(Closed) Just a rant…its long..

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6040 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

@missjewels:  I would have been crabby and irritated and upset too. Totally understandable. When you spend time making something (like a cake) and it gets ruined, especially before it made it to its destination, it’s very frustrating. I love to cook and my favorite part is getting to set it out and have peole enjoy it. So if I spent a lot of time and love making something and then it got ruined and I didn’t get to give it to my family I would be super disappointed. don’t let them make you feel crazy for being upset. You had every right to feel how you did. And it is very inconsiderate to expect people to pay for dinner without telling them. sounds like maybe it just wasn’t planned out well.

Post # 4
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@missjewels:  Ugh, I am very, very sympathetic toward this. Just yesterday I was telling my dad on the phone that I was stressed out about my PhD classes and planning the wedding, and he had a very similar response. “There’s always going to be stress in your life, you need to get used to it, you’re way too sensitive if you’re letting this stuff get to you,” etc, etc.

I try to remind myself that my dad thinks he is being helpful, even though he is deeeefinitely not, lol. It’s out of some misguided view of love, as hard as that it to believe.

And I try to keep my complaining to my Fiance, because he is amazing.

Anyway, hugs! I would have been crushed about the cake too!! Hopefully it was an okay night after all.

Post # 5
4856 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Woww holey shit.

My mom used to make comments like that. As if making me feel stupid or guilty for how I was feeling was going to help me. It sounds to me like you were crying out of sheer frustration. I think when they say things like that though, they’re trying in their own…uh.. not so thoughtful way.. to help. I don’t think they know how hurtful it is. I think there are people out there who really just don’t know how to react to someone who’s upset. My parents sure don’t. I hear you. 

Sorry about your cake 🙁 It was so nice of you to go to all of that trouble for your mom though. 

Post # 6
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m so sorry that happened. I would have been frustrated and in tears, too. 

When my dad starts in on me, I just leave (like, get in the car and drive away). I know it was your mom’s birthday, but in general, you’re an adult and don’t deserve to be treated like that. Don’t stand for it, and they’ll either change their behavior, or you won’t have to pick up the tab on too many more dinners.

Post # 7
3025 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I might cry about your cake!!!!

but you weren’t; you were crying b/c you’re stressed over money. AT least that’s what my inner therapist is telling me.


Post # 9
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@missjewels: @howsweetitis:

I’m starting to think that all parents are the same!  Both my own parents and DH’s SAY THE EXACT KIND OF THINGS. They think they’re being helpful, but it just frustrates us further and makes us clam up.

And they all wonder why we don’t share more often.

Post # 10
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@missjewels:  PLEASE dont let your parents and their harsh criticism of you change your emotional outlet. Im a crier too. Its my way to cleanse and deal with whatever issue I’m facing. Well crying and the shooting range (not at the same time though lol!) 


Seriously that is who you are and you seem to have accepted it as a part of who you are so dont change. Its better than you going around kitting people with your car (or whatever is handy!)




Post # 11
12246 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@missjewels:  Anyone who doesn’t understand the pain of dropping a cake you invested time and skill in is cearly not a baker. I feel your pain 100%!

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