(Closed) Just a vent – NWR

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

WTH?  SOO uncalled for!  I have such little tolerance for unprofessionalism when on the job, whether it be a rude waitress or person at the cash register.  You’re getting paid, save your attitude when you’re off the clock. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Saying “You’re just too fat to go get one” was rude.  Definitely.  I will not argue that.  And to mutter about your being in an office surrounded by pens wasn’t correct.

However, he WAS right in the fact that it would’ve been easier for you to give him a pen rather than give him attitude.  Especially when not having a pen coud’ve been something that is simply out of his control.  The last person to sign for a package could’ve taken his last pen and perhaps he didn’t realize it.

You didn’t respond to his asking for a pen with kindness.  You served him an attitude.  And, while it wasn’t right of him, he served it back.  What’s the saying?  You reap what you sow.  You get what you give.  Honey instead of vinegar gets you further?  If you would’ve said nothing and handed him a pen, this wouldn’t have happened. 

Any time I go to sign in at someone’s office for a meeting, inevitably, there’s no pen at the front desk.  Why?  Because people inadvertently walk off with them.  I’ve had to ask for pens many times to sign into buildings.  On that note, if I counted all the pens I’ve accidentally taken from places I’ve been to, that couriers have handed me, etc. … well, needless to say, there’s never a lack of pens in my house!  lol!  

And, he’s right – you do have pens in your office.  He just happened to not have one.  I doubt that he premeditated not having a pen.  He probably comes prepared with a pen or two, but once those are inadvertently taken by the people who sign for their packages, that’s that.  More than likely, this kid’s pen gets taken all the time and, by the time he needs one, he realizes it’s gone. 

Even I have offered someone a pen to have them walk off with it. 

Yes – I agree, let the employers know that the kid’s calling you fat is unacceptable.  But also realize that the kid doesn’t have the convenience of reaching into a desk drawer to pull out a pen for you when he’s delivering. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

His remark was totally uncalled for. Wouldn’t it be easier to leave a pen at the front so you didn’t have this problem? You likely would need the kind that was nailed down as otherwise it would be gone the first day.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@BanditGirl: Agreed. He was rude, but the OP wasn’t quite an angel about it, either…

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Not to nit-pick, but if they’re the ones needing a signature for something for THEIR job/delivery, it should be their responsibility to have a pen on them and make sure it doesn’t get walked off with, and have plenty to spare if/when it does happen.  Every time I sign for something, the delivery person ALWAYS has a pen.  If they didn’t, they would be sh*t out of luck since I have to go down two flights of stairs and up again to get one at my office

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Keep a jar of cheap 10 cent pens at your desk in a cup? Keep your good ones in your drawer?

The fat comment was completely, utterly uncalled for. People are asses

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What a little douchebag shit. Didn’t his mother teach him anything?? (like, oh I dunno, MANNERS?! I’ve heard they’re kinda useful. And important).

That being said, I know “fat” comments sting like no other. I used to deal with them by saying – ‘if all you have to insult me is my weight, then I must be doing pretty well’ . But yeah. Doesn’t take away the sting, really.

I’m sorry that happened to you. Ugh. So shitty.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@awakemysoul: oh brutal! Kids these days *laugh* Good on you for calling the company though, I mean he could have waited to say a comment like that later but chose to do it when you could hear, little jerk!

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In life, you can waste much time  discussing  who is responsible for certain actions, or you can just do it and end the bickering and the hassle. I doubt that there would be screaming objections from the other law firm if you attached a pen to the side of the desk- one of those sets with the pen on a long chain. You don’t have to drill into the desk. It attaches with a sticky backing.

Sometimes it is easier to beg for forgiveness, than to ask for permission.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That was rude of him, but I agree with PP to have a jar of pens at the front desk

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ahh, I love the chained pens!  Definitely saves the headache.  If you have a jar of cheap pens, those will disappear SO fast.  We have a comment box for our evening events, and the pens would disappear every time even when there were no comment cards filled out.  I started using old pencils left over from our school programming, and they seem to not be such a  hot commodity 🙂  My life is a roller coaster, I know….

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@bebefly & @jenter: THIS!!!

I’m sorry that kid was a little shit to you – most young people in service really don’t have manners anymore. go through the drive thru and you’ll have a little bastard shove a slimy drink in your direction without so much as a hello or thank you. Kudos to you for trying to call him out, the pen is his responsibility and his attitude is uncalled for!

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