school debt and are trying to pay it down. We budget for everything. And noone mentioned I was going in on dinner (I thought I was providing the cake and that was my contribution). So I called my dad and he expects my brother and myself to be SPLITTING the bill for 5 adults and a child for the get together, total os $35 for myself. I explained to my dad out finances (he already knows) and said I will do it but in the future I need to know so I can budget for these things.
SO I go get the dinner (take-out). On my way to my parents I get cut off and have to slam on my breaks…and the cake which is in a open box as I realized too late it woouldn’t fit in my carrier goes flying and lands face down in my front seat completely ruining it. And now I have icing all over the floor in my front seat I have to clean up, and no cake for my mom.
So I pull into the supermarket parking lot and yes, I am crying out of frustration…the fact that I spend all day baking it and now I have to clean this up. I call my mom to tell her and ask her if she wants me to buy a new cake…she hears me crying and goes “Jesus MissJewels, how are you going to handle anything in life is you cry over cake, just get over here and stop it”. Not a “that sucks, its okay” or a “its okay hun just come on over”, but that comment in a harsh tone.
So I get to my parents house with the food, not in the best mood, drop the pizza off, then go back outside to cool off and clean my car. My dad then decides to confront me about how can I ever handle anything if I get SOOO upset over a cake. I told him I was just pissed off and needed to clean it up and I will be fine in a few minutes…but no, he kept going on and on about how I should have never gotten upset or cried in the first place…even though I told him I cry out of frustration and I was just frustrated at the situation.
Wasn’t good enough, he had to tell me how there was something wrong with me and how I couldn’t handle anything based on me telling him about giving me a heads up when money is involved and crying over the cake.
And now my mom is mad at me that I got so upset in the first place and didn’t show up with a smile on my face.
OK RANT OVER!
Everyone else I have told this too gave me a hug and said “awww that sucks”…why the hell couldn’t my parents do that! Even my brother said it to me yesterday and said he would keep finances in mind for me in the future!