- 10 years ago
yeah. I’ve had quite a few of those. Here’s the old post if you were curious, but this isn’t entirely related.
I know there is utterely NOTHING I can do about this (other than vent on weddingbee…) but I’m just sick of my mom’s immaturity. I was just talking to my 13 year old brother a little bit and he mentioned how Sunday night they are going to stay at my mom’s male-friend’s house before they head to an amusement park Monday morning. I say male friend because while my mom is head over heals for this guy and insists that he’s THE ONE, he has absolutely NO desire to have a romantic relationship with her. He’s not looking to settle down, he doesn’t want a girlfriend right now, etc. Which is perfectly fine. He’s just coming out of a divorce and I honestly think it’s great that he’s so upfront and is honestly with himself and other women. But my mom still insists he’s the one and is hoping and waiting for him to come around. Ok, whatever. So anyway, I asked my brother if he liked going over the male friend’s lake house and he said, no, not really. I asked why, because my mom made it sound like they really enjoyed it, and he said that last time when they were there, the male friend kept complaining until my brother and sister went outside (sister is 16) and then he and my mom proceeded to “do their business” as my brother worded it.
O.M.G! I’m not a prude or religious or anything and I dont feel like a person should have to wait until marriage until they have sex with a person (I didn’t) but I DO believe that they should at least wait until they are in a commited relationship, as that’s what my mom taught me! (well it started out as telling me I should wait until I’m married, but when I came clean about Mr. Joe, she revealed what she really thought and that the individuals should have a loving commited relationship first).
Regardless, she’s just being such a horrible example to my brother and sister. They are at the ages where it’s really important to set boundries with them and teach them about these sort of things, and I just don’t think she’s doing that. I really, really hope that they don’t follow her footsteps. She’s a mother and with that comes certain responsibilities. Ever since my parents got divorced though, she’s just become so much more selfish and rather put herself ahead of her kids, which is really unfortunate. My brother failed a few classes last school year and she didn’t care or try to get after him or bother with it really. If me and my college-aged brother had done that… I don’t even know what sort of trouble we’d be in because we simply were never allowed to get to that point in the first place. She’s not setting any limits for them.
I won’t say anything to her about it, because that’s probably going out of line, but it just really, really bothers me. At the very least can’t she try to keep her behaviors secret or hidden from them?? Besides the fact that it’s setting a bad example, it’s just plain gross to hear and know about your mother doing those things! It’s so inconsiderate.
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. Again.