Post # 1
I have this “frenemy” I went to school with. We were actually really good friends at one point but basically he’s just very hypocritical and fake. For example, he expects his wife to be a virgin but he’s solicited the services of a prostitute. No huge blowup end to the friendship, more just like a mellow drifting apart when I realized he wasn’t who he pretended to be, expedited by graduation. (He’s four years older than me but I graduated from university a full year prior.)
Well wouldn’t you know it, he texts me after hearing that I got engaged. To say Congrats? Nope, not his style. Instead “‘Bout time.” The text conversation was basically me defending myself, my relationship, and my fiance. This “frenemy” said things along the lines of “It’s not really like it matters since you’ve been living together,” in addition to “Aren’t you rushing, you’re way too young to get married,” and my personal favorite, “So he finally decided to buy the cow?”
Fast forward 1.5 months. Mid-August he texts me to tell me he’s gotten engaged. I facebook-stalk the guy to see if it’s true (and because I’m nosy and want to be immature and pissy with him the way he was with me). I didn’t even know he was dating anyone so it was really a surprise. They got together in late April. And he proposed mid-August, without a ring. I asked him about it and he said that he’s getting her CZ when he can afford it and maybe they’ll upgrade later. He went on to say that my ring was gaudy and tacky and probably fake.
I mean no disrespect to anyone who was proposed to or proposed to someone without a ring or with a CZ ring. I think that the most important part of a proposal is the commitment to one another that both people are making. It is not my intention to offend anyone and I apologize if I have.
My point is just that this guy is a certifiable nutjob. This is the sort of person that just isn’t ready for marriage. I always find it humorous when he contacts me, I’m not sure what goes through his mind but it’s always a laugh for me.
Oh the craziness…
Post # 3
Ummmm block this person from all arenas of your life: Facebook, phone calls, texting. Your relationship is clearly not healthy and you don’t need someone beating up on you for his own sport. That’s just awful.
Post # 4
wow nut job sounds pretty accurate! Sounds like he is jealous too
Post # 5
I don’t understand why you continue to converse with him.
Personally I’d cut all ties. it does not sound healthy for either of you.
Post # 6
No offense, but he seems like a douche… Ive recently learned to clean all the negative people out of my life and stick with the ones who are “real” and positive!! Seems like you wouldnt be losing much by getting rid of this turd! He obviosly gets under your skin and that really isnt worth the hassle.
Post # 7
I completely agree with what the other folks are saying. For the love of all that is holy, stop talking to this guy. It sounds like the only relationship you have with this guy is a negative one.
Post # 8
You don’t sound like a mean person at all! This guy sounds like a wackadoo – and probably a jealous one. I know the impulse to keep this guy on the fringe of your life for laughs is strong, but in my experience people like this end up causing more harm than laughs, and you run the risk of stooping to his level.
Post # 9
It’s time to get this person out of your life. Clearly, you would rather not have him in your life and this random texting/talking every once in a while probably just sets you off again (I know that this would happen to me too!). It will be better for you if you just block him from your life and forget about him!
Post # 10
This guy sounds like a real waste of space. Seriously, you say you’ve drifted from him, but why not drift a little further? It’s not proposing w/o a ring or anything like that, it’s just that he seems like a judgmental drama queen of a loser.
Post # 11
I can’t stand people like that….he’s like an energy vampire….he sucks all the good energy out of you and leave you feeling like crap. Do ignore him, he’s not worth your time.
pebble is right, he’s a turd!
Post # 12
Ugh. Distance yourself from him and enjoy your lovely life!
Post # 13
Oh the drama! He is definitely a creep and needs to be fired from your life. I recently fired my 2 best friends (twins) from my life and it felt AMAZING.
I am not knocking you for listening to his banter though. It can be quite entertaining. I am still guilty of looking at the twins’ FB pages and laughing to myself about their daily crazy lives. I say continue stalking his page for your daily humor, but don’t return his texts. – – Funny stuff
Post # 14
what an asshat. hmm… can i say that on here? because he is. jealous hater who doesn’t deserve and probably has no happiness so he tries to bring everyone else down. he’s as transparent as a ghost! don’t worry about trying to defend yourself, he’s just looking dumb. shake the dust from your feet.