Member- jldown2
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
I’ve been more than blessed as far as wedding planning goes so far–relatively supportive families, things falling into place. I just had to come mope a little about a guest who can’t come. We used to be best friends–we grew up next door and I’ve literally known her since the day I was born. We grew apart, as happens, but I always expected and could count on her to be there for the “big things.” She sent me a Facebook message (?!?–which is better than not replying, I guess) to say that she can’t come. . .because she has to work. What? I sent out Save-The-Date Cards at the beginning of summer–it’s not like she couldn’t have asked off or switched with someone. She lives less than an hour away and gets off before the ceremony even starts! Geh.
I guess it’s always hard to realize that people don’t care about you as much as you care about them. She’s also become pretty self-involved lately. She started dating someone with a lot of money (good for her), he bought them a house, and they travel a lot. Her sister (who’s coming to the wedding) is having a baby. After asking when they were planning the baby shower and choosing a different weekend for the bridal shower, we find out that they had switched to “our weekend”–and were irked at us for “taking” that weekend! (That was super-unclear, but oopie doopie). When they sent out the baby shower invites, they just sent one to my mom “and family.” I haven’t lived there for almost a decade!
She has no way to know that this has made me sad and I don’t want to really start drama about it. I know there’s not much anyone here can say, I just kind of wanted to vent. She used to be such a fun, awesome person–now it feels like our family isn’t worth the light of day to her. But–I am grateful to have so many close family and friends who ARE coming–traveling and taking off work to do so.