(Closed) Just another BM/friend issue…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do?
    Suck it up and make her a bridesmaid. : (5 votes)
    38 %
    Let her down gently. : (4 votes)
    31 %
    Don't even mention the fact that she won't be in the bridal party. No need to discuss it with her. : (4 votes)
    31 %
    Other (explain) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 4
    Member
    962 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s hard when people grow apart. I would not make this girl my Maid/Matron of Honor, but I would probably make her a bm or at least a reader during the ceremony

    Post # 5
    Member
    4162 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    She didn’t even tell you about the wedding until a few days before, via FB?!  I wouldn’t worry too much about this if that’s how close of a friend she thought of you. 

    I was in a very similar situation. A friend of mine was not asked to be in my party, she assumed she would be and we no longer speak.  I wasn’t too worried about this friendship though, so maybe I’m not the best person to ask.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1489 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wont not be too worried about it… If you dont feel comfortable asking her, there is nothing wrng with that

    Post # 9
    Member
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Do whatever you feel is right. Honestly though, if you already predict drama with her in not asking her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man then who’s to say you won’t experience drama with her when she is a bridesmaid? (If that makes any sense.) Your wedding day should be as drama free as possible. Only ask her if you feel that it will enrich your wedding experience. Good luck! 🙂

    Post # 11
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    28 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t put her in my bridal party. If your guilt is getting the best of you, you could always consider an alternative way to include her, perhaps doing a reading or something. I am the Maid/Matron of Honor in my best friend’s upcoming wedding. She was going through the exact same thing and decided to have her do a reading, that way she felt included.

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