- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Another thread that mentioned sex offenders got me thinking about one of my good friends who has been dating a sex offender for 4 years now.
She isn’t that happy with him because he’s just not that great of a boyfriend, but I just can not get over that she is dating him. She met him while he was on work release from jail. Meaning he could only leave to go to work. She mentioned to me that he was an offender which was a red flag obviously. Then, she mentioned that he smacked her ass at work which was another red flag. I mean, the guy’s in jail for sexual offense and he’s at work smacking his coworkers bums?
I guess they flirted around a lot more and a few weeks after that they started dating.
I told her my feelings about the whole situation, but she is the type that loves to help people overcome their issues and gives everyone a second chance.
The thing is, he told her that the reason he was in jail is because he smacked some girls on the ass. Ummmmmmm…….. NOPE!!
He was charged with indecent aggravated assaul. Tier 3. (I looked it up) The definition is “a person who engages in penetration, however slight, of the genitals or anus of a complainant with a part of the person’s body for any purpose…..” without the person’s consent, or with a minor. YUCK.
The minor thing also makes me nervous because this guy has an ex wife who won’t let him be around her or the kids. Now that doesn’t necessarily mean he did anything to them, his exwife could just be weirded out that he molested someone and not want him to be part of their lives. But it still rubs me the wrong way.
My friend, who is incredibly intelligent, believes his ass-smacking story. I have had my ass smacked twice by random strangers at bars. Was I pissed? Yes! But I didn’t report it to the police because it didn’t seem worth my time. (I had no idea what the dudes names were or any of that and I didn’t want to ruin my night over it). And I don’t think anyone would go to the police, and make something worse than it was just to get someone in trouble. Basically my friend believes that some girl was really upset that he smacked her ass so she told the police that he fingered her or whatever to get him in more trouble. I know that deep down she knows that’s complete BS, but she will not admit it.
There are certain things he’s said that also creep me out. When they first started dating he told her all the time how “firm” her tits were. Uh, I know his ex wife was older (Whoops, forgot to mention this guy is 15 years older than my friend) but still. Coming from someone who may or may not have done something with a minor I wouldn’t want to hear how he loves the firmess of my breasts.
Once I stayed at her place to visit. He was there too and we watched a movie together, then I slept in a spare bedroom. The next day when he was gone she told me he tried to finger her while they were on the couch while I was sitting on the other side of the couch watching a movie! UGH. I hate PDA in general, but seriously can you wait until you get alone to try to get your jollies off? And he also apparently told her that I could sleep in the bedroom with them 😉 ;). Okay, if one of my other friends boyfriends said this, I probably would take it as a stupid joke, but coming from him it creeps me out.
She also found out that along with “smacking girls in the ass” he used to expose himself to random people sometimes.
I just don’t get how this stuff has never creeped her out. I honestly am not around them enough to know if he’s done anything like it again, and it kind of seems like he hasn’t had any issues since being released from jail. I just wanted to vent because I find this whole situation of her dating him to be crazy.
I always kind of thought they would break up because of other things (He will play video games with all his spare time, she has an awesome job, he has a minimum wage job and always has to borrow money from her, he isn’t emotionally supportive to her at all.) I guess I’m just upset that it’s starting to seem like she’s going to marry him. They’ve talked about wedding plans and everything. I honestly don’t know what I will do if they get married. I guess I’ll show up at the wedding and just make a speech that’s centered around her. BLEH…. okay sorry that was long, just had to get that out!