(Closed) Just a vent… disappointed in my best friend of 25 years

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Bleh. Sorry she’s being like this. Is this really just all of a sudden. or were there hints to this earlier on?

Sorry that she may not make it – but if she’s really not a good friend, maybe it’s best to only have those that REALLY care there.

Post # 5
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

this totally sucks- but how cool is it that her kids are making such an effort to be there??

Post # 7
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Well, balls. 

…At least that’s what I’ve been saying when people who are important to me have declined (albeit, none of them are my BFFs for 25 years). It really sucks. 

I don’t know if this will help you feel any better but you know, sometimes people go through phases–especially when they make dramatic life changes (like getting a divorce and moving xcountry to live with a much younger guy). Sometimes, when people “find themselves” they’re so into the “new them” that they sort of distance themselves from the past–not forever, but for the time being until they find the balance between new them and old them. She also might be feeling guilt deep down about abandoning her children and since you are close to them, maybe she’s embarrassed? I’m not saying that her behavior is excusable at all, just offering an explanation. 

I do think it’s wonderful that your family and her family are so close and I think that while they won’t make up for her absence, they will definitely make your wedding special and loving as it deserves to be. 

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