(Closed) Just as the jealousy goes away, MIL says….

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Aww I’m sorry 🙁 Maybe the first one will be a boy and yours will be a girl or  vice versa. Either way, it doesn’t matter. My ILs have 5 grandchildren and they truly do love them all equally. They treat them all the same. Hopefully your Mother-In-Law will too!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

We’re the first for my family to have a grandbaby, but the second for my husband’s. I’m 100% sure his parents aren’t any less excited for ours then they were for their first. It’s always exciting to have a new baby!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Don’t worry.. as soon as a second grandbaby comes around, the focus is shifted–at least that’s what happened in my experience. Don’t get me wrong, the in-laws love each grandchild equally, but the ‘new baby’ force is strong, and most people get sidetracked, as it were.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Most grandparents get just as excited for the “first” grandchild from each of their children. I’m sure when you have one, they will be over the moon too. Don’t let the jealously eat you up inside, so not worth it. Instead, sip on some fab champagne because you CAN.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s so true what brighteyedgirl is saying… my parents have eight grandchildren and it was special with each of them. Of course people will congratulate them a bit more and whatnot when it’s the “first one,” but the grandparents will love them all equally and be just as excited with each one, I bet!! 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I promise, yours will be just as special to them!  I know how easy it is to feel the jealousy, but I’m sure it wasn’t a slight aimed at you in any way. 

Late last year my SIL had twin boys as the first grandbabies on my husband’s side, a few weeks ago we announced that ours is coming, my Mother-In-Law teared up and got just as excited as before. 

This will be the first one on my side- my mom is so much more excited about a grandbaby than she was over our wedding. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

aw I definitely feel for you! I think it’s totally okay to feel jealous. On FI’s side of the family, there’s one step and one bio (almost 2 y/o). They freaked over him..buy him loads and loads of stuff.

Fiance is one of 3 boys – so you know I’m getting the whole, “Better give us a granddaughter!” speech. Makes me wonder, if we have a boy too, will they even care as much?

Maybe it’s a girl thing – or hormones! Who knows 🙂 You aren’t alone though!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I’m sure she didn’t mean anything bad by it. She’s just excited for her 1st grandchild to get here. I know she’ll love all the following grandkids just as much.

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