Post # 1
“I don’t think you should wear colored wedding shoes, I think that’s going to look dated in a few years.”
Says my aunt who got married in ’89 and had humungous poofy sleeves, teased hair for days, and one of those little circlette crown veils. But she thinks that purple shoes are going to look too trendy..
And whenever I say something about their sleeves or those platform cakes or the cascadin silk florals, my mom and my aunt are all like “it was the style then!!”
So now that arguement isn’t valid? I can’t pick something I like just because other people are doing it now too and thus will look too dated? Honestly, I don’t even need colored shoes. I’ll probably go with the goldish ones that we both like, but it’s just the idea! If it isn’t what is being done in a few years, who cares? Everything goes through cycles. And I do think colored shoes are here to stay.
How is it that everyone around you becomes RIDICULOUS when you become engaged? Has anyone else had double standard criticisms coming their way?
Post # 3
Maybe she is speaking from experience, because she knows what it’s like to be teased for a dated wedding, and is trying to stop you from going through the same?
I think coloured shoes are great though, for the record.
Post # 4
Just do what you want to do, trendy-ness be damned! If you want colored shoes, 100 chalkboard signs and cupcakes galore, do it! Everyone’s wedding WILL look dated at some point, everything down to photography styles and technology will change.
Post # 5
@sara_tiara: That’s what I was thinking, actually, like she wishes hers were more classic. But she has a very judgemental-condescending tone usually so the help isn’t really coming through!
And of all things to worry about, shoes is not one of them. Yes, we’ll have some pictures of them. But will it be something that every one sees and sets a tone for the wedding? No way! This is one area that I’m not worrying about what anyone says!
Post # 6
@spotted_giraffe: psh- I WANT my wedding to look dated. Look how amazing the 70’s wedding pictures look. That’s what I want in 20+years.
Post # 7
I think it’s hard to get away from a wedding looking dated…simply from just the clothing aspect! Styles change, dresses and men’s formalwear does, too. Whatever you do, everyone’s wedding is probably going to look dated in 20 or 30 years.
Post # 8
I have never considered wearing anything BUT a colored shoe.
Post # 9
@Mrs_Amanda: Everyone’s wedding WILL look dated at some point, everything down to photography styles and technology will change. +1
There’s no getting around it. ALL of our weddings will be outdated at some point.
Post # 10
@Mrs_Amanda: +1 All weddings are going to look dated to some extent.
Post # 11
for the record I LOVE colored shoes!!!
Post # 12
Dated or not… WHO CARES?!!! Some things will change and go out of style in time no matter what. I think the colored shoes are adorable. If they are dated 20 years from now the real concern is: who caresssss.
Post # 13
Maybe she regrets being trendy, that’s why she’s trying to prevent you from making the mistakes she regrets making. Her photos will stay poofy-sleeved for the rest of her life, and you too may weary of purple shoes even if you don’t expect you will.
It’s your choice to ignore her but I don’t think she meant any harm by it. You may very well love to see yourself as a purple shoe wearing bride for the rest of your life when you look back at the photos. At least it’s just shoes, too. Poofy sleeves are going to be in just about every photo.
I don’t think all weddings look dated, that’s why timeless classics have such appeal.
Post # 14
Everyone’s wedding will look dated years down the road. That is a certainty.
Post # 15
I think you have to ask yourself which is more important to you:
having a wedding that won’t look “dated” in a few years (which, watch out, because they ALL will)
or having a wedding that is true to YOUR (and FI’s) personality.
Post # 16
Even weddings only five years old look dated! I say have fun with it and do what you love! Because if you loved it then, a little part of you always will!